Looking for a logical answer, I will ignore any answers with religious influence or the ones that are too subjective or based only on instincts (I consider that WE have also a thing to say about it...)
I'm trying very hard to understand, the reason for which people have children. There must be a very good explanation for why are we in charge to take the decision for a new life.
I don't mean that I don't want a child or that I want one.
But do you know why to have? Do you thing of her/his happiness and do you have a guarantee for what you think ... you might be wrong as well.
2006-12-14 00:37:56 · 14 answers · asked by Owl 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
I want to have one to raise. Simply to be a mother. To watch him/her grow up. Take care of him/her, watch them go through school, through college, have babies of thier own. I want to be a grandma. I dont know why. I just do. I see other women with babies and for some reason I just want that.
Plus nowadays you can op for the epidural and a c-section if the going gets tough ;-)
2006-12-14 00:47:08 · answer #1 · answered by m_thurson 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well I had children because I really wanted to be a mother, bring a child into this world and make it happy. Give them everything that i've never had which I have been doing. I grew up in a house where I love you was never said. No child should ever live that way, my kids know that their father and I love them very much. They have anything they need and most things they want. Nothing is guaranteed no matter what it is but sometimes you take a risk and pray that the risk turns out good. I think that when people have children that are planned they do it because they believe that they are ready in all aspects to raise that child with love and understanding and give that child all it needs. When you hold your baby in your arms for the very first time and feel the love overwhelm you, then you know its right. Maybe my children will be the ones to find a cure for cancer or aids, or bring peace to our streets again. If we didn't take the risk of having a child then we would never know how it feels to love someone more than your own life itself. To look and watch those children grow and learn and become their own person.
2016-05-24 01:55:23 · answer #2 · answered by Christie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is a very good question. I am the mother of 3 and I knew from a young age that I certainly wanted to be a parent someday. I think there are many reasons one chooses to be a parent. For me, there were many reasons. I wanted to have an extension of me and my husband and our love for each other and if you're someone who wants children and loves your partner, as corny as it may sound, there is no better way to express your love than to create a child that you two can nurture, guide and watch grow and develop. I knew we could provide our child(ren) with a loving home, parents who would love them unconditionally and who were able to well support them both emotionally and financially. Those are the reasons that I can verbalize. For me, a lot of my reasoning/desire to have children is something that is deep within my being. It's an "emotion" (for lack of a better term) that is so profound, it's really hard to put a label on it or to put it into words. I hope my answer makes sense.
2006-12-14 00:51:20 · answer #3 · answered by Doogie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Having a child is for love. I don't mean love between two adults, but for the love of a young one who you can nurture, guide, and care for. Someone you can raise with honesty and dignity.
A child is like nothing you've ever had before. Someone who will make you laugh, and cry, yell and whisper, sing and dance, and learn things you never knew before.
Sometimes the simplicity of a child's mind is the greatest gift an over-daunted adult needs. A child is something you always cherish, whether you adopt or conceive.
2006-12-14 00:48:46 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's all about genes. Once my daughter was born I knew that I had done my biological job. I a sense I could die now because my genes will live on in her. There's also a strong imperative to live and care for her until she can look after herself, but I think the genetic survival thing is why so many people would willingly give up their lives for their children - the genes have to survive!
2006-12-14 01:17:45 · answer #5 · answered by Skidoo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People have children for many different reasons. As a mother I can tell you I have not experienced a single joy greater. The love, pride and amazement is overwhelming. We as humans are programmed to reproduce and that is simply nature. However your concerns about bringing them into a world so cruel are legitimate. I feel it is my duty to prepare my child with values, instincts, and tools to change the world around him. I will encourage my child to be a innovative thinker as this is necessary for our future.
2006-12-14 00:58:26 · answer #6 · answered by Jamie B 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
mmmm, i kinda agree with the guy saying ask your parents, but come on, if it's all logical, then how are you thinking....
if people stoped having kids, how are we gonna live, you know...if no one had babies from now....all humans will be extent by the coming 100 years....so how about you, like do you feel so helpless, so hopeless, that you wouldn't want to come to life, perhaps you are not that successful, so you are blaming your parents for being the reason you are here,...I'd say you better try hard, and get your self a new life.....it's not easy, but the harder you try the more you'll get, or at least, FEEL.......
seriously, i still can't understand how can you find it HARD to understand..while it's nothing to understand,.....
2006-12-14 00:53:47 · answer #7 · answered by Gossai 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I want kids so they can keep the family lineage going. So we can keep the human race going. And because I think that having kids is a part of life, a way to share ourselves with each other.
Think about this. If everyone stopped having kids that means no kids born ever again, in 100 years the human species would cease to exist.
2006-12-14 00:47:35 · answer #8 · answered by jlyn1980 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Some people especially women just have a parenting instinct. This is necessary for survival of the species. Other people are trapped by unwanted pregnancy and either do their best or not.
2006-12-14 00:51:32 · answer #9 · answered by tenbadthings 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
you dont really live life until you have children... I thought i was having a good time when I was dating and single but now i realize nothing compares to my babys calling my name and looking up to me.... They are the best thing that can happen to any family...
2006-12-14 00:45:58 · answer #10 · answered by Teena 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋