The reason I ask is because my fiance and I have lived together for over 3 years, so we have most of the stuff that you would ask for on your registry. I would hate to just get new stuff just to get it, and it would be much more helpful if family and friends helped by giving money to put towards wedding expenses. And if you did this, how would you go about asking for it?
2006-12-14 01:17:37 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
When I meant ask for gift certificates, I was really referring to the bridal shower! I am not expecting money or presents from anyone, but let's be realistic, you get presents for your wedding! I just want to be as practical as possible!
2006-12-14 08:46:09 · update #1
I know exactly what you are going through. I live with my fiance for 3 years also, and we have evrything!! We also dont have the room for anything because we live in a one bedroom apartment. I know a couple who asked for help with the dj and photogrpaher and they also had a honey moon regisrty which i found very different. Maybe when you have your bridal shower simply ask for gift certificates to those places. Also call the photographer and Dj and make sure they give gift certificates. Good luck! I hope everything works out! Oh and Congrats!! :)
2006-12-14 01:23:49 · answer #1 · answered by SO In LOVE 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋
No you should not do this, nor ask for money, or gift cards, or anything toward your honeymoon, etc. It is not the "fault" of your guests that you have already furnished and outfitted a home! If you do not want or need gifts, feel free to say so. HOWEVER, do not qualify that by saying you want money or giftcards or gifts certs. instead. That is rude, crude and tacky.
If you cannot afford the wedding you are planning, then it is time to lower your sights and amend things within your budget.
2006-12-14 02:36:16 · answer #2 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't directly ask for money.... like a registry you can only suggest but people will do what they want. Besides you need gifts for your SHOWER.... people are not just going to give you money.. you need things to open. So I would reconsider doing a registry- get new sheets and towels and useful stuff. You can also mention to your family members that you really need the money so they can spread the word. Good LUCK!
2006-12-14 01:47:58 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Thing one: Etiquette is very specific that no one is obligated to give you a wedding gift.
It is therefore considered to be rude and crass to ask for anything in the way of gift. There is no polite way that you can TELL people that you want money. This gives you the appearance of shaking down your guests for a financial windfall, which never, ever looks good.
If I were you, I wouldn't ASK for money towards wedding expenses. If people ask you directly what you want, you're free to tell them anything you like, but THEY have to ask the question, you can't volunteer that you'd prefer money.
2006-12-14 07:45:57 · answer #4 · answered by Karin C 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi hun i am in the same situation have lived with my fiance for 10 years and have two children so have everything have u tried confetti.com they have a site there were u can list on there for people to give many towards things like honeymoons etc etc
hope that helps and good luck with the wedding
2006-12-14 01:31:33 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
I think it would probably be considered bad taste if you were to include something to that effect in your invites, just like you don't list the places you're registered in your invites. If someone asks you where you're registered, simply inform them that you and your fiance would prefer help paying for the photographer and DJ, so that your wedding day memories can be that much more special for everyone involved.
2006-12-14 01:26:19 · answer #6 · answered by Stacy Cuccia 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I know what you are coming fronm, but this is in extremely bad taste.
You may ask for monetary gifts instead. You may also register for a honeymoon and let your guests buy you gift certificates towards it ( nowadys this is socially acceptable), but what you have described is just plain tacky. I encourage you not to do this.
Good luck
2006-12-14 01:33:42 · answer #7 · answered by Blunt 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
You can register at a place like Bed Bath & Beyond. After you recieve the gifts, you can return them for cash.
Also, when your registry gifts are all purchased, people usually will give cash.
2006-12-14 01:27:43 · answer #8 · answered by MR MONEY 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I wouldn't do it. People like you are the reason why cash bars at weddings exist and I blame people like you for the decline of decent society. Etiquette rules exist for a reason, it makes the world a nicer place to live. A wedding reception is a celebration thrown by the couple or the parents of the couple (traditionally the bride's parents) to thank the guests for witnessing their vows. Please don't ask guests to contribute to their own thank you party. It's tacky and rude and it's not okay. *It's also not okay to ask for donations for a honeymoon
2006-12-14 01:57:29 · answer #9 · answered by question asker 4 · 2⤊ 3⤋
You CANNOT ask for money for wedding expenses, or money at all. TACKY!
2006-12-14 02:32:01 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋