When I had my daughter 3 1/2 yrs ago my mother in law walked into the room when she got there, took my daughter from me and didn't even speak to me. She put on a big show like she was a wonderful grandma. She has probably seen my child 6 times in her entire life. Now I am 28 1/2 week along with our second child. She knows that I've had complications and thought I was going to loose the baby yet she hasnt called since I was 8 wks along. This morning she had the nerve to text my husband and misspell my name saying to tell me she loves me and needs our address to mail our christmas card. First off we have lived there three years(she should have the address) second last year she sent a card saying "I hope the two of you have a Merry Christmas" I still havent figured out which of us was excluded from that considering there were three of us last year. And third if she is so worried about how we are she could come by or pick up the phone and call. She onlly lives 45 min away.
2006-12-14 01:50:56 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
my hubby's grandma raised him and she is from hell for sure! an hour before i got married, she listed off all the people she'd rather he be marrying (including a girl he'd cheated on me with in high school). she's made it no secret that she hates me. and she wants to still run my husband's life. is always telling him i do everything wrong, right down to how I load my dishwasher. and she wants to raise my children for me because I'm such a terrible person I could never be a good mother...and I don't even have kids yet!! we ended up moving several thousand miles away just to be rid of her and whenever she calls or sends mail or e-mails, I refuse to answer the phone or read what she sends. my husband deals with it.
2006-12-14 01:56:51 · answer #1 · answered by Eowyn 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow. I'm sorry. Really. I'm literally sitting here with my jaw dropped. She sounds horrible! How does your husband feel about the way she treats you and your family? Has he talked to her about it? It might be best for him to take the heat since he's blood. Maybe he can get to the bottom of it. If there's no underlying reason that she treats you this way, I'm not sure what you can do. You could try being as nice as possible and invite her to all kinds of family events or your children's activities when they come around. Maybe she acts this way because she feels left out? I know my mom is quiet-spoken so she won't speak up if her feelings are hurt, maybe your mother-in-law is similar in that she's just showing her pain by the way she's acting? I'm really at a loss here. I still think it might be best for your husband, or the two of you together, to sit down and talk things out with her to make sure there's not something making her act this way. She may not even be aware that you and your family are taking offense. As far as the card that read "I hope the two of you...", maybe she's getting alzheimers? I certainly hope she wouldn't exclude someone on purpose. Family is family no matter what. I really hope things work out for the best. And good luck and congratulations on your 2nd bundle of joy! God bless.
2006-12-14 01:58:52 · answer #2 · answered by Shannon L - Gavin's Mommy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WOW.
I'd be drawing the line right here and now. Certainly dont let her in the hospital (you can make that call, your husband has no say in it, the hospital will not allow her to visit if you say she cant be there). I'd talk to you husband and let him know that he can certainly entertain a relationship with his mother, as he ought to, but that you're not goig to be chasing her shirt tails trying to forge some sort of friendship.
Tell him you dont want to know anything that has to do with her. If something comes in the mail, give it to him and ask him to keep it some where where you dont have to deal with it. If she txts him, or calls him, tell him you dont want to know about it. Things like that.
She can be part of your life when she's ready to atleast meet you half way.
This is rediculous.
2006-12-14 01:55:23 · answer #3 · answered by amosunknown 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I also have a mother-in-law from hell. I am pretty sure that is her home address!!! I had to cut ties from her after she informed me that I wasn't part of her family(that is after having THREE of her grandchildren). The stress from dealing with her was really putting a strain on my husband and I relationship. She hasn't even seen her last 3 grandchildren.
I really don't know what it is about people who act like that. And I hope to goodness that I am not that type of mother-in-law to my kids spouses. I don't really have any advice. All I know is that my relationship was so bad with mine that me and my husband had to cut ties with her.
Good Luck!!! I really hope your family spends a great deal of time with your children. My kids are doing just fine without my mother in law in there lives. And I would rather not have people in and out of my kids lives.
2006-12-14 01:58:01 · answer #4 · answered by flredneckgal_21 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh hell! I bet you get some long responses for this one!..My mother in law is getting worse and worse every year. She does the same thing as yours does, always says she misses the kids sooooo much.....but never wants to keep them.....and really only plays with them when someone is there that she wants to impress..it's so pathetic. Thank god my mom is a saint and helps us like no other.
2006-12-14 01:54:57 · answer #5 · answered by gooterscooby 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My mother in law came directly from hell hand delivered I believe. My husband and I have been married for 2 yrs and she still tells my huband what to do like she's married to him and not me. She psychotic and only eats tuna because she said that Jesus said that tuna will make her thin. Surprisingly she only weighs 140 however I think the mercury has gone to her head.
2006-12-14 01:56:06 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
With a MIL like that you should be glad she keeps her distance. After reading thru the other answers I think Ill thank God for the somewhat nosey MIL i have been complaining about! If i were you id still tell her off tho...lol!
2006-12-14 03:09:09 · answer #7 · answered by Aubrey 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My mother-in-law is a monster so I feel your pain! Mine does similar sorts of things although there are no kids involved. She sends cards and crap like that when she has already made it very clear that she hates me (by calling me names to my wife and referring to me as 'that). It sounds like game playing to me. My MIL wants to appear to be the loving supportive mother and in law to the outside world, but she has spoken to my wife twice in a year.
THe best thing you can do is ignore her games. Tell your husband that you just aren't interested in the stupid games and that while you support his relationship with her and the relationship between her and your kids, you are sick of all the nonsense.
2006-12-14 02:10:08 · answer #8 · answered by jaynic72 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
my mother in law from hell doesnt even like because i love her son and as me and her both know he wasnt happy by him self and he was always depressed and when i came along he ever so cheerful it almost seems as his mom cant stand to see her son happy and glad my mother in law lives only 2 hours and 30 sumthin minutes away cause even he cant stand her cause she never wanted him to marry me and he did he says the reason he was depressed because of her downing him sayin no one gona love but her and dat it until i loved him he began to turn anothe way and be positive on things now
2006-12-14 02:01:25 · answer #9 · answered by shantinique r 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try and not let it bother you.....my mil lives less than 2 minutes away, came and saw her granddaughter yesterday for the first time since halloween!
2006-12-14 02:41:22 · answer #10 · answered by buckeyefever7 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋