christain widower finding it hard to do without sex?

Question

christain widower finding it very hard to do without sex.I have a girlfriend but after having sex in a good marriage for 30 years I am finding it very hard to stay with my christain beliefs and not have sex with my girlfriend . any tips?

Answer 1

any reason you and your girlfriend can't get married?

Answer 2

Sex is worthless without God. When God is the center of the relationship, though it may be hard, everything else is meaningless. I just got married about a month and a half ago to my girlfriend of over 7 years. I am 25 and she is 22, imagine the sexual tensity of us being young. We held out and once we were united as one in front of God, we finally proved our love to each other. I would never wanted it any other way. I mean think about it, sex was designed to be our gift to our spouse right? So if we are just going to sow our seeds around the world if wouldn't mean anything. I do understand that it is tough to go without sex, and it must be extremely difficult to be without your wife. But think of this, does this girl share the same Christian views as you? If she does than great! The two of you can work through this together. On the other hand, if she doesnt share the same beliefs, is it worth wasting a few minutes of pleasure with someone that may end of drawing you away from God? Just thought. Praying for you!

Answer 3

Simple if you believe in God and follow His teachings sex is reserved for within the covenant of marriage not before or with others outside of marriage which is to be between one man and one woman so STDs are not a consideration STDs only are a problem when sex is with people who have sex with more than one person. Since sex outside of marriage is against the beliefs of Christians then condoms which promote such actions would not be wanted.

Answer 4

If you believe that sex outside of marriage, even in a committed relationship is immoral then you need to find something else to think about. Put it out of your mind as an option. I personally think sex in a loving relationship between committed mature adults is a fine and wonderful thing. I think a loving God would understand and support that, but that's my personal belief.

Answer 5

Marry the girl. Then you're free to have sex with her as often as you like without comprimising your beliefs. If she's not the type you'd like to marry, find someone who is.

Answer 6

I am a Christian myself...a teen christian...yup. I messed up if u know what i mean when i was out in the world. When I accepted Christ in my heart, yes, it was hard to stay from sex because i was used to it.but I started getting into the word and prayer and asking God for strength..I prayed over myself and i prayed death over the covenants that i had made before because that was still holding me back..i prayed death over it and life into me..Spiritual rejuvenating life again in me. God has helped me alot like you have no idea.Now i dont even think about it anymore. When u find urself in that situation..run..dont let her keep u there...get in the word and when thoughts start popping into ur head, rebuke them and worship God..When we praise his name,there is FREEDOM!! GOd bless u and i will have u in my prayers. :)

Answer 7

You can't be forced to believe something.
If you don't want to go with those beliefs, leave them behind

TIP :: Marry your girlfrnd !!
Then there will be no problem at all

Answer 8

Yeah. Marry her as soon as possible.

Answer 9

i have a tip..send a picture

Answer 10

occupy yourself