It's 7pm..I'm feeling blue, lost and hopeless And seriously speaking, I don't know who else to ask for advice so I'm asking it here in the hope that I'll get sincere advice.I'm 20,I recently met this guy of 25 (about 2 mths ago).After just a single conversation, he told me he feels he can completely cliq with me and that he had feelings for me.I found that hard to believe but I was complimented because of his good looks, good manners, approach, etc.I know this is childish infactuation so I havent given in to him eventhough he keeps pestering me to be with him in a serious relationship.What bugs me about him is that he "fell in love" with me so quickly.I've always believed that if you can fall in love so quickly with someone then you can just as surely fall out of love quickly.He's a nice guy and all.Sincere, loving..,etc. He had a violent past though.Basically I don't want to lose him as a friend but I don't want to commit blindly either.He refuses to take things slow.What should i do?
2006-12-13
22:43:47
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Thanks everyone for your advice. You know what, you guys are right. If he really cared for me enough, he'd give me time and let me take things slow. While I don't believe he's after sex (he's too nice of a guy for that),I do think he's emotionally unstable..and perhaps I should just walk away now before it's too late.Over these weeks although I insist on taking things slow, he's somehow made it like we're "together". Like it's an unspoken understanding. We've gone out alot and I like him as a friend. I'm scared of him though. He hasn't hurt me physically yet but whenever he gets angry, he punches the walls, etc and hurts himself.I wish there was something I could do to change him before I leave him but he just never listens. I've tried being loving,I've tried talkin to him...right now, it's reached the stage where he's saying that if I ever leave him, he'll commit suicide.He's attempted suicide in his previous relationship and I know he's capable of doing it,he's not just threatening.
2006-12-13
23:18:42 ·
update #1