suspicious behavior?

Question

Over the past week i've noticed subtle changes in my boyfriends bahavior. I may be out of my mind, or I could be right on cue.
His work schedule is 6:30am -2:30pm.. usually him and his buddies get to work around 4am to get the OT, so him leaving early is never a weird sign. But everyday this week he gets up early, takes his shower, does his hair (before he just let it dry and was on his way) now he gels it... wears his cologne (which he always smelt good when we first met, but over time, i think given the schedule he's working and me being pregnant, we've become lazy. I found a phone number in his pocket last night. I AM going to call it today.
His behavior hasn't changed, he's always kissy and lovey with me, and tells me 120873987 times a day how he can't wait to marry me. Does this sound susicious of him possibly talking to someone, maybe someone he works with?

* i don't go through his stuff, it's my duty to make sure his pockets are empty before I do the laundry. I have messed up many important papers in the past not doing this ;)

thank you for all the imput, I will nonchalantly ask him about this. I love him and can read him pretty well. I'll see what he has to say

Answer 1

Sounds like he's trying to impress someone.

Answer 2

It does seem a little suspicious but he may just want to look and smell good for you....however where you found the phone number and being his habits have changed I would certianly call the number just to aleviate the wondering. If he is still lovey with you and shows you the same attention as always it would suggest that he is happy and does not need to go elsewhere...hopefully the number is not for anyone special and you will be able to move on with normal life. Good luck.

Answer 3

Why don't you just call the number ask who the person is. And if they tell you that their sleeping with your man, Then and only then will you be happy. Young lady, Women have always had a problem with their man having female friends. And men have always had problems with women having male friends, Unless the guy they talk to is gay. Then men don't worrier so much. But even if the woman the man talks to is gay, Women still have a problem with that too.Because women and men only think that it has to be for sex, And not just to talk to someone other then the person that they have too spend the rest of their life with. Who may only talk about 30% or 40% of the time that they are together.

Answer 4

Although it does sound suspicious, it could be completely innocent. I wouldn't call the number yourself, just ask him about it.

It could be that this effort in his appearance is for someone elses benefit, but equally, he could just be feeling like he has let himself go. The only person who knows the answer is your boyfriend. If you call that number and its a woman, what are you going to say? Do you think she is going to admit anything to you? What if it is a woman he knows who is helping him arrange a christmas surprise for you? There are so many possibilities and before you act, you should think about those.

Sit him down and say, you've been taking an interest in your appearance lately, is there a reason for that? Tell him that you don't want to be suspicious and you do trust him but it just seems weird. Talk like rational adults and you can clear it all up.

Answer 5

I'm sorry! So...you're pregnant and waiting to wed?! That sounds like a tough spot to be in. I'd take a 'wait and see' approach. The things you described may be innocent enough. Your emotional state may also be altered by the pregnancy. Why not talk this out with him before making any decisions? Good Luck

Answer 6

they only thing i can tell you is that when women are pg is the time when men decide to cheat. he may see all of this responsibility and wants to "sew his wild oats" before taking on a wife and child. i would be careful and protect yourself and the baby against STD's and a man who could emotionally hurt both of you. when you find out who this # belongs to, don't go crazy. Calmly discuss it, then leave. spend the rest of your prgnancy and the first few weeks as a mom with your family and lay down the law as to how and if you can take him back. it will put you in control instead of him deciding wether you can be a family or not. Good Luck and God Bless.

Answer 7

Funny, my guy has the same work schedule, and he leaves early to for the over time, and not to mention the time of day he leaves is the same as your guy.... maybe they are having an affair with eachother. I know how you feel I got the suspicious feelings too... go up there and check it out. Does he come home late, are there parks, or motels near his workplace, if so breeze through there, take him a surprise lunch, see who he's eating with.

Answer 8

Whatever the number is for, there is already a problem. Take a deep breath, and explore your feelings. Just because a guy is not a slob, it doesnt mean he is guilty of wrong doing. communication is really important. If you are feeling insecure in any way or uncomfortable or curious, you have to talk to him, and communicate with him. Thats problem number one. People have to open up and also listen to each other.without communication and trust, the number you found is irrelevent anyway, because non communication is already a problem. best of luck to you

Answer 9

I think your hormones might be ruling this situation. However, I can understand how it may look. I would not think anything about it simply because he still act the same way to you, if that had changed I would have a different answer. Good luck to you, I hope you have a happy pregnancy and a beautiful baby.

Answer 10

You need to confront him, and call that number. Honestly you are going to have a nawing feeling in your gut until the day you know for sure. Me personally I would plan on leaving the house shortly after him to see if he goes to work. That's just me, I couldn't trust a man to tell me the honest truth.

Answer 11

I understand your concern...but his actions are the same so I wouldn't worry. I think you should feel free to ask him what is up with the cologne and hair gel, but do it in a nice non-accusatory way. I don't think there's a real red flag here...but call the number anyway to be sure.