Whould You Still View This As Wrong?

Question

Why do so many people prejudge and think something like this is wrong? A 20 year old BF with a 16 year old GF:

If the 20 year old boyfriend in this relationship truly loves her, cares for her, looks after her, protects her, and would never hurt her for anything in the world, why would it be wrong?

Surely the parents WOULD have to be okay with it, I totally agree with that 100%. If the boyfriend's intentions are pure, I wouldn't view it as wrong.

Answer 1

It is wrong because you are an ADULT and your GF is a MINOR. I doubt the 16 year old girl's parents would allow her to date an adult when their daughter is still a child in the eyes of the law. If you truly love her you should wait until she is 18, when she is legally an adult.

Answer 2

I also feel the age difference is "usually"nobody elses business. However, only to a point! a sixty year old man with a twenty year old girl is a no no, in my personal opinion. But there may even be some exceptions on that too. Each case would be different. ANother example , let's say a sixteen year old boy with a fifty year old woman.... NO darn way.....it would be perhaps a little game of fun for the female , but emotionally could effect the poor sixteen year old boy , who would likely feel he has either fallen in love, or fell as if he has done something very wrong. No easy answers to any BIG and involved questions, but this case that is given is laughable that it should even be bothering anyobody whatsoever, as I see nothing in the world wrong with the ages of 20 and 16, a measly four years....come on now LOVERS should be not bothered and left to love each other and live their (lucky) lives in blissful peace! ->MasterGold xxxxxpeace and love NOT war!!

Answer 3

I don't think it is wrong at all. I completely agree with you as long as both sets of parents are okay with it and the intentions are pure why not? You can not control who you love but it's up to you to do something about it. People get a grip we're not in like the 70's anymore. Just because two people who are together are years apart and could be over the age of consent does not mean that they are being intimate or getting knocked up. Its paranoia we have it drilled into our heads that the only reason why older guys want young girls is to get laid but YOUR WRONG. My boyfriend was 23 when we got together I was16 and we did not have sex until I was 18. And we're still together. GO FOR IT!

Answer 4

16 is simply too young to be trusted with so life-altering a decision. And while a 20-year-old could reasonably be depended upon to "bring home the bacon" through his labor fifty years ago, the world has changed: a 20-year-old has simply not the education or the work experience to be able to support them as a couple.

He and she can date and they can plan - but each needs a completed education and several years' work experience before tying the knot...and she, above all, needs to grow and mature. They should not contemplate marriage until she is another six years older.

Answer 5

I'm not saying its wrong but what are his intentions with a 16 year old? Why cant he find someone close to his age? My best friend was in a similar situation when I was in high school. It turned out terrible b/c once she graduated he was no longer interested. The girl needs to be careful.

Answer 6

well.. personally i feel that there's nothing wrong with being in love with a sixteen year old girl... its love and it's pure.. it'll only be wrong (in the eyes of the law, tat is) if the relationship gets sexual.. but then again, if the love is pure and true, i m sure sex will not be a big issue.. the guy should be able to make way for tat for a little while till the time is right.. as for the parents, well u can't blame them u see if they oppose to it.. tats wat parents do! u just got to be strong n prove to them that u r really sincere with their girl and slowly they'll begin to trust u and then will be OK...
everything boils down to trust.. u think u can trust someone wholeheartedly? without any doubts and suspicions?

Answer 7

society thinks things are wrong when they don't go the way they think they should go.
me only being thirteen and stuff think that its your life you should make you own decisions if you really care for this guy and he cares for you y'all should be together because what will happen if you leave him alone and he could be your soul mate or something because of his age you let him pass you by god only gave everyone one soul mate if your are that deep for each other don't let your one shot at true love pass you by plus my dad is 62 and my mom is 39 and they have two kids and they are doing great.also you have to learn from mistakes if your gonna get hurt you should have a great time doing it you cant go into every relationship thinking about age or whether you'll get hurt you should just go for it and you may find what your looking for in one shot.

Answer 8

Well my point of view is that it really doesn't matter. It's different if you just wanted to take advantage of her or anything but you say it isn't like that, I mean I was 14 datin a 18 yera old dude so that is no different. Yea the government say it is wrong, but who can the gov. tell you who u care about. if you treat her with total respect then that is all that matters.

Answer 9

This answer was the one I gave someone else.

Don't fool yourself. You or her will end up wanting more, and you will be the one held accountable. DA's only want to win cases and put you away. They will not take in account your intentions only your actions. You are playing with fire and gasoline, you're the one who is going to be burned. I've seen it happen.

The person I was referring to had her parent's approval until they disagreed, then he ended up in county jail for 6 months for statuary rape. He is lucky the judge saw his intentions and didn't imposing the mandatory sentence with sex offender registration. He was sentence to time served and 3 years formal probation. The DA and the Probation Department objected. Now, he has a Probation Officer trying to find reasons to violate him.

Answer 10

Besides the fact that it's illegal, he's a grown a** man, and she's still a child.

Are her parents okay with it? I somehow doubt that. She probably says they are, but they really aren't .

He's too old to be messing with somebody that has to go to school everyday. In a year, he'll be going out to bars. What's he gonna do with her then.