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My girlfriend was engaged with her x while she was with me, i forgave her, and she broke up with him, yet they are still "chummy". But now we're trying the long distance thing, cause she got accepted to colledge and i now work, but she is now living closer to her x, how can i be sure that they wont get back together? i mean she always said she prefered him morethan me. We have been through alot of **** together, most of it was her, i guess. Anyhoo should we go our seperate ways and end the tortour of being apart or will that make things worse? I love her but shes weak...too weak to survive this without me, i fear she might find other means of comfort, in her x or any male who may be close to her. how can i be sure she wont, she so far away and shes a damn good liar, i mean damn good! i just have to tke her word for it...but how can i be sure she stays faithful?

2006-12-14 01:24:04 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships Singles & Dating

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If you mistrust her as much as you have demonstrated in this post (and please don't deny it, you are thinking too emotionally) then its time you let her go.

If you get engaged you'll worry. If you get married you'll worry. What's the point of all that stress?

I think she never got over he ex. We each get one great love. This guy may have been hers. She just never realized it until they broke up (does she have a great time whenever she's with him? Can he make her laugh like no other? Do they have things in common - cultural/religious (these are big connections) or intersts/ambitions/etc,,,). You don't have to be engaged to the person for them to be your true love, a true love is a best friend and someone you care deeply about and trust with your life.

MY ADVICE:

Break up. You just don't trust her enough (and thus don't truly believe in your love. On top of all that long distance relationships (where you guys aren't in the same city) are hard. Its going to be hell for you if you keep this up.

2006-12-14 01:39:52 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

if she admitted to u that she preferred him over u...why are u with her? i dont mean to judge but what from what u just described ur relationship with her is a disaster waiting to happen. u 2 got together on false pretences since u said yall hooked up when she was still engaged. and now that there will be distance between yall....u already know whats gonna happen. uve already admitted that she's weak. and im sure u know u cant MAKE a person do right....they have to WANT to do right on there own. and her being a "damn good liar" isnt helping the situation. u have to think about all that and ask urself if its worth it.

2006-12-14 01:32:23 · answer #2 · answered by MsNic 4 · 0 0

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2016-11-26 02:39:47 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0 0

You said she said she preferred him more than you....and you said she is a damn good liar.............I would've lost her at that. However, sometimes distance makes the heart grow fonder. Personally, if you don't completely with your whole heart trust her, then you need to move on. Trust is one of the big key items in a relationship & without it there might as be nothing between you. Besides, it sounds ironic that she got into a college close to where he lives. You do the math, my friend!

2006-12-14 01:31:36 · answer #4 · answered by cntrybmpkn_95 2 · 0 0

It's sounds like you have answered the question yourself. You don't have a lot of trust in her and you believe that she "prefers" her ex to you. You should save yourself the pain and drama and find someone else who prefers you to everyone else.

2006-12-14 01:31:49 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

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