So there's this girl i like in my class. We've talked now and then, though it's been mostly about me helping her in class. (A few non class related convos) I had even gotten her # and e-mail from her and gave her mine (for the purposes of offering assistance) I had also asked her if she wanted to study together twice and it seemed like she possibly had time to, but when i had called or asked to confirm, it seemed like she always had some excuse. (whether they were real or not i don't know, would that even justify it?) We've also talked online a few times and even talked about maybe taking classes together next semester, but im not sure whether i should continue pursuing her or not....
I mean i don't know if she just see's me as a helper or what. Could she be using me? She seems somewhat flaky when it comes to meeting up, so i don't want to continue if it's going to be all for nothing.
Do i continue in my efforts, do i stop, do i take an alternate appproach?
What should i do?
2006-12-13 22:57:53 · 8 answers · asked by CRGuy 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
The only attempts i have made to meet up with her, Have been for the purposes of studying thus far. I'd like to try the ignore but the semester is nearly over.
I would also like to make an attempt to keep in touch after the semester is done, but i fear more excuses, though i did contemplate a suggestion to hanging out after the last day of class, but i wouldn't know what to do, or if i should even bother with that idea, plus i believe i would hear an excuse why she can't. (real or not)
There's even a "supposed" meet up this week to hand her some class notes she missed out on, though i predict she'll some how have an excuse for that, even though she's only hurting herself by not having notes.
so do i really continue? do i just stick to an acquaintenship? do i try for a friendship? do i even want a friend whose flaky..
I know im making it look bad, but im trying hard to see the upside of it if any.
2006-12-14 12:20:51 · update #1
THE SITUATION YOU ARE INTO REMINDS ME OF A SITUATION I WITNESSED WHEN I WAS IN HIGH SCHOOL. A GIRL FROM MY CLASS HAD PROBLEMS WITH MATHS, SO SHE BECAME FRIENDS WITH A BOY FROM OUR CLASS ALSO WHO WAS SMTH LIKE A MATHS GENIUS. HE HAD A CRUSH ON HER FOR A WHILE, SHE KNEW THAT AND SHE JUST TOOK ADVANTAGE OF HIM. HE WAS DOING ALL HER HOMEWORKS, HELPING HER WITH ALL THE TESTS, EVEN CARRYING HER BAG AFTER SCHOOL. SHE ALSO ALWAYS HAD SOME EXCUSE NOT TO GO OUT WITH HIM. IT CONTINUED LIKE THAT FOR THE WHOLE LAST YEAR AT HIGH SCHOOL. WHEN THE FINAL PROMP CAME, SHE WENT WITH HER OLDER RICH BOYFRIEND, AND THE POOR GUY WAS LEFT ALONE AND HURT(SHE PROMISED HIM SHE WOULD GO WITH HIM, THEN CONVINCED HIM SHE WOULDN'T BE GOING AT ALL, HE DECIDED THAT HE WOULDN'T GO ALSO. BUT AT THE DAY OF THE PROMP, HE CHANGED HIS MIND, CAME TO THE DANCES AND SAW HER HAPPILY SMILING WITH HER OLDER BOYFRIEND). I HOPE YOUR SITUATION IS DIFFERENT. THE BEST THING YOU CAN DO IS TALK TO HER ABOUT HOW YOU FEEL ABOUT HER, AFTER ALL THE WORST THING THAT CAN HAPPEN IS THAT YOU WOULD BE REJECTED, BUT AT LEAST YOU WOULD KNOW FOR SURE IF SHE'S JUST USING YOU, OR NOT, AND YOU WON'T GET BADLY HURT! OF COURSE, THERE'S ALWAYS A POSSIBILITY THAT SHE WAS SINCERE AND THOSE WERE NOT JUST EXCUSES TO AVOID MEETING YOU! MAYBE SHE'S JUST SHY OR ALSO AFRAID TO BE REJECTED BY YOU. GO FOR IT- FIND OUT THE TRUTH.
2006-12-13 23:11:34 · answer #1 · answered by Stella 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, do you help her study? is the only time she doesnt make an excuse to meet up the times shes needing ur help to study? If so, then yes she is using you. If not so, she might just have a legitimate reason to be busy. Also, perhaps she knows ur intentions, and do not know exactly how to let you know shes not interested?
2006-12-13 23:01:24 · answer #2 · answered by b 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For one thing, she's not using you. If she's giving you an excuse all the time, dont think she's lying. Either she is not interested or she feels nervous or scared. Give her some time to understand you..Just dont give up if you really like her..wait for the right opportunity to tell her how you feel..and try to understand her...just dont think or feel that she's avoiding you or using you...believe in yourself...keep the faith..
2006-12-13 23:08:14 · answer #3 · answered by xing eedna 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should stop.
Because she might not really be interested in you as in starting a BGR. She might just be interested with being friends with you.
Which could be why she always had excuses whenever you wanted to confirm the study sessions.
Think about it.
Maybe you should stop.
If you want to.
2006-12-13 23:04:08 · answer #4 · answered by Jolene 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be the Flame not the Moth. If you work on liking yourself and who you are you will find someone that likes you for that.
Dust yourself off and try again.
2006-12-13 23:07:37 · answer #5 · answered by FIRE § 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She just wants a geek to help her to pass her classes. Don't get your hopes up.
2006-12-13 23:00:16 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ignore her for some time. if she is really intrested she might show you in a way.
2006-12-13 23:03:58 · answer #7 · answered by ANU U 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i wish i new...
2006-12-13 23:00:29 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋