Why to give birth a child? (restated 2)?

Question

Looking for a logical answer, I will ignore any answers with religious influence or the ones that are too subjective or based only on instincts (I consider that WE have also a thing to say about it...)

I'm not interested in MY happiness (I don't want to have a child because it makes me feel better...)
I could asume responsability, and put in a lot of effort in offering 'my' child anything that is good.
I don't mean that I don't want a child OR that I want one.
But do you know WHY to have? Do you think of her/his happiness and do you have a guarantee for what you think ... you might be wrong as well.

I'm trying very hard to understand, the reason for which people have children. There must be a very good explanation for why are we in CHARGE to take the decision for a new life.

Are we having children just because ...

Answer 1

Before you "give birth a child", you should probably learn better English.

Answer 2

well I had children because I really wanted to be a mother, bring a child into this world and make it happy. Give them everything that i've never had which I have been doing. I grew up in a house where I love you was never said. No child should ever live that way, my kids know that their father and I love them very much. They have anything they need and most things they want. Nothing is guaranteed no matter what it is but sometimes you take a risk and pray that the risk turns out good. I think that when people have children that are planned they do it because they believe that they are ready in all aspects to raise that child with love and understanding and give that child all it needs. When you hold your baby in your arms for the very first time and feel the love overwhelm you, then you know its right. Maybe my children will be the ones to find a cure for cancer or aids, or bring peace to our streets again. If we didn't take the risk of having a child then we would never know how it feels to love someone more than your own life itself. To look and watch those children grow and learn and become their own person.

Answer 3

Children are a huge responsibility...I'm not quite sure what your question is...it is very hard to read your wording but I will try to answer by telling you why I want kids.

I came from a big family (I think that your childhood has a lot to do with this decision also.). I am the oldest of eight kids. I also have three step bro and sis. I helped practically raise some of my brothers and sisters. I now have a nephew that has serious medical problems (heart). I take care of him most of the time. Let's put it this way I take care of him when I'm not at work. So I have said all of this to let you know that I have had and taken care of small kids all of my life. I have found it to be very rewarding when they just simply for no reason hug you or say that they love you. Bringing up a life and they become part of your life is very rewarding. I hope this helps.

Answer 4

This is what GOD made us for to keep the human race going. When a man and women are married they have a right to have children, to start a family. My life would be very boring and lonely if i didn't have my son. He keeps me on my toes and there's nothing like a child's love. I love the words mama and daddy. Some people aren't made to be parents but that doesn't mean others aren't great for it.
Of course sometimes we as parents may make a mistake but no one is perfect. I don't think anyone could have a child "just because".

Answer 5

Logically, that's what "creatures" are on this earth for. Look at animals... they don't know about jobs or bills or schooling or problems, they know instinct. Hormones, pheremones, mating dances that attract them together to complete the cycle that they were put on this earth for - to make more of their species. They don't think about it and make logical choices whether to have a child or not or when, etc. They just do it.

Same for humans. Whether the timing is right or not, and I think especially women get this feeling because they carry the child, when they talk about that internal clock - I believe its that feeling of maternal instinct - just like animals have - that humans too are supposed to make more of the species.

Answer 6

I want children just because I want them. I want to take responsibility for another persons life, a life that I created and is a part of me and a part of my husband. I want that. If you dont have that desire, that want, then I dont know what to tell you. When you see a couple with a baby, dont you think that it would be great to have one of your own, to care for and teach? Dont you have huge hopes, and dreams for this child? A lawyer, who puts bad people in prison? A doctor who saves peoples lives? The president, who runs the country with efficiency and peace? If you dont feel that want then I really dont know what to tell you.

Answer 7

Men are 'gifted' with the urge to copulate and impregnate women for the perpetuation of the species. This is why monogamy is not a natural state if you read it as fidelity. Why do we need to perpetuate the species? Well, I can't actually think of a good reason. What would it matter if human beings died out like the dinosaurs? It wouldn't matter, we are insignificant.

Answer 8

i think that we as a people have children for somewhat of a reason to carry on our families and somewhat of arrogance. to say "look what i did". also we women sometimes feel that if we don't have a baby then we are not complete women and that we won't be "whole" until we do. not true but some do believe this. i also think that some of us just want to know what its like to carry a human being inside of us to see what all the "hype" is. these are just some of many reasons i feel. cause some people just don't need to have children PERIOD.

Answer 9

I think people have children because the couple may love each other and want to pro create and keep their family heritage going.
I dont have kids because i chose not to. Happy about that. Boy am i happy about that.

Answer 10

yes, we have control over our instincts , but i dont think you can totally dismiss them,,, we have instincts for many things,,,, and while now, sure , we dont need to reproduce to insure the survival of our species, it wasnt so long ago that we did,,,,, and its only now, in more recent times, that we have the "power" to be in charge of the decision for a new life,,,, before we had sexual instincts/needs, and children just resulted from that,,,,,

i had a child because it was something i wanted to do,,,, that i felt drawn to do,,, it was logical in the context of my world,,,, as i knew i could do it as well if not better then many (as to guiding a new life to adulthood) i felt atleast i knew not to hit them for any reason, and to respect them for their own self,,
plus, i dont think of a child, of giving birth, as a new life, in that i believe in the spirit, both before this life on earth, and after,,,, and i imagine we may have a choice to come back or not,,, so in a sense, i would think of it as giving a spirit who wanted a body,,,,, a body and life on this earth,,,,,,,

Answer 11

I have 2 boys and I hope one day they will grow up to be good honest loyal men. I hope that they make their mark on this world. I hope they have kids and teach them the true meaning of happiness. I hope when I'm old I will look at my kids and grandkids and be proud. And yes, they make ME very happy. That's why I had kids...