my boyfriend and I have lived together for 6 years he says he wants to marry me when I get health insurance I have a bad back and he says he dont want to be responsible if I should fall or something. Do you think this is selfish of him or is he correct in his thinking?
2006-12-13 23:49:35 · 20 answers · asked by THORNIE 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I believe the contract says, for better or for worse
love me love my bad back
kick him to the curb
2006-12-13 23:52:09 · answer #1 · answered by iroc 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I don't think health insurance should matter because if you get married you can get on his. If you have been together this long and lived together this long this sounds to me like a ploy to not marry you but only you can make this decision. I know if you had health insurance you would feel more secure but you can't live your life around the what if's because what if he gets hit by a car tomorrow but what if he does not (hope not) but this is a what if that could or might not happen just like if you fall or something. Good luck with this if he is un willing to commit then maybe you should think about moving on but like i said only you can make this decision.
2006-12-14 07:54:28 · answer #2 · answered by i love my dog 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if i was you i would feel offended....i mean you have lived with him for 6 years, and he has enjoyed the benefits of this,,,what would he do now if you fell ??walk away from you, or is this all about money???
it is so cruel he would say he does not want to be responsible for you...loving someone should not have conditions on it.
i mean hasn't he enjoyed being with you for the last 6 years??? did you have health insurance in this time??
if he loves you , he would marry you health insurance or not...this is an excuse....
i'm sorry he is a jerk for even saying something like this to you. i think you should really think about if this is the kind of person you want to be with...how loyal he will be too you, if you become seriouisly sick or you back condition worsens...does not sound like he wants to be there to help in anyway.....well maybe a place to live nothing more..
2006-12-15 08:19:30 · answer #3 · answered by donttalkjustplay05 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The question is does he have health insurance? and if he does, if he married you he would be able to add you to it. I think it's a cop out or an excuse not to marry you, at least right now. Not to mention, how would he be responsible, does he push you down or something that is when he would be responsible, and is he that concerned for your back when and if the two of you have intimate moments? Like my dear ol mom used to always say " Why buy the cow if you get the milk for free?"
2006-12-14 08:03:45 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow i think that's an impressive excuse for putting off actually getting married but like everyone here says it doesn't matter what we think. Marriage is a personal commitment.
A good question to ask is this, if you asked him to marry you but said it was only on condition that he did x...y....z ..... how would he react?
2006-12-14 08:01:09 · answer #5 · answered by whippetgirl2 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, why doesn't HE get health insurance? then HE can add you to HIS health plan! oh, you can get your own health insurance, too.
he IS being a JERK.... bad excuse. how is he "responsible"???? is he NOT planning on HELPING you with your bills, etc. if you do get hurt?
come on dude... move on... this is a BAD excuse for some other reason for not marrying you....
2006-12-14 07:52:29 · answer #6 · answered by christy 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He doesn't want to be responsible for WHAT should you fall or something? Is he saying that should you become disabled, he wouldn't want to honor his marriage vows of "...in sickness and in health...?" Does he mean that if you are injured he doesn't want to have to work to support you?
You really need to have another conversation with your bf and ask him EXACTLY what he meant.
2006-12-14 08:02:09 · answer #7 · answered by kja63 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is probably planning to off you in the future. Watch out in case he takes out a life insurance policy on you.
2006-12-14 08:00:32 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree it's about how you feel but that is pretty crude. How can he expect you to trust he'll be there through sickness and health? What if it was him? I'd really think it over before you do marry him.
2006-12-14 07:53:49 · answer #9 · answered by pnutallergymom 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
WOW. Have you ever heard of unconditional love? If he loved you, he'd just want to be with you - regardless. He is selfish. What will he do if you ever have an injury or illness if you were married?
2006-12-14 07:53:39 · answer #10 · answered by Bondgirl 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋