There is this lad i like called dan and i was scared to ask him out for my reputation and we really liked each other and i have realised after these last months i dont care what people think i have flirted and realised i love him. But theres a problem he is goin out with my good mate. Im heart broken what should i do. Cause i dont wanna hurt my frend but dont want to stay feeling like this.
2006-12-13 23:24:00 · 5 answers · asked by polarbear_9214 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Ok now it seems as if this can be tough. At first you rejected being with Dan because you were to caught up in what others would say or think. Without admitting this you've admitted it. You sat back and waited until Dan has moved on. Now you want to be with him and he's not in a relationship with someone else, your friend. How is it that you're friend has come to be involved with someone that you're interested in? You spoke to your friend about Dan and gave your friend the opportunity to take your man. No one has told you when it comes to your man you have no damn friends? If they haven't let be the first to tell you. As you can see your friend has your man. At this point someone is going to be hurt unless you and your friend entertain Dan in a way that he can date both of you. Sounds crazy but that's the only way someone's not going to be hurt. However you need to talk to both Dan and your friend and let them know how you feel. Keeping your feelings about Dan from your friend isn't healthy. You need to be honest with everyone involved. You also need to let Dan know that he needs to be honest with your friend by telling your friend had feelings for you and has decided to date your friend because you never accepted his feelings until now. Dan needs to make the decision of does he want to be with you the person he originally wanted to have in his life or does he want to be with your friend the person he's with because you acted as if you didn't want him in the first place. Now you have to be prepared to be the one not with Dan, after all when he wanted you you were to busy worrying about your reputation and what others would think of you. You've more than likely hurt Dan and he may not be over that hurt. Hope for the best but be prepared for the worse. Your friend may not be willing to give Dan up that easily. If you want Dan you need to go get him and put a good fight (not physically).
2006-12-13 23:38:58 · answer #1 · answered by Pisces Princess 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well personally I think you should have taken the chance before. If you were so worried about your reputation before then you must not have had very strong feelings for this Dan guy. Your friend is with him and you can't do that to her if you are true friends. If they do break up then you need to discuss with her if it would be OK that you date him. You need to get your priorities straight.
2006-12-13 23:30:36 · answer #2 · answered by hotstuff_420_99 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The opportunity has indeed passed. Life is short act quickly on your feelings. Unfortunately chances usually only come once.
2006-12-13 23:27:18 · answer #3 · answered by audaciousfelon 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him that you have liked him for a long time.
ask him if he feels the same way about you.
and ask him to keep your conversation with him a secret.
2006-12-13 23:26:47 · answer #4 · answered by Jolene 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to ur friend
2006-12-13 23:30:11 · answer #5 · answered by â?¡Jei-Jeiâ?¡ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋