Should my husband feel offended if I think that his relationship with females are too close for comfort?

Question

Or am I just jealous because he gives them more of his time than I could ever have.They think he is God sent because he always makes himself available to them but I feel as though i have to ask for an appointment for him to even spend time with me one day a week.When I tell him that he is putting everything that he is supposed to be putting in our marriage into his "friendship" he get angry.Thing is he has more female friends than males

Answer 1

Your husband should consider ur feelings..get male friends and hang out with them to give him a taste of his own medicine.

Answer 2

I had a couple of Male friends who were married and I when one of them started complementing me adn wanted to see me more often, I got a bit defensive and actually asked him to stop contacted me.

First of all nothing good could ever come from us having a friendship! End of story.

Your spouse should be your best friend and he is not being attentive to your needs as he should. It's a tricky situation to be in and your jealousy only shows you actually care, so don't think you are wrong.

Basically, make yourself back into the funny, friendly person you were when you first met, he needs to want to spend time and remember why he loves you, then the other female friends will fade into insignificance compared to his wonderful wife.

Start by dressing up a bit tonight and putting on some make-up, he, if he says you look nice, it means it's been too long since you last looked nice and he last noticed!

Take care and try to think of the positive things he does for you, it will help in trying to re-impress him, it doesn't work if you feel a bit bitter!

Answer 3

There's no problem with a man having female friends, mine does and it's fine. It can become an issue when he is taking the wife/girlfriend (the one he's supposed to be in a relationship with) for granted.

Tell him you feel used and taken for granted, that you love him but you feel it's one-sided. Ask him why he can't see this, how hurt you're feeling.

If he doesn't like what you're telling him, leave for a while, move in with a friend or family member for a week or two. Let him cope without you for a bit. Don't contact him at all, let him contact you instead. If he cares about you and your relationship, he will.

Answer 4

1. How well do you know these women?

2. Have you tried to be friends with these women?

3. Does your Husband encourage you to be involved with his friendship with these women?

Men LOVE to have their ego's stroked, but then who doesn't? I would try to be as involved with your Husband's Friends as possible!

If your Husband does NOT want this, then you need a long talk with him about the importance of your marriage! And most of the answers to your question may be correct.

If, like my Husband, your Husband is just better at being friends with women, your only concern is the (stupid, want what you have rather than work at getting their own man, inconsiderate) women who might take his friendship as an advances!

Hence, be involved with his Friends! Maybe you will make a new Friend! At least, you will have a "heads up" if the "friendship" is more than it appears!

Answer 5

Communication is the key here. Speak to him honestly and openly about it. If he's not prepared to redress the issue or thinks you are being out of order, then you know where you stand he has more time for them than you. Thats not right at all. Maybe he feels like a teenager again, having these women wanting to be around him, most guys would like the attention.

Answer 6

This is a hard one to answer...
I first thought that you were talking about co-workers.

If they are only friends...it is another story...

Jealousy apart, it does not matter if they are male or female...
Once you get married...you are supposed to spend most of your time with your wife...not with your friends.

So...next time he gets angry...put your foot down...and get angry back. Don't let him bully you. He is in the wrong.

How do you make him change his habits...
No idea...it pretty much depends what sort of a person he is and how much he cares for you.

If he does not care about you...he will continue seeing his friends.
Then it is time to start getting worried and jealous.

Answer 7

sounds like there is problems in this marriage, you should be the number one person in his life, and definiately, he should not put friends before you does not matter the sex,but i have to wonder, why he is spending so much time with them, if i was you i would put a stop to this and find out which friend, is wanting so much of his attention, it could be more then what you think!!!
some women go after married men, and the ones who say "we are just friends" are the worst kind,,,beware dear..keep your eyes open..

Answer 8

Well I say turn about is fair play. Get you some male buddies or start spending time you would focus on him online talking to male frinds in chat. Especially when he needs a shot of you know what. I bet he would change his views then. What is good for him is good for you in your relationship. Never forget that.

Answer 9

Jealousy is ok as long as you dont make jealousy ruin your relationship with your husband,being jealous only means you really love your husband,and you can be honest to him,tell him that you are honestly jealous because his too close with his other girls,tell him you dont want him to avoid all his lady friends but just to put some limitations,because you love him so much and its hurting you,theres nothing wrong on being honest,honestly sometimes guys love it,as long as you can handle your jealousy they wont get irritated on it,,,

Answer 10

I wish my husband would. Maybe you should get a group of "Guy Friends" and see what his reaction is, and make sure to attempt to pencil him in every now and then. I have more male friends than my lovey dovey, but he does come first as well as my family, however, my relationship differs, My honey and I are best friends.