Middle children?

Question

Time and time again, I've heard the pleas and felt the sadness of middle children. I just feel I should spare this bit of advice. I know exactly how you feel. I'm a middle child too. To be honest, I've always felt out of place even in my own family and "different" from the other 2. This is called the Middle Child Syndrome. It's something I've never gotten over...It was worse in my teen years, I did alot of things to get attention; run away from home, smoke, bad company, etc. I'm 20 years old now and to be honest, the "middle child syndrome" has never quite left me. But I've learnt to live with it. You will too. It's easier to accept the things you cannot change then to fight it. Parents in general, love their children equally. However, each child is given different treatment whether they care to admit it or not. Often, the middle child is "neglected" in the area of attention.

*continuation* Don't fret though. Try to find comfort in your friends who are middle children too. Tell yourself you'll be strong and that you're still a bright, beautiful person. Chances are that you will often compare yourself to your elder sibling especially. I used to do that. But not anymore because I realise we're both unique in our own ways. As you grow up, you'll realise certain things - that sometimes although we may not like the circumstances we're born into, we can learn to love and appreciate the good things we're still blessed with and our loved ones. Good luck and remember that there are middle children like you all around the world who at some point or another will go through these same feelings of listlessness, loneliness and solitude. You're not alone. And your parents love you still. That's the most important thing to remember. [e-mail]

That's my email up there. For middle children who'd like to talk, share their problems, feel free to email me. I'm also on msn messenger. Take care and God Bless. =)

Answer 1

I am one of 7 kids that my mom and dad had.

I have 5 sisters and one brother and all our ages are 33,30,(27-me),25,21,17 & 11.

The only thing that bothers me is that my mom has "her picks" "her favorites" out of the seven of us and guess what i am not one of her picks and it hurts me so bad. I have brought it to her attention but when i tell her how she treats the other ones different than me she thinks i am crazy. She dosen't see it or don't want too but she does do this to me. It makes me feel like i am not good enough or that i am not even apart of my own family.
Like on my birthday my mom did not even tell me happy birthday and when it was my other sisters b-days she took them out to eat.

I only have one child but if i did have more than my son i would not ever treat one as if it were more important or better than the other.
I know my mom loves me and all but i cannot stand how i am treated like i am not as good as the next one you know.

I am sorry for your story too.
Thanks for helping people

Answer 2

I have 3 children and my middle child is also the only girl. she has always resented her brothers even though I made sure to give her that mother/daughter relationship time. We even had a girls day out on the weekends. my boys never had that.
still, she always feels as though she has been "slighted" by me.
She is now 19 and won't have too much to do with me and once said "we were never close" when i mentioned how close we used to be. I hope it is just a phase she is going through but maybe she just has the middle child thing

Answer 3

Although you are correct and alot of middle children do react this way it isn't all of them and it isn't always the middle one. I was one of three girls and I am the baby. I went to college got my degree, married have three great kids and am happy with my life. My "middle" sister as well went on to nursing school and has a good life although she is more independant and not as much a family person. the oldest was the one who did everything to get attention in and out of drugs running off to another state leaving her husband and two babies to do so. With my three it is my youngest that gives us all the fits and seeks attention but no matter what my mother never loved or treated us any different and I make no difference in mine I found what each ones special abilities are and we go with that they aren't all alike they are all seperate individuals and as parents of more than one or two you have to see that and work with it, if you treat them all like they are one then no matter what order they come in birth you are going to have issues.

Answer 4

Not all middle children go through this, if a parent is extra careful to be sure NOT to allow this to happen. It is really more of a parent problem than a 'middle' child problem.

It's all about being aware as a parent.

Answer 5

you know there are greater things to worry about you say you did a lot of things to get attention...atleast you had a family and people that cared for you think about all the children that are orphans and live on the streets in hunger with no one to care all around the world. I think you should be happy with what you have.

Answer 6

dont feel that way,all of us has different ability,show your edge but dont be conceited and dont compete either,keep yourself humble,love your parents more as well as your other siblings,,,then they'd see that your a big lost to the family

Answer 7

First born. each of the duty and expectancies, and no older siblings to look as a lot as for preparation. ought to do each thing first in the kin, so the father and mom make each of the blunders with the first born.

Answer 8

As a parent who is decdiding between having 2 or 3 children, your thoughts will stay with me as I decide. Thanks.

Answer 9

How would you like to be a cowboy that rides and ostrich or a train with square wheels on its caboose?
WE'RE ALL MISFITS!!!!!!

Answer 10

Have you heard about indigo children are you sure you arnt one of those!!!i think that you are!!!!