I plan what I want to happen in my life....But If I say that I want Kids when talking to a girl I fancy she found this scarey..... Is it I just see it as making sure she has the same goals in life as me.... Before we get involved....
2006-12-14 00:34:02 · 25 answers · asked by Fox Hunter 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
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ReeRee
2006-12-14 00:37:19 · answer #1 · answered by Ree Ree 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We do both... well i do anyway!
I have a life plan: kids, job, location etc... but sometimes you have to scheme to get the things that you planned!
I wouldn't be scared if a bloke i was just starting out with told me that one day he would like children because at least you know if you're on the same page or not! I think everyone should have this conversation very early on in relationships to save time!
Nothing worse than being with someone for 3 years to then find out that they never want marriage or children when that's what you want! I believe in compromise in a relationship but those are two goals i won't compromise with!
2006-12-14 00:58:19 · answer #2 · answered by Fay 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it is ok that you plan what happens in life,,,, but just understand that not everything you plan will happen like that,,,,especially LOVE,,, I think it is important to have some of the same interests in a relationship,,,but don't focus so much on the things they don't want and take them for what they do want,,,,maybe they want you and in time ,,,, maybe kids,,,,
you have to know each other and really have a strong bond and relationship to start a family,,,, and if someone isn't ready,,, I think it would be better to know ahead of time before she got pregnant and left you for what ever reason,,, ya know,,,,
but I think you sound like you have a good head on your shoulders,,and you know what you want,,,, but take into considertion,,, maybe the person you are asking about children knows what they want too,,,and maybe she isn't the one,,,
when you find the one,,,,you wont have any questions,,,, you will know,,, and everything will fall into place like a movie,,,, only their is no script,,, it just comes natural,,,and she will want and desire the same things in life as you do,,,,
GOOD LUCK, AND I HOPE YOU FIND THE GIRL OF YOUR DREAMS,,,AND WHEN YOU DO ,,,, NEVER LET HER GO,,,,,
I AM 35 AND STILL HAVEN'T FOUND TRUE LOVE,,, BUT I WILL ONE DAY,,, AND I WILL NEVER LET IT GO WHEN I DO
DAPHNE
2006-12-14 00:46:30 · answer #3 · answered by Daphne F 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are under the age of 20 you have no clue what having kids even means. You don't know how much added responsibility that means. You don't realize how expensive having even one child is. You need to grow up first! stop scaring little girls! And for God's sake do not start having sex until you understand at least a little of what your asking means.
2006-12-14 03:22:06 · answer #4 · answered by irbnmik 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nothing wrong with wanting kids or wanting to be sure the person you're with shares that. But choose your timing well. Women are dumb sometimes and read too much into the significance of what men say. Just cos you say you want kids she thinks it means you want kids with her! How illogical.
I dont think there is anything wrong with saying these things. Makes sense.
2006-12-14 00:38:28 · answer #5 · answered by teary chocolate 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well when you say you want kids before you get involved, your already giving her the signal that:
@ your too serious for her, she may feel intimidated becuz you've already had visions and she's afraid that you'll go too fast.
B) your not serious, but playing around and just asking for sex...
Oh, women plan for the future, yes they do...but scheme for tommorow...
2006-12-14 00:39:18 · answer #6 · answered by rhea 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should always have plans and goals. Your girl should have the same ones to be compatible. As for me, I dont scheme...thats sounds like you want to run them off.
2006-12-14 00:42:33 · answer #7 · answered by wizzygirl10 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey dude, that was a good way of finding oput what this girl was reall about, so mention other things to her and see if you and her are compatible and if she is then just give her a chance because some women are smart and she probably just said no to see your response, but date her a little more and if she does not grow up then my friend you need to startd fishing somewhere else
2006-12-14 00:45:54 · answer #8 · answered by VANCE 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
women do plan but it is a bit full on to mention kids to someone that your not even involved with yet . . . most men would run a mile if it was the other way round.
2006-12-14 00:38:47 · answer #9 · answered by Empress 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Im with you, theres no point spending 6months with someone only to find out that your goals are totally different.Lay your cards on the table from the word go.Im a planner
2006-12-14 00:41:25 · answer #10 · answered by Nellynoo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To tell u the truth they plan and scheme trust me it just dependes on how they feel and the situation they are in at any piont in time
2006-12-14 00:46:02 · answer #11 · answered by shiva 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋