i'm 23 years old and i already hate my life?

Question

i'm stuck in a college and a city i hate.i didn't know that the subject i study would be so unintresting.now i can't go back home because i'm afraid that my parents would say i'm irresponsible for spending all their money for nothing.my parents r not rich and they probably won't say anything but they r gonna thing about it and that doesn't hurt any less.i have 3 more years in this college and i don't think i can handle it what sould i do??

Answer 1

You need to talk to your parents about this and tell them how u feel. Maybe taking a break from school right now for u to find yourself would be the best thing to do. Im 23 years old to and i have 2 kids on my own got divorced and in school too. I think i hate me life sometimes too but i talk about my options with my family and friends and it takes time to figure yourself out. Good luck sweetie Go find yourself!

Answer 2

You have more options than you think you do. And give college some time before you decide it's not for you. College was the very best years of my life and it will broaden your horizons life long. You can always change majors, the first two years are all about meeting basic requirements, so it doesn't really get interesting until your junior year. You can also transfer to another school. It takes awhile to get adjusted to any new environment. Guidance counselors are on campus for a reason and can be a great resource. Talk it through with either the counselor or school psychologist before you make a plan. Your parents want what is best for you and it may be a good idea to discuss how unhappy you are with them while you're on christmas break. Good Luck--and don't give up on college!!

Answer 3

Hello,

If you haven't already gotten a notebook or binder where you can keep information that supports your goals and interests, you may want to get one and begin to use that to gather info. about places you'd like to be and things you'd like to do.

On weekends, perhaps you can visit some other cities and get a feel for how you like them and what they have to offer in terms of community, safety, socializing and entertainment.

If there are nearby colleges you think would be a better fit or offer a better experience, begin to visit those colleges when you're finished with classes for the day/week and get to know the campus and the people.

You can also research their transfer procedures to make sure that you have all the needed credits and paperwork to transfer smoothly.

You may even arrange to interview some professors at other colleges during their office hours and ask them questions about their fields and syllabuses.

Most colleges have career centers and counseling centers where you can speak with someone about your concerns and the direction you'd like to go in. There are some assessement tests that can help you to find a good match between your core values/interests/desires/beliefs and potential areas of study and work. You can either take some assessments at the centers or online. Some of the assessements include the Myers-Briggs Type Indicator (MBTI) and the STRONG Interest Inventory Profile.

You can also look at what various careers consist of in the Occupational Handbook at www.bls.gov/oco.

Your college may have a list of alumni in various fields who would be willing to talk to you about their careers.

Another resource may a local small business development center---you may be an entrepreneur at heart and have some great ideas that you can create into successful businesses. Definitely give that a thought.

You can keep your options open, think "outside of the box". College is just a resource for information and experience. You won't be there forever but perhaps you would thrive better in a different environment.

Answer 4

I think you should be honest with your parents. Talk to them about your frustrations with school and where you are living.
Is there another town that you know you like? Have you already considered moving? College has to be somthing that you are ready for and that you want to take on. Life is meant to be pleasurable, but there is the balance. If you are not going to take on an education, then be prepared to work hard. If your willing to work hard, then go for it. quit school and move on in your life to doing things that you want to do as long as their within the legal limits. Be wise about the decisions you make and you'll do just fine.
I never liked school myself and hated the town i lived in as well. I'm now 35. I decided to go live my life, have a good time, work hard, save money and now I have a great life, and I have a career. No college education would have gotten me the on hands experience that I got from working, though having that education would have made me a little bit more money in the long run.
Anyways, I'm married, have a child on the way, have money in the bank and have had so much fun in my 20's that I have the best stories to tell my grandchildren when they come along.
This is your life. Do whats right for you.

Answer 5

First thing to do is to chill out. You need to just take a day to think about things. What is it that you hate about your school and the city. I can relate a little. You need to talk to your parents because you have 3 years left to spend their money. Maybe you should think about attending another college. Don't give up on school itself. Get rid of the negative attitude and start looking into other schools. Don't mess up where you are because you will be leaving a bad trail. As far as your subject, talk to someone at school. The bottom line is you have to communicate to everyone involved now before it gets any worse. But believe me,it will get better.

Answer 6

It's only been one semester. Talk to a counselor about taking some personality and career choice tests, then try some internships or part-time jobs in a field you might be interested in or fit with.

As for school, go take some general education classes at a community college, they are transferable when you know what you want to do. Plus with the money you save, you should travel and find a campus you'll want to transfer to/ a city to live in.

Your parents: they want you to go to school to get a decent job. If you hate your job you'll fail at it and 4 years of school and your life will be wasted. Hopefully your parents aren't so short sighted and see the overall benefit in changing your mind now.

Answer 7

Well there is no sense piling on just to save face. You did learn a few things. You learned you don't like the city, college or subject matter. You parents may not be willing to pay for your next venture, that's O.K. I would go home, tell them you love them, that you appreciate all they have done, but you aren't going to stay in this track. Then take some time and re-group and figure out whats next. Life isn't all bad and you don't want to make decisions based solely on guilt or fear. It is better you discovered this now rather then three years from now.

Answer 8

check with a counselor at the school about transfering the credits to another degree plan that you think would be more interesting - and see how mcuh would be left versus the degree plan you are currently on - also check into grants that you might qualify so that you do not have to rely soley upon your parents to pay for school - get a part-time job that might help pay for the expenses as well - its not an easy thing to do, but if you are driven and have your priorities - you can do it - I speak from expirience - I am a single mother - work full-time, and go to school full-time as well as care for my 2 year old daughter after work - without help from anyone. She does not see her father - he is not involved inher life by his choice, so I do not even have the every other weekend when she should be with him.... not that I mind - I love my daighter very much and would never trade a moment with her.... point being - if you set your mind to doing something it is possible - good luck and just stick to your plan - whatever it may be!

Answer 9

You should be honest with yourself and honest with your parents. You can enjoy yourself in any city - you just have to make up your mind and do it...get involved in something that uses up your time...get some friends...hang out. You can be happy anywhere. For your college subject; can you switch majors? Maybe there is something more interesting. I am sure your parents would rather know the truth than realize down the line that you picked the wrong profession were unhappy. Money is not everything, and won't make you or your parents happy.

Answer 10

If you are 100% sure that you don't want to be in that college studying something you hate, then leave right now.

Life is not supposed to be that hard. You're not supposed to live life for anyone but yourself. Your parents should allow you to do whatever you want.

They would probably be madder at the end of 4 years instead of 1 year, if they're paying for your college and you hate what you're studying.