excluding me. Another girl asked if I was going to the lunch and I said, “Oh, I didn’t know anything about it. I’ve not been asked”. So, as a 2nd thought one of them said, “Well, seeing as I’m not going to be here next week, you can have my ticket”. But I refused it. I thought it was such a cheek to ask me as a “second thought”. The sec who organised it all, went round asking if they’re going to the meal (including all temps and permanent staff), but I never got asked. I just overheard all the arranging. I was just wondering if anyone would have felt the same?
2006-12-13 23:37:59 · 19 answers · asked by Say It Like You Mean It 4 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
God I don't miss temping! I used to have things like this happen to me all the time. Once three women made a huge thing about passing around these chocolates ALL morning. They were actually leaning OVER my desk to offer each other them and not once did anyone offer me one. It wasn't that I particularly wanted one, it was just so pointedly rude. I was so upset I actually ended up calling my husband in the loos and bursting into tears. When I told him I felt riduculous he said I wasn't and what they were actually doing was bullying by exclusion.
I'm afraid temps often get mistreated - it makes the other workers feel more important. Offices are worse than playgrounds.
Yes I would have felt the same. We're all grown ups but it still stinks. Screw em. Get your friends to go out with you on the night. You'll have much more fun and will be able to tell them the next day that you too, have a hangover.
2006-12-14 01:07:08 · answer #1 · answered by Madam Rosmerta 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Ouch! That must have really hurt your feelngs! You were right in not going and they were extremely rude by not inviting you. The person who organized it may have had some reason to think you wouldn't want to come, but even if that was the case, you should have been invited. Take the high road and don't make a bid deal out of it. But, if you have a friend at work, you might just mention that you were extremely hurt not to have been asked and it will probably get back to the others, or if someone asks why you weren't there, simply say you weren't invited and don't know why you weren't included. Just leave it at that don't harp on it.
2006-12-14 07:55:34 · answer #2 · answered by Jane 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You should have accepted the ticket because it didn't come from the organizer as a second thought but by someone who didn't realize you hadn't been informed and wanted you to enjoy the lunch in her place. Then you could have shown up to the luncheon and say in front of witnesses ;" I'm sure it was an oversight on your part and not an intentionally rude act to exclude me. I'll just take my place next to you shall I?"
Thus making it difficult for her to discuss you and ruining her meal. Then leave early. Don't be angry with everyone in the office since they weren't responsible for the invites.
2006-12-14 08:01:23 · answer #3 · answered by GrnApl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thats out of order, they sound a right awful bunch! Keep your head high and try not to let it bother you!
On the day, make arrangements with friends to go out for lunch so you are not left alone in the office, dont feel down about it. Your freinds will cheer you up on that day!
If they ask why you did not come, tell them the truth, say you were not invited but not to worry you had other arrangements.
Bet your glad your only temp
Take Care
2006-12-14 07:47:39 · answer #4 · answered by benn26k 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry you did not get invited. But I don't know that I would think in was "cheeky" of the person who offered you the ticket to do so. That person may not have been involved in the planning, inviting, etc. (or if they were no realized that you somehow got excluded - they were not the one who did the actual inviting). So it was probably a sincere offer, not a attempt to insult or "second though" you. Sounds like an honest attempt to correct a mistake.
But like you, I probably would have turn down the offer.
2006-12-14 07:46:51 · answer #5 · answered by dewcoons 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
That sounds quite rude and hurtful! I would do 2 things:
1) contact my temp company and ask for another asignment;
2) when leaving let them know it was because of their exclusion and rudeness.
Sorry about that, it sounds like an awful place to have to work!
2006-12-14 10:00:00 · answer #6 · answered by sweetk8sassy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't take it in a negative way just remember you are temping and perm employees always see temps in a different light. You will get to go next Christmas, so don't worry and I am glad that you did not take that ticket
2006-12-14 07:52:32 · answer #7 · answered by stringhead3 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I actually worked full time in a company of around 60 people. The night of the Christmas party I was TOLD I had to stay behind and work. If they don't want to invite you then trust me it is a party not worth going too. Happy Christmas to you.
2006-12-14 07:44:35 · answer #8 · answered by Reg Tedious 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
i'd confront the person who organised it, outside work of course that way you can't get any comeback in work. i'd let him/her know exactly how i felt to be left out and ask her for the reason for not being invited in the first place. then if you are offered a place tell them you'd rather eat with pigs, well you would be anyway if you went with them.
2006-12-14 07:43:56 · answer #9 · answered by dooglepuff 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
That is extremely rude on their part. When they ask why you weren't there, tell them the truth--"Oh, I was never invited. It would have been rude to go otherwise." Take the high road on this one and if their faces turn red, they deserve it.
2006-12-14 07:44:05 · answer #10 · answered by Danagasta 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋