My family all believes in god and celebrates Christmas so I usually celebrate it with them every year. My friend told me that I was a pathetic loser to celebrate Christmas if I don't believe in god. She doesn't either and doesn't at all and gets all grouchy this time of year, she tells everyone that Christmas is the worst holiday ever.
I celebrate it with my family because that's the only time during the year that the whole family actually gets together, other than that we see each other but seperately. She says I only like it because of the gifts but my family really hasn't exchanged gifts since all of us kids got older. We just get together for family so why is it wrong for me to celebrate it with them? She says I shouldn't even go to Christmas with them if I don't believe in God. But I like seeing all my family together so I should be allowed to still see them.
What am I supposed to do sit in my apartment by myself on Christmas?
She says people who beleive in god are pathetic
2006-12-13 23:27:58 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
But I disagree, what's wrong with people believing in God? I don't see the problem I say people have their beliefs and people don't, so why bug them?
2006-12-13 23:28:45 · update #1
your not pathetic i dont believe in the christian god bu tmy family does and i still celebrate christmas with them its only a holiday. you can make it to be what ever you want. if you want to celebrate simply because the fact that your family does then great its a great time to be with your family. there is nothing wrong with that. you go ahead and celebrate and have fun with it
2006-12-13 23:32:15 · answer #1 · answered by lucifer 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't say you're a pathetic loser. You do need to work on your double standards though. Christmas is the celebration of Christ's birth, but most people just use it as an excuse to buy each other gifts and have a party and put up cheezy Santa Clause and snowmen decorations. Sounds like you've sort of fallen prey to that mentality. Sad that so many people have forgotten the true meaning of the holiday. I seriously doubt most people even know why we give gifts at Christmas.
2006-12-14 05:20:38 · answer #2 · answered by brevejunkie 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your friend is missing out on so much by sitting around brooding through the holidays. I don't believe in god either, but I LOVE Christmas. For me it is a time to show how much I love those around me. It's a time to put differences aside and just celebrate life. I go to a party every year at my Jewish neighbors house. There are christians, atheists and jews all together - and having a great time!
Don't give up celebrating and sharing the holidays with your family. Maybe you should invite your friend to join you and show her that it doesn't have to be all about religion. But whatever you decide, Happy Holidays!
2006-12-13 23:47:46 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
There are two types of Christmas. There is the religious Christmas were you sing hymnals and pray. And there is the Santa type of Christmas were you sing Christmas carols and exchange gifts from under the Christmas tree. These are two totally different types of Christmas. Sounds to me like you are celebrating the season and not necessarily the holiday. Celebrate away you choose and have fun while doing it. It sounds like your friend has the problem, maybe she is jealous. Could you invite her to join your family? Maybe you could show her the magic of the season, and then she will have a little holiday cheer as well. :-)
2006-12-14 01:39:17 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Christmas is about God. But it doesn't make you a believer to celebrate Christmas. Your friend has just had a bad experience with Christmas or God, and it has turned her away from it. Don't let your friend's bad attitude keep you from spending time with your family and celebrating their faith.
I was a Religion major in college and have been a Christian for several years, and I've always been told that God is like the wind. You can't see him, but you can see his effects. You can feel him, but you can't explain how. Just today, look for the God around you, and I'm certain you'll find it. Best of luck, God Bless, and Merry Christmas!
2006-12-14 01:21:45 · answer #5 · answered by GLSigma3 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Your friend is trying to make you feel bad for having a wonderful relationship with your family. Your "friend" must have poor relationship with her family and she is jealous. Don't let anyone make you feel guilty!!
A true friend would not say such an awful thing to you. I would remove this negative girl from my life. She sounds like a lost stray who has not found her place in the world. No matter what, enjoy your family every minute that you can. As time moves on, some will not always be around but you will always have the wonderful memories.
2006-12-13 23:58:43 · answer #6 · answered by candace b 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Your question is very valid. But Christmas isn't just about god. Its about the love of anothers, family, the love of nature, the love of who and how we are, and shouldn't be celebrated just once a year. This feeling should last all year.
If your views are different about christmas, then your family has to accept this. Much like death, I want persons the celebrate my death as they did my life, No morning for me here.
2006-12-13 23:37:49 · answer #7 · answered by Not Applicable 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Christmas is not solely a religious holiday. My family isn't religious, most of my friends aren't, and guess what, we ALL celebrate Christmas. It's just a nice family holiday, we have good food, a Christmas tree and candles. We don't usually do presents with Christmas; it's a Dutch tradition to give presents with StNicolas (Dec 5) instead of with Christmas.
Your friend needs to be a bit more tolerant towards others.
2006-12-13 23:35:41 · answer #8 · answered by Sheriam 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Have you ever heard the saying "Misery loves company"? Your friend has issues and wants you to be just as miserable. Ignore her and have a great time! Millions of people who are not christian celebrate the season in a secular way..a time for family and friends.
2006-12-14 02:01:48 · answer #9 · answered by KathyS 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everyone has the right to believe what they want. Don't allow your "friend" to rob you of the joy of spending time with your family. You aren't obligated to justify or prove why you want to spend time with them. Why should you avoid them because they believe in God. That's their business. They don't seem to have a problem with including you in their plans even though you have different beliefs do they? You can't make everyone happy but you can make yourself happy by doing something that you enjoy. Don't deny yourself the opportunity to be with loved ones. Life is too short and you never know what can happen from one moment to the next. There's nothing more sad than missed opportunity. Your friend sounds like a miserable person and misery loves company. She wants you to commiserate with her..
You should seriously consider getting a new friend in the new year. Oh and by the by... You have to acknowledge the existence of something before you can deny it.
2006-12-13 23:35:07 · answer #10 · answered by GrnApl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Christmas isnt just about God, its about families coming together and sharing the love and warmth of loved ones, your friend is ignorant in saying those that believe in God are pathetic, many of histories greatest thinkers believed
Dont listen to your friend, shes got some issues of her own to work out, go home and enjoy your family, its the one time of year that you get to see them all
2006-12-13 23:36:44 · answer #11 · answered by White Lightning 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋