My co-worker seems to be paying extra attention to me for 2 months. I would have concluded that he likes me if not for the fact that he knows I am married.
We stay a mile apart and one day he called me on my mobile (He got my number for another co-worker) and asked if i want to get a lift to work.
I've taken his car many times since then, and once when he knows I'm going for dinner alone, he offered to accompany me and we had dinner together. Recently he has asked me for my MSN. So we started msn-ing outside office hours.
There was a day when things hasnt gone too well for me and I kinda showed it and he noticed. He asked me about it in office, but I just kept quiet, He msn me when i was back home, kinda implied that he is concerned about things that are important to him.
Am I reading it correctly ? Or is he just being a very caring friend?
And I started to have feelings for him, how can I stop it ?
2006-12-14 00:55:19 · 7 answers · asked by isabella 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You are walking into a very dangerous ground. Based on what you wrote, I believe this person has feelings for you. And if you are growing feelings for him, then there is something going wrong with your marriage.
I think you should figure it out what is not going well at home and fix it. If you are spening time at home on MSN instead of spending time with your husband, maybe it is time to talk to him and fix the problems.
About your friend at work, take it easy and don't do anything you might regreat later.
First, fix your problem at home. Once this is done, I believe your friend won't be a problem anymore.
Good luck!
2006-12-14 01:03:58 · answer #1 · answered by Marcos Canada 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, you need to honor your marriage, and put a stop to it immediately. Tell your husband, and also, talk to him and be forward and blunt. If you don't you are going to have an affair. It is obviously that you are going toward that direction since you are accepting rides from him and all the other things. How can you stop feelings? Well, now you have all the chemicals of your body focusing on him...If you go by your feelings you will have an affair. How about doing what is right and being open and honest. You want to have an affair. If you didn't you wouldn't have let it go this far. So, since you are going to have an affair you might as well just get a divorce and go through all that. You are basing everything on a feeling. That is ridiculous. Let's be honest here. You want to have an affair and so you have to decide that you CAN help yourself, and that there are no excuses when you do have one. You are going to suffer the consequences unless you be honest with yourself and your husband and probably your family. Affairs don't just happen. That is absurd. You probably want the affair otherwise you wouldn't be talking about feelings, and all the chemicals involved in that. I think you better count the cost of what you are going to do instead of worrying about a darn FEELING.
2006-12-14 09:04:17 · answer #2 · answered by pansyskunk 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like he has interest in you but he is aware that you are married so he has not pushed his limits at this point. However you are heading for a downward spiral with your marriage if you continue to accumulate feelings for this man. Are you currently happy with your marriage? If so you need to distance yourself a little more from this man before it goes too far and you make a terrible mistake. I would not spend time with him outside of the office even if it just talking on MSN. The more time you spend with him the more feelings you are going to have. If you do not care about your marriage then you need to end that first before moving on with someone else. Good luck to you.
2006-12-14 09:04:53 · answer #3 · answered by Stacy H 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As you're married, you're putting yourself in a dangerous situation. You could very easily lose your marriage because of your husband finding out about just this part. Your co-worker is going to take his interest in you as far as you allow it to go and it appears you have no boundaries. If you want to quit having feelings for him, you need to get your focus off of him and onto your husband. I'm sure you wouldn't like it if he was getting this same attention from one of his co-workers. You need to tell him that you allowed your work relationship to get too personal and that you're commited to your husband. Tell him that you can't be accepting rides from him and change your MSN. You need to think about the risks of losing your husband/family/job/friends and family who will hate you for messing over your nice husband.
Get correct. If you want to get attention, give it...to your husband. I'm sure he's looking for some attention as well. It would be best for him to receive it from you.
2006-12-14 09:07:23 · answer #4 · answered by nochickenhead 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your reading can be true as it can not be, but it's not the question
the question is: do you care about ur husband, is your marriage important for you?
if the answer is yes, then do your best to overcome this feeling which can become strong with time, and destroy your marriage.
how to stop feeling for him? just don't think of him anymore, don't see him on ur dreams!! spend your free time with ur husband, with other friends,
while chating on msn, talk abt ur husband and how much u love him, then he will stop thinking of you as more than a co worker or a friend, and he will stop acting with you with this interest..
that's my point of view, according to what i understood from ur Q
good luck
2006-12-14 09:06:23 · answer #5 · answered by curious girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ladies and gentlemen this woman is the reason why divorce rates are higher in USA
2006-12-14 09:03:59 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does it matter? He is married and his wife would be hurt if she found out. Your are headed for heartbreak and a big mess. Loose him now...
2006-12-14 09:05:14 · answer #7 · answered by A friend of Bill W 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋