I have been dating my boyfriend for almost 2 and 1/2 years now. Just recently I have discovered that he believes its ok to lie to me in certain situations, like when he thinks the truth will make me upset. But when I find out he lied to me, I get more upset, so I really don't understand the logic. I am really uncomfortable with the idea of being with someone who is ok with lying to me, what should I do?
2006-12-14 01:16:39 · 7 answers · asked by alucfgrl87 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If he's lying, leave. Don't be stupid... Don't put up with that sh*t.
2006-12-14 01:18:35 · answer #1 · answered by angel2005_2001 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yeah--big issue!! You've been with this guy for quite awhile which makes this especially hard to deal with. Unfortunately, he's not likely to change his behavior either. Honesty is a key factor in any good relationship and I don't know how you could convince him of this fact. I know you're aware that you have the option to leave, but you wouldn't have been with this particular guy for over two years if you didn't care about him. It's impt. you let him know the importance you place on being honest (at all costs) and then evaluate his willingness to change. Accept that he may not change and determine what steps you're willing to take in that event. Good Luck
2006-12-14 10:09:17 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel that if he has nothing to hide and if its not wrong he should tell you regardless of how you feel about it. Maybe you two have had your differences and have not been able to agree to disagree so you should talk to him and tell him he should give you the respect that you deserve and to be honest with you. Because in the end the truth always comes out. Its better to hear it from him then from someone else because your right it makes it worse when he doesn't say. Good Luck.
2006-12-14 09:23:18 · answer #3 · answered by sadgirl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He clearly cares for you as he says he doesn't want you to be hurt, but in a way he is being ignorant as you said you'd prefer the truth. Ask him to tell you the honest truth no matter what it is. It is better you find out there and then and deal with it, than find out months down the line and it causing an avoidable arguement.
2006-12-14 09:23:17 · answer #4 · answered by E 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, i agree that liying is a v bad thing,
but here, his intention was good, i mean, he lies because he doen't want you to feel upset
you are dating each others for more than 2years,which means that you are a good, i mena, u feel good together and u can go far on ur relationship, if u care abt him, if he is important for you, don't break up for this!
what you have to do, is to tell him how much you hate this habit, just explain to him that it can be a danger for ur life together
good luck
2006-12-14 09:22:47 · answer #5 · answered by curious girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell him what you just tell us - that when you find out it makes you even more upset - i mean he's not doing it to upset you purposely!
2006-12-14 09:21:54 · answer #6 · answered by ♪ Jackielynn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to him about it
2006-12-14 09:19:19 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋