about 6 weeks ago, i might this girl, from my school. we mostly e-mailed, exchanging poetry and she gave me a CD of her reading her work. she admits that she has, or had, i'm not sure, feelings for me but that she can't have them anymore bc she is starting a new relationship. i understand why she chose to be with him- she knows him better and i am graduating and leaving the state. i feel that i'm falling in love with her bc i want very much for her to be happy and i feel selfless towards her. if she hurts me, and she has, i can't be mad at her bc i immediately think of her feelings. i think that is a quality of being in love but do you think i am really falling in love?
2006-12-14 01:37:28 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
yes, it sounds like it,,,,, but to have a true deep love, you should be able to think of both her and your feelings,
2006-12-14 01:40:11 · answer #1 · answered by dlin333 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you have a communication problem between you. Sounds like you both feel things but neither is prepared to say it. My suggestion would be that you say to her 'listen before you go into this new relationship, can we go for dinner and talk because I have some things to say' Take her out, be honest with her and take the plunge. You might be surprised by the reaction you get.
Just because you are leaving the state, it doesn't mean you couldn't be together. You can change your plans because if you do love her, you will do that. Think about the whole picture and ask yourself how badly you want this and give her the choice. One of you needs to start the ball rolling and if you don't you'll regret it, so be honest, be brave and see what happens.
2006-12-14 09:43:11 · answer #2 · answered by jaynic72 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi,
Although you seem to b in a very confusing place now, i'm sure she's just as confused as you! I think you should arrange to see her somewhere (only if she's cool with it) and talk about whats happening. Don't waste time on thinking negatively...you're probably wasting all this time when instead the both of you could be making other arrangements on how arr ya'll going to make plans to stay in contact once you leave the state. I promise you the worst situation would be if you leave...and once you settle down at the other place, you're gonna be saying WHAT IF?
O,and about the other guy..uhm...don't worry about him.
Summary: TALK TO HER. IF NOT YOU COULD BE MISSING OUT ON A GOOD THING!
2006-12-14 09:45:34 · answer #3 · answered by Sistr P* 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you are not falling in love with her. You think so know, but when you truly do, you will realize how silly it really is. You can be selfless about her and not be in love. Its good you want her to be happy. And sure you have feelings, but you are so young right now. You are not in love.
2006-12-14 09:40:21 · answer #4 · answered by ladie_eclipse 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love is not the same thing as foolishness.
Love is NOT a one way street. If she's hurting you, that is NOT love. You have to move on and find someone else. A relationship is about TWO people, you are NOT supposed to let her walk all over you like that. It's foolish to allow someone to hurt you and then get back up just to let them push you over again.
2006-12-14 09:40:02 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sugar, you got it bad! But she's given you the heave-ho. It's not love b/c she's not returning the feelings, or else she wouldn't be with the other guy.
Are you leaving for school soon? You are young! You will find someone who returns the feelings.
Let her go and I'll bet she'll come back.
2006-12-14 09:45:27 · answer #6 · answered by avalonlee 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you just maybe in love but it wont last long if she hurt you i mean you must understand as women we feel we must protect ourselves from long distance relationships they stress us out to much and we can hardly focus on living sometimes we wonder is he cheating and some freinds come up and tell you your suspicions were correct trust she is doin the right thing NOT saying you would cheat on her but maybe youll meet her again someday and maybe shell be single if your a christian you should pray about it GOD will answer you like he does all the children of christ! good luck
2006-12-14 09:45:28 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
let me just say this: if once a true love happens to happen, just the lover is gonna feel it. no one else can coment about it, if u fell it deep inside it IS, not? it is a feeling merely dear!!! feelings come in diferefnt kinds
u dont ask others to confirm YOUR feelings
2006-12-14 09:43:36 · answer #8 · answered by ...... 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes u r.r u sure there's no way 2 talk out of it bc baby u got it bad 4 this gurl.
2006-12-14 09:42:49 · answer #9 · answered by sexyblakk 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You do not know her to love her quite yet. She has someone else & you need to focus your attention elsewhere. If you are so selfless, then why this question??
2006-12-14 09:40:16 · answer #10 · answered by Daiquiri Dream 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think its a case of wanting what you cant have i am always doing that its just tough at the end of day sorry to be to the point but its the way life goes sometimes
2006-12-14 09:40:49 · answer #11 · answered by ailbhe r 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋