im a young adult. not so much strict upbringing but was brought up in a greek household where i was always told to have respect for elders/people and more importantly myself. Wasn't allowed to have a boyfriend until i was over 18. something which i wanted for myself anyway.All my friends had boyfriends during highschool and use to tlak about all the things they got upto and thought how did they know to do all those things!i dont think they're sluts or anything. it seems the guys like girls with sexual confidence. Im worried that when i do find the right guy i wont know all these things to do for my partner that all my chikas talk about but more importantly whetehr id want to do half the stuff anyway. im embaressed to ask my friends. do guys get turned off if girls are nervous and inexperienced. what do guys like/dislike
2006-12-13 23:02:58 · 8 answers · asked by Katerina A 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
GUYS ARE DIFFERENT JUST AS MUCH AS GIRLS ARE!!! I KNOW FOR SURE THAT THERE ARE A LOT OF GUYS THAT FIND AN UNEXPERIENCED,SHY GIRLS VERY SEXY AND EXCITING! BUT IT'S NOT THAT WHICH IS IMPORTANT. THE MORE IMPORTANT IS THAT WHEN YOU FIND THE "RIGHT GUY", YOU WILL KNOW WHAT TO DO! YOUR HEART WILL TELL YOU! HE WILL GUIDE YOU! LOVE DOES WONDERS! REMEMBER, NO ONE WAS BORN KNOWING EVERYTHING, WE ALL LEARN TILL WE BREATHE! DON'T BE WORRIED THAT YOU ARE DIFFERENT THAN YOUR GIRLFRIENDS. AND MORE IMPORTANT, DO NOT TAKE ALL THEIR ADVICES OR BRAGGING AS TRUE. THERE ARE NOT UNIVERSAL RULES THAT APPLY FOR EVERY MAN. EACH RELATIONSHIP YOU START IS MUCH DIFFERENT THAN THE PREVIOUS- IT'S LIKE THE FIRST TIME AGAIN! SO, DON'T GET NERVOUR COS YOU ARE UNEXPERIENCED. WHEN YOU MEET THE ONE, YOU WILL BE SURPRISED BY YOURSELF! YOUR HEART KNOWS!
2006-12-13 23:19:43 · answer #1 · answered by Stella 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Kat,
Here it is plain and simple,.. If the guy is worth holding onto, he's not going to push you into something your not ready for... and when the time comes (whenever that may be) that you start doing certain things... part of a good solid relationship is the fact that you spend time around the other person and are thus not nervous around them anymore... you spend time really getting to know eatchother and,... when your getting to know eatchother intimatly/sexually, you spend a lot of time getting to know what the persons likes/dislikes are,... theres absolutly nothign wrong with being open and honest about sex with your partner. The best relationships I have had are the ones in which the person I was with and I could openly discuss things of this nature, whether it be uncertainties, or things we wanted to try etc... Trust me,.. your going to be alright... like i said,.. just be honest,.. open,.. and have fun,... your partner should accomidate,... and if they don't,... find a new one :)
Have I had a relationship in which the other person was a bit inexperienced? Sure,.. but that just means the two of you can work togethor to aleviate that problem,... and theres nothing wrong with that as it can be quite fun :D
2006-12-14 07:31:10 · answer #2 · answered by Z 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hello katerina dear,
u always needed a BF, YOUR FRIENDS TOD ABOUT THEIR FRIENDS.you think they were more intelligent or lucky than u.
but dear all the guys don't have the same type of likes and dislikes.many guys get turned on with nervous and unexperienced girls.
it is not a cause to get emberassed but it is a cause to be proud of.sex is not a thing which needs anyb experience. it needs the feelings.
so look forward many handsome guys are looking for you.be happy
2006-12-14 07:19:26 · answer #3 · answered by friend 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only the flirt type of boys like girls to behave in that manner.if you want a real good type of friend do not be too open and wait for the right guy.
2006-12-14 07:11:14 · answer #4 · answered by ANU U 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should never feel pressured into doing anything sexually that you do not want to.
however, do not let yourself be tied mentally either. Trying new things is the way life works. We would never get anywhere if no one ever tried anything new.
2006-12-14 07:11:33 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If a m an really loves you he's not going to pressure you into doing something you feel uncomfortable with. He will be caring and understanding and put less emphasis on sex and more emphasis on being your friend
2006-12-14 07:06:54 · answer #6 · answered by Rocky 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you one day find the perfect guy tod o something like that with, he will be understanding if you tell him it is your first time. if he does not want to do anything because it will be your first time, he is not worth giving your virginity to. And that is something that will come naturaly.
2006-12-14 07:06:40 · answer #7 · answered by MOMMY2BE 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't worry, you'll pick it up. We're born to do it, its in our nature.
2006-12-14 07:10:10 · answer #8 · answered by b 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋