when you have something to say ...do you come right out and say it...are you aggressive about it or polite and assertive?...or do you hint softly with subtlety and just hope that people will take notice???...
2006-12-13 23:08:59 · 38 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It depends on how well I know the person. If I know them well I am far more assertive than normal.
2006-12-13 23:09:47 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have been told that I am very assertive in talking,,,,I don't beat around the bush and get straight to the point,,,I don't feel a need in playing games and I tell it like it is,,,Honesty is the best policy,,,,,and I am a very honest person,,,I think if we all were a little more honest,,,that the world would be a better place,,,,I do use politeness in my assertiveness,,,,depending on what the subject is,,,if it is about general topics like work,,school, financial,,politeness,,,,if it is about government, crime, or children, like child support,,,,I tend to be very aggressive,,,and I make sure that when I leave the room,,,they will all remember me,,,,and they do but not because I was obnoxious,,,,but because I was straight forward and direct and to the point,,,when I have a point to make,,,,,I MAKE IT.......
DAPHNE
2006-12-14 00:25:09 · answer #2 · answered by Daphne F 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It 's the way you say it. If you say it with a loud voice that is filled with attitude or with some smart comment to it that somehow belittles and hurts people somewhere in your statement then you are be aggressive.
But if it is state forward and to the point with a reasonable tone of voice you are being assertive. You voice should be confident which says 'I'm not saying that your point is wrong but I have a different view I'd like you to consider'. (Answer spontaneously, speak in a normal tone of voice, speak to the issue, my eye contact, hurt neither yourself or others with your answer) all of these are values of being assertive.
There is a very thin line between being aggressive and assertive it all depends and the your tone of voice and the way you present you point and also yourself.
2006-12-13 23:22:29 · answer #3 · answered by Dominique J 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People handle body language and voice tone in a particular way. When I am trying to get a message across normally I am polite, explaining what I am talking about and try to get buy in from the people. If that doesn't work, then I express myself as assertive.
2006-12-13 23:16:20 · answer #4 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Extremely assertive. Aggressive when I don't care about the outcome, polite when situation calls for it. I am a manipulator. I play chess with people. One off hand remark here, a push there, a soft touch there and voila! results with a minimum of fuss.
Remember: The best way to get someone to do what you want them to do, is to make them think the idea was theirs.
2006-12-13 23:12:43 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
"you hint softly with subtlety and just hope that people will take notice"
That's me all over. If they dont take the hint I hint again in a more obvious way.
2006-12-13 23:10:59 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm pretty assertive. Depends on the situation how softly or aggressively it is applied.
2006-12-13 23:11:13 · answer #7 · answered by Sir Digby Chicken Bhuna 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm hopeless when it comes to being aggressive- i just can't stand the hassle. However, if it was something very important- like somebody hurting a family member etc- i can turn in to a martial arts expert with the most scary verbal repertoire ever! Otherwise, i'm the last to speak out.
2006-12-13 23:13:55 · answer #8 · answered by brainlady 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It depends entirely upon the situation! My usual manner is to be concise and to the point, but in a polite fashion. However, in some instances, I have found it necessary to be quite insistent and agressive, because some people don't respond well to sublety. Oh, and if I'm dealing with someone whom I suspect is lazy, I can be quite pushy!
2006-12-14 10:43:57 · answer #9 · answered by Poster22 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not very assertive. If I've got something to say I'll most likely keep it to myself and think it over until I'm absolutley certain about what I'm saying!
2006-12-13 23:31:40 · answer #10 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on the situation.
But if you go softly with sublety, some times you won't have the choice to be polite and assertive, and sometimes, you don't have the choice but to become agressive because people won't listen to you. :)
2006-12-13 23:10:49 · answer #11 · answered by eth1_hifi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋