I feel my fiance is not interested in me anymore!!!!! i think it's because we are too close to each other....& we have had too much time together!!! i know him since 5 yrs & just recently got engaged.....i think he is just taking me for granted now....
i know he loves me but i think the spark is gone.......i have tried all possible ways to get the spark back........he has not been like this through out...just recently...dunno y....
DOES THIS HAPPEN BEFORE MARRIAGE?????
ANY SUGGESTIONS ON HOW TO WORK ON THE SPARK?????
by spark i mean....little silly things guys do to make their girl smile,cuddling,kissing,importance they give, compliments they shower etc
2006-12-14 00:17:49 · 23 answers · asked by CB 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
first of all i think it's gr8 to get married to someone who u know for sooo long..........it just makes things simpler........i don't think that ur bf has lost interest in you...........but i do think that since the big day is arriving he may be a little apprehensive.........ask him if anything is wrong........you have had a really long relation so u can take advantage and communicate your thoughts and feelings with him...........but about the cuddling stuff..........i think every relation reaches a maturity level in which the touchy feely stuff is a little restrained........if you were to think in the positive way it's gr8 that your bf is secure and does not feel the need to keep impressing you.........i knw it feels odd for it to stop all of a sudden but u knw as far as guys are concerned they like to relax after the "chase" is over..............i think you guys should get a little space and relax your individual time also before getting married cause the fact remains that after marriage u guys r gonna b 24/7 with each other.........you are engaged to the man have confidence in your choice and just take a step backwards and relax.......as far as the spark is concerned i think since you have tried every trick just stop trying now........maybe he's thinking you r trying too hard to get his attention......also once u stop fussing about him maybe he starts to think and the spark may just come flying back..........all the best to u...........
2006-12-14 01:23:38 · answer #1 · answered by sasha 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to break it to you, but a lot of those cute little cuddles, kissies, compliments ..do go away after you marry. Guys usually only do it in the beginning of a relationship. Your guy just happened to stop before the marriage. This will happen in all marriages so its not necesarily a deal breaker. Believe me, this is a wifes major pet peeve. But if you both really love each other and he is a decent, loyal and hardworking guy then definetly go on with the marriage.. marriage can be fulfilling and wonderful without all the little mushies..it can still be very loving.
2006-12-14 00:25:54 · answer #2 · answered by jabbergirl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what you have analysed about the situation is right?i feel u have exposed too much of urself so the guy already knows u in and out and is bored .I don't think u can do anything about it except keep a distance for a while till he misses you,understands your value .The whole trick in the relationship is that he should always find you interesting in life ,in which every ways and every time .i SUGGEST you try to b a different person than what u r from normal life stlye which will make him curios to know more abt you.
2006-12-14 01:25:18 · answer #3 · answered by michele_miss2000 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if u want to get back the spark
then u have to become tough for some time
if u can then i have an idea
the idea is u just ignore him for somedays
then he will realise ur value ,ur value in his life
but for this u should have strong heart
i knw it's nt d easy task for which i m taking abt
but it can work try this for some days
u will definetly find some kind of sparking in ur fiance
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2006-12-14 14:43:30 · answer #4 · answered by cool 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi
I think its just due to some pressure of marriage.Since he loves u more previously now he is planning to make both life good and wonderfull and for that may be he is little nervous and he is giving effort for all wishes he want to do for his partner.
Thats why he is little worry and that r things he cant tell u before marriage.
So dont take tension and i think dont think negatively so early
because this r the things going to be harm ur marriage.
Feel happy and imagine a prosperous life with him.
2006-12-14 01:09:13 · answer #5 · answered by punit k 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe you all should take sometime apart like two or three days then when you get back together do something very sexy and romantic for him. I'm married been married for three years we have a beautiful son together and sparks are always flying, i think it's because we are apart for at least two days out the month. good luck and congrats
2006-12-14 00:38:53 · answer #6 · answered by life is short...live it up.. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
too close to each other? too much time together? no... not a chance...
guys often settle down & once they have this security, they don't feel they have to constantly try to win you over any more-- because they have you now!
you need to talk to him & go seek pre-marital counseling. it is always a good idea. lack ofcommunication is the number one problem in marriages today, so start working on it now.
why would he have asked you to marry him after 5 years if he wasn't interested anymore?
by the way, relationships ALWAYS take work-- especially marriage. it is all about WORK! but very rewarding!
2006-12-14 00:20:53 · answer #7 · answered by christy 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think its just cold feet. Every man (or male species) likees to plant his seed in all possible places ( Women I mean). Those are his instincts, though most are not aware of it. The thought of getting stuck to just one all his life arouses some questions in his mind. Its kinda strange to express. This usually happens to smart and men who are good with women.
I think he really loves you or else he would not think too much as he can always go around planting seeds after the wedding. Give him time, talk to him, show him that you love him. Dont expect him to be nice to you always, this is your time to be nice and silly to him.
Good luck.
2006-12-14 00:30:39 · answer #8 · answered by Joltbolt 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he has already lost interest before the wedding just think what it could be like in a year after the marriage. You may want to think about yourself and if you want to go through this again. You may not want to marry him. You deserve someone who will not lose interest in you.
2006-12-14 00:23:51 · answer #9 · answered by thisisme 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let me guess - you have been living together!
That is very common, because you haven't had the commitment and he has been taking you for granted. If you are living him, move out independently and let him woo you a little bit.
If you are not living with him, I'm betting there's something else going on.
2006-12-14 02:39:36 · answer #10 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋