What do you think about this?

Question

In my church we have single moms that are not married and everyone makes a big fuss and attention over these babies,
but the sin is not being addressed. There is nothing cute or adorable about being promicoius, but church memebers act like these babies are the greatest things.

My question is why arent these girls being taught right from wrong?
Why is this sin of sexual imoorality not being addressed? Why is this so readily acceptable?

Answer 1

Those babies ARE the greatest things. They exist ONLY because God created them. Perhaps the people in your church fuss over therm because their hearts understand that all life, no matter what the circumstance in which it came to be, is to be celebrated. The children should not suffer for the mistakes the mothers have made.

Also, if these single mothers have fallen in the area of sexual sin and become pregnant, it is obvious there is healing process that still needs to take place in their lives before they can trust and depend on the love of God alone. Women do not choose unhealthy relationships and give their bodies outside of the sanctity of marriage because they are promiscuous, disobedient, or anything like that. Some of them are wounded from childhood and it is harder for them to grasp the concept of a loving Father God, so they seek that attention from a male (it's not the case for ALL of them, but the odds definitely lean towards such a conclusion). EVERYONE sins. There's just was a bit more obvious.

Sexual immorality is a sin. But how do you address the sin in their life without LOVING them first. When someone KNOWS that they are loved, understands the heart of God towards them, it is a natural expression of their heart to want to live a life pleasing to God. LOVE them where they are at and help them get to where they need to go.

What if someone found your weakness or sin you commited and wanted to expose it and address it? Is that something you would feel comfortable with?

Answer 2

We have become desensitized to many sins. Unfortunatley, they don't seem so bad because they are all too common. This is a false sense of morality though. Sin is sin no matter how many people do it or think it isn't.

The baby is innocent, It's done nothing wrong. As for the mother, we don't know her circumstances. Things happen. If she is coming to church, or even if she isn't she can be taught what the Bible says. Just do it gently and not in an "in your face, you did a bad thing" mode. Just be a friend

and You guys have a Good CHRISTmas too

Answer 3

I have these questions too. I believe this shows where society has gone.
Have the girls stopped sinning? (And what about the others that are, but haven't been caught?). Anyway, our church has a single moms outreach. Twice a year we clean their cars, check them over and give them an oil change. When the cars are being worked on, the moms are at the church being ministered to by the older women. Most of these moms aren't even in church.

I would rejoice in the fact that the babies are alive and not a statistic of abortion. The congregation needs to love the girls...don't run them off, but also educate them. I believe the "church" is in the Ladies age. IE compromise and luke warm.

Answer 4

In our church we do not judge anyone. And it is not the church members' responsibiltiy to teach morals to the young people in the church. It is the job of the parents and in some cases, the ministers.

It would be a terrible thing to shun people and make them feel uncomfortable, especially in church. It isn't the baby's fault they are there so why not love them and fuss over them.

I COMMEND the members in your church for making these young mothers feel accepted in church and I think you should lighten up and join them.

Answer 5

I feel you. We have the same situation in my Church. My Wife, and I have wondered the same question about accepting responsibility for actions.

The mane concern, I think, is to avoid ostracizing them, and giving them the Love of Christ, and keeping them, and their babies in Church.

If we come down hard we'll drive them further into the World. We need to let them know that we love them, and their babies, even as we deal with the Sin Issue. I would not have a unwed pregnant girl singing in my Choir, for example.

We need "Mothers of The Church" like in Black Churches. Their Ministry is to Teach the young girls to be pure, and the young women how to be good Wives, and Mothers.

Answer 6

Ok, I think the church should be showing an exceptional amount of love for the child and the mother.
As far as the teaching, well, you have a good point, but they are probably afraid that they would drive the mother away if they condemned her too strongly.

Answer 7

Sin is an outdated concept. Single moms really work hard to provide for their children. Are you really going to withold support to them just because some old book said that they are bad? That's disgusting.

You have your own brain. Instead of being spoon-fed your morality, try thinking about the real issues here. Don't let your religion make you morally lazy. You have a single mom who needs support. Help her.

At least your other church members realize that these moms and their kids are going through a hard enough time without having to be berated for being "promiscous". Perhaps you should take a lesson from them.

BTW, your idea of "sexual immorality" is way outdated. Stop living in Victorian times and try coming up to the 21st century.

Answer 8

There is an old Buddhist story of an older monk and a younger monk walking along. They came to a stream, and there on the edge stood a young woman who was frightened of crossing.

Now, monks are admonished not to touch women, but the older monk offered to carry the young woman over the stream. The younger monk's mouth was agape, but they all crossed the stream, and the young woman proceeded in one direction while the monks walked in another.

Several hours later, the monks were retiring for the night when the younger monk said to the older one. "Master, I must admonish you. You know our guidelines strictly forbid us from touching women, yet you carried that woman across the stream."

The older monk said quietly, "My brother, I set her down hours ago. Why are you still carrying her with you?"

The "sin" you speak of happened months (or years) ago. Why are you still carrying that when there is before you a child to love and cherish?

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Answer 9

The babies are innocent victims and should be showered with love. To the second question you need to ask the leaders in your Church if you really want to know rather than just airing dirty laundry.

Answer 10

First off, are you sure each one has the baby from promiscuity? Maybe one was raped...maybe one's partner died...maybe one's partner took off. Even if they were promiscuous, who are you to judge? Judging is as much a moral wrong as anything a single mother could have done.

Second, you really cannot chastise a mother in front of her child. All that will do is turn her away as she gets angry from the treatment. If anything, I would be pleased that the mother has brought their child to the church in the first place and leave it at that.