I was once in a relationship but I lost the man because I was not ready for sex.I have been lonely since then.
2006-12-14 02:09:46 · 25 answers · asked by teresa osimon cherma ondiege 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You didn't lose anything. If they can't wait for you then they are not worth wasting your time on.
2006-12-14 02:11:01 · answer #1 · answered by K-E-G 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well, if a man really loves you, he will respect you & wait until you are ready for sex. If he left you because you did'nt have sex with him, then he's a man you definetely do not want to be with.
Yes, sex is important in a relationship, but it does'nt come first. A relationship needs time to grow & mature, helping both to feel comfortable to have sex when the time is right, but when the timing is rushed, it will usually push you closer or push you apart depending on the person your with.
So, although he left you because you were'nt ready, believe me when I say that you'd rather be alone & lonely then to be with a man who values sex alot more then respecting you as a woman.
2006-12-14 10:16:40 · answer #2 · answered by sugarBear 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In my opinion you are better off without him. If he really loved you then he would have understood if you were not ready to have sex.
If you are not ready to have sex it does not mean that you don't know how to love. You can love without having sex. Although usually sex is a part of a relationship. But your partner should understand if you are not ready and try to make you comfortable and relaxed about it and not pressure you.
You are much better off alone than with him. But don't worry, you will not be like that forever. I am a firm believer that there is someone out there for everyone. You can't go out looking for love, love finds you and happens when you are least expecting it x
2006-12-14 10:15:43 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
To say no to Sex, does not mean you didnt know how to love. You were loving perfect. You wernt ready to give yourself over to some guy, just for sex. It was the guys fault for leaving you. He should have respected you for it. Instead he only wanted sex not the girl. It can be a hard stand, not having sex with every guy that wants it. But always remember its your body, you choose when its time. Are you still a virgin? I was a virgin all the way up to my marriage. Then the first time I had Sex, with my true love, husband, it was beautiful and worth a thousand words. I had no guilt of having had sex with a million guys, feeling used or having STD to worry about. I was clean, and sharing it with only my man. You may be lonely now, but just have patience. Most men will want to marry a woman who has saved herself for him.
2006-12-14 10:15:53 · answer #4 · answered by Such A Chicka 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Truthfully I don't see the connection between sex and loneliness. Having an amazing and loving relationship doesn't require you to "put out" by X date in the relationship. Only you can decide when it is right for you to give yourself to your partner and if he/she doesn't understand that, well you then should reconsider your relationship.
As for being alone, have you looked for another partner or are you worried that you might encounter the same issue about having sex before your ready with your next partner?
2006-12-14 10:16:43 · answer #5 · answered by cmok168 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO! You have every right in the world to say no! Your doing the right thing by waiting until YOU are ready! You can love very deeply and still want to remain celebate!Also with all of the diseases going around sexually out there, it is best to limit the number of partners you have in life, not to mention the spiritual significance of the choice you are making! Kudos to you for listening to your inner-voice!When your ready you will know.
2006-12-14 10:15:00 · answer #6 · answered by Chris 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sex is when you get ready and let someone find you that can be patient to wait. He is not worth it, but someone will come along that will respect enough to wait. Sex is a serious thing and everytime you have sex to tie yourself together with that person thats why God made it for married couple only to bring them closer and begin a great bond. God bless you
2006-12-14 10:15:21 · answer #7 · answered by tellthetruth 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok that is dumb, he broke up with you because you wouldnt have sex with him??? Thats called put out or get out and thats not healthy. He obviously dosn't care about you beacuse he would have waited untill you are ready you need to move on and find someone who will accept you for who you are. Go to a singles bar or if you are too young you shouldnt be having sex any way so dont worry about it.
2006-12-14 10:13:24 · answer #8 · answered by laci 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No...Love is not sex. You were right to hold back because you're respecting yourself and waiting to find out if the person is truly good enough for you. Love is more than just sex. Love is selfless, long suffering, and forgiving. Sex is just an act of love. To equate sex with love is too limiting.
2006-12-14 10:18:29 · answer #9 · answered by christian_87_15 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im sorry but thats just a perception, Sex has not much to do with whether u know how to love or not. I think you need to get over that and live a little for yourself, If some guy dumped you cos u didnt want to have sex then that means he didnt think you were worth waitiing for. Get a move on and im sure you' ll find someone who wants to be with you for you, Afterall it wil happen when it has to..............
2006-12-14 10:14:04 · answer #10 · answered by SkilledKid 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no it doesnt mean that at all it just means your not ready and you would never wana have sex if you dont want to have sex, because then you wont enjoy it as much ya know.....but move on from dat a guy will come along dat will be willing to wait on you and when you do have sex you can enjoy it and cherish.....
2006-12-14 10:14:19 · answer #11 · answered by lilnaychulita 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋