When is it not cool to use the B**** word in front of your lady?

Question

This question is mainly for African American men. I had an African American man tell me that "B*****" is a term of endearment (over the weekend). I say women should not be labeled that term unless their actions merit such a label. The guy feels that just because his boys use it when women aren't around, it's OK to use it when they are around (even around his girlfriend). I think it's disrespectful and should not be a label for all women. He feels it's only not OK to use the word when refering to his mother or girlfriend/lady. What do you think?

Answer 1

I don't believe the B word or the N word are ever cool to use in front of anybody. There is nothing endearing about either word. I also don't believe anything can be done to desrve that label.

Answer 2

I think you are right about it being disrepectful. He is sending you a double standard. It's ok to call women a b........but not his mother of girlfriend. He can't have it both ways.....that is a double standard. I say get rid of him; who knows what other bad ideas he has about women. I know you asked mostly african american men but this is a repect issue. Why waste your time on a man that has negitative ideas about women? There are plenty of men out there that don't have to call woman names!

Answer 3

My boyfriend uses the word all the time jokingly. Personally, I find it VERY offensive and it shouldn't be used at all.

Answer 4

I like to be called a ***** because we all are!!! I think calling a girl "women" is disrespectful cuz its do demanding from a guy!

Answer 5

I feel one must not say this to person he love, how he will feel if u'll call him a Bastar*

Answer 6

It is always "NOT COOL" to call your woman down. Only closet homos dis their women by calling her nasty names.