I borrowed by Dads car for a date since my bf's car was in the shop and i had forgotten to pick up mine from the mechanics because it needed an oil change.Since my parents were away i was lazy and just borrowed theirs.Anyway i decided it was time to loose my virginity so to be romantic my bf got wine from his parents place, got some sheets,flower petal and two candles.We parked in my favorite spot with a great view.Everything was perfect and we were cuddling afterward till the car started rolling backwards because we forgot to put the parking break on.The candles fell and the back seat caught on fire.Needless to say the car was damaged luckily we put out the fire but the back of the car hit another and the back is dented.
2006-12-14 01:11:43 · 29 answers · asked by Benny g 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
I can pay to have the car fixed but would i still have to explain this too my parents?I am 18 and my bf 19 so we are mature.Please i am already scared because we did not use a condom and i am really stressed out.?
2006-12-14 01:15:35 · update #1
ahhhhh hahahahahha! who's idiotic idea was it to put candels in the vehicle.... dumb azz!!!
2006-12-14 01:15:34 · answer #1 · answered by samee 3 · 4⤊ 3⤋
Oh man, pretty funny stuff! That's some good lovin' gone bad! Ok you're probably too young to know that song. Anyways, I'd be stressing too if I were you. That was a very immature thing to do, every aspect of it - taking the car, drinking, sex with no protection, candles in the car, no parking brake on.....yep you went right down the list. You should've stopped and robbed a liquor store on the way home. just kidding. i'm giving you a hard time cuz I remember what it was like to be young and make mistakes and deal with the consequences. Luckily in your case no one got hurt and your intentions were not bad.
You have to tell your parents you took the car obviously. You don't have to tell them what you did in the car, but they'll put two and two together. Make it a top priority to meet your financial obligations and get this behind you ASAP honey! You're parents will be mad, probably for a while, but they'll get over it. One day you'll be looking back on this and laughing your @ss off.
As far as the protection goes, please always use it. Next time you decide not to, remember how frantic you are right now. You don't want to feel this way again, do you? Don't stress too much til you miss a period ok? Deal with one thing at a time.
2006-12-14 11:33:19 · answer #2 · answered by Sandy Sandals 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So you took there car with out permission, and your 18, ya know what that's called Hun, STEALING. I am sorry but you should be stressed, how is it not grand theft just because it's your parents who are the victim. It's time you grew up, don't treat sex like some Disney movie fairytale, it's serious. You made the choices now you must face the music. The best thing you could do now is come clean, ABOUT EVERYTHING. Face what's coming to you. I don't know what i would do if you were my daughter, however I'd have a long talk with my husband, possibly about having your 18 year old bottom looking for a new place to live.
Sorry it's not what you want to hear, but it's what has to be said.
Good Luck
2006-12-14 09:32:47 · answer #3 · answered by olschoolmom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well considering what you were doing, you probably got your just desserts. The best thing to do is to tell your father what happened. There's no sense in telling a lie because you'll only get into more trouble. If you were going to do what you did, couldn't you have found a place more romantic than the back seat of a car?
Get a job, repair the damages, and pay the consequences of what you've done.
2006-12-14 09:16:39 · answer #4 · answered by kenrayf 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Haha. That's hilarious. I'm sorry.
The thing you need to do is tell the honest truth. I was never good with lying myself. I would lie, and if I was lucky, I would get away with it. Yet, it would eat at me until I came out with the truth. Lying is no fun.
And if you're mature, you would have known to put the effin car in park. Use a condom and birth control. You're one of those people who have sex, end up pregnant, and get an abortion, aren't you?
Hopefully you're not pregnant.
However, you need to make sure that you're more mature and ready the next time you have sex. "Having everything perfect" does not make it "perfect" in itself. You are taking a chance of huge consequences, and you need to realize that before you spread your legs, miss eighteen year old!
2006-12-14 11:00:52 · answer #5 · answered by Annamarie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok first breathe don't panic. Now get the car fixed and tell your parents if they see that you took the intuitive and fixed the car and came clean they may go a bit easier on you..And I think we all learned candles in cars not a good idea.
2006-12-14 11:44:06 · answer #6 · answered by deborah i 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That Sucks! Just sit your parents down and explain to them that you and your boyfriend were trying to have a nice romantic evening and you made a big mistake. Make sure you let them know that you are sincerely sorry and you will do anything to gain their trust back. Then pay for the damages.
2006-12-14 09:46:10 · answer #7 · answered by tobeloved64 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh, boy. I suggest taking the "morning after pill" ASAP.
Then, fess up the BASICS of the situation (with Bobby, kissing, no parking break) to your parents. No need to spill the virginity 411. Ever.
That is an admirable teenager move! :)
2006-12-15 15:57:19 · answer #8 · answered by the truth 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say you should be honest. They usually find out anyway. Hopefully, if your parents love you, and I would assume they do, they will forgive you. It may not be quick and painless, but neither would the guilt of hiding it.
Oh... and for the lack of a condom, how long ago was this? Is it possible to try a morning after pill? They are now sold without perscription. I am not saying you should or should not do this; I am just giving you possible options.
Goodluck!
2006-12-14 09:21:38 · answer #9 · answered by HarmNone 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
oh dear. well it all depends on when your parents are back. and if you have enough money to fix the damages. erm.....i think it would be wise though to own up, if you tell them then say that you will 100% pay for the damages, then im sure they will laugh it off, i mean c'mon it is funny when you look at the funny side of it. im sure they will laugh too when you own up and tell them you will pay for it all, perhaps you could also offer for them to use your car till theres is fixed. im presuming you are old enough to have sex if you can drive, so they shouldnt go off on one too much hun, good luck, please keep us updated, xxx
edit...if you can afford to do it and before they come home, then dont say a word hun, i know i wouldnt. lol
2006-12-14 09:18:28 · answer #10 · answered by fanlight 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Either take it to the mechanic and pay for it out of your own money, or drop it off somewhere and tell your parents that it must have been stolen.
But the best advice I can give is to TELL THEM WHAT HAPPENED. Even if you leave out the part about you losing your virginity, they do need to know what happened to the car.
EDIT: Then have it fixed. Not that hard.
And if that was your first time having sex, all girls think they are pregnant thier first time, all of them. Dont stress, it will make your period come late and then you will really freak out (like I did). Although you could get pregnant, chances are that you are not and if you stress you will only make it worse on yourself.
2006-12-14 09:14:55 · answer #11 · answered by m_thurson 5 · 1⤊ 3⤋