Why is it that men find it so difficult to maintain a relationship?

Question

I mean there are certain fundamentals like communication and attention that more often than not get overlooked.

Answer 1

Men are very good at singular focus - give us one topic/subject at a time, and we're fine. On the other hand, our multitasking skills suck - which translates to having problems concentrating on you, his issues at work, the TV, upcoming events, his hobbies, his friends, and anything else all at the same time. We mere males don't read minds, we lack the ability to intuit social subtleties naturally, we are often slow at connecting body language and verbal communication, and the silent treatment is no good since it takes us about 9-11 minutes to realise we're in the pooh.

Men can maintain relationships, but we need women to coach us along. If you want us to listen, then give advanced notice and provide an agenda. We can't tell if something is 'wrong' if you don't tell us, and if we don't know it's broken then why would we try to fix it?

For men, relationship etiquette is learned behaviour, but I don't see women taking charge of trying to teach us. Until then, all men can do is try our best guess...

Answer 2

You just did not find the right guy for you yet, and with most men communications come with more of an action sort of way. like fixing your toilet when it's clogged or asking you to get then a beer while they are watching a football game and say "Please" and the end of the request.
I think the real problem is reading too much romance novels and watching soap operas. Men (and women for that matter) who have been in a relationship for a while get into a comfort zone and familiarity and this is only natural and inevitable.
Keep the relationship alive by trying new things together, taking vacations and initiating fun activities.
Make sure you always have his favourite beer in the fridge,
good luck
Irene

Answer 3

Not all men though... But in some points there are men who don't stick to one relationship. They are looking for something which beyond from their imagination. Men sometimes like woman who'se very submissive to them but to some aspect woman think that they are being controlled. However, men think that it is a minus point when woman are too dependent to them. There are really many reasons why men don't stay in a relationship. Some of them don't like forever commitment which give them no freedom at all. There are most men who just like to be controlled by woman yet woman doesn't appreciate it because it's not healthy in a relationship. Men are men... I just don't know what made them or what made them think about woman. They have their own minds... But as far as I'm concern..understanding and descernment are few ways to maintain a relationship.

Answer 4

I think it's because men get bored fairly easily. The key is for us women is to keep the love life steamy and to treat him like a king... that way he'll obey like a good puppy!

Answer 5

Coz there ain't such thing like relationship....there ain't nothing to maintain there. Get this right, majority of men are tired of relationships at some point.

Answer 6

because they are to busy thinking about your best friend ,sister maybe mother. if they did not want to *** everything maybe then they could stay like a good puppy.

Answer 7

afraid of comittment, lazy....and you know what i dont think any gurl out there will ever really find da true answer do dat one....cuz thier guys and guys will be guys although there are some guys out there dat are different.....so idk i guess we needa start lookin for them guys lol:)