Im pregnant and my fiance and I planned it, a month before the wedding he called it off and I have not seen him since. He has given up his job and sold his house. I do not know where he is and it's been months. His family do not know where he is and it been months, Im so hurt and about to give birth. It would make it easier if i knew where he is but last time I spoke he refused to tell me.
2006-12-13 22:27:04 · 22 answers · asked by oceanwaves 2 in Health ➔ Mental Health
Everyone tells you that he'll come back, i would tell you, if he does f*ck him.
What a coward. That baby is born, you slap a child support claim on him, and they'll find him.
Its unfair for him to leave you with a child. To chicken out of responsibility, and you have no choice, he can run from the baby, you cant.
This isnt about hormones, its about a broken heart, and yes you have to be strong for your child, but you also have to think about yourself.
You and your baby will have needs, and though you cant do this on your own, you might have to.
I suggest if he comes back, dont accept him. In such a hard time he runs like a coward. You deserve better than that. Youre brave. You've faced it. You accept your emotions and you have to move on.
Forget about him. Youre a mother now, you have a baby that needs you to be strong and there.
Best thing you can do, is next time you talk to him, you tell him you dont care, that youre going to sue him for child support, and he missed out on an amazing woman and what is no doubt to be an amazing child.
2006-12-14 00:04:12 · answer #1 · answered by mettophobic 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your feelings are strong and genuine. The way you have put it touches my heart. I think, you are an honest and brave person. It is quite understandable the way you feel right now. You need your partner present at a very important moment in your life, and in his life too. But please, right now, do not feel bad about this and do not think either that your fiancé is a bad person. There must be some reason, as people do not do things without a reason. But right now, your reason is important. Your baby that you are expecting is your reason. You see, your child will come in this world all alone, depending upon you for love and care. This is something that you and only you can understand. If you can share this with your child then you will never be alone, feeling helpless. My experience is that in this world stronger reasons prevail weaker ones and only true purposes eventually find their proper realisation. It is ok to feel sad, but you have no need to feel badly about all this. May God be with you!
2006-12-14 06:55:12 · answer #2 · answered by Shahid 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
What a shame men are shits arent they? No wonder your crying all day I would be too. Its a frighting time for you your about to have this new person comming into your life, your unsure if you can cope etc..Try not to concentrate too much on all the bad stuff theres nothing more you can do about that try now to concentrate on all the good stuff you ve got to look forward to your going to give birth to a beautiful baby soon whos going to need you to be strong for him or her if you do feel sad talk to your midwife explain the situation they can offer you support, dont dread the birth I have 5 children and theres no experience like it I heard stories about how awful childbirth is but I loved every minute of it and i ve gave birth to twins, your child will love you unconditionally, this time next year when your babys crawling around calling you mummy or mommy, pity you ex partner because he l have missed out on so much good luck I hope everything wrorks out for you
2006-12-14 06:41:57 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Hey girl, im not going to pretend to come close to trying to understand your situation here. i can only imagine whats going on in your life right now. Sometimes the thought of settling down can be rather daunting for some and although they thought they were ready doubts do begin to flood in. I am no one to judge your partner but i think that running away from his responsibilities which were already being made when he was choosing his actions in life, is no way to try and sort things out. You got to stick the problem right in your face so you can wrk on it or else it never goes away. I pray your partnerbegins to see some clarity for himself and make good choices but in the mean time girl you be strong for your baby and know that you are never ever alone when you have god and espcially with that beautiful gift growing inside of you. All the best for your present and future god bless. adios!
2006-12-14 06:37:30 · answer #4 · answered by Anastasia 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No offense but this guy sounds like a creep. Sounds like he is a major wimp and running from his responsabilities. I think his family may be covering for him when they say they don't know where he is - either way I would get a lawyer and they will help find him and pin him down to at least child support. There are alot of lawyers that will take your case dor pro bono meaning you don't pay them anything. Don't cry over this guy - at least you found out right away that this guy is a slimeball....just remember that when he tries to come back
2006-12-14 06:31:13 · answer #5 · answered by Tricia B 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i am sorry you are having this awful experience. He is a coward. now you have to face it on your own. i am on my own i have brought five kids up alone and my husband was no good. do not think this is the end of the world it is not. children are not young for long they go to nursey when they are two or earlier you can go back to school and study and they go to full time school when they are four in england. It will be lonely at times. try to get some couselling and talk to someone because you need it, its scary alone but you have your family. talk to God he cares. i am doing a degree now my life is full and i would not be without my kids, he is going to end up a lonely old man with no one if he carries on like this and you are going to end up alot better, i have grandchildren now and i am never lonely. what goes around comes around. concentrate on the future and making the best life possible with your child. You will meet someone nice in the futrue but get someone to talk to about things. take care my love God loves you dearly and this child is a blessing and so are you. You are going to be a strong minded tough woman. Do not be afraid read your bilbe God is with you. He loves you.
2006-12-14 19:12:02 · answer #6 · answered by denise g 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no solution to your situation. Only advice and sympathy from on lookers. It is difficult for me to believe his family does not know. But what if they do...do you really want a lo life like him back. Many excuses can be made for why he did what he did...but the fact is his love for himself is greater than for you. You are about to become a mother...the great role in life. The baby will only know that you love him or her. Be strong and o not allow his actions to affect you during a time hen your baby needs you most. I am sure there is a person that ill make you happy out there that has the balls to be a man. In our world today it appears may men have lost theirs. Yake care of the baby but more important love yourself.
2006-12-14 06:39:38 · answer #7 · answered by Wat Da Hell 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry to hear that your ex is such a bastard... Sounds like he is a real loser.
Hang on and be strong for your baby and yourself. You have a lil one to love, hug and be thankful for ... A man is just a sperm doner, we really don't need them :)
Hang in there the lil one will bring you more joy and happiness then any guy ever will.
If he never pops into your life again after the baby is born and when your child asks about their father you can tell them what really happened and when they come of age they are free to seek him out.
Don't be sad ... Be happy! You are having a baby.
2006-12-14 12:14:37 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am so sorry to hear about your situation. There is this website that I think would be worth you checking out, it is called zabaserch. I used it to track down my trifling baby daddy. All you need is his full name and it will do a search in all fifty states Also if you got a little extra cash you can do a full background search, that will give you his and close relatives information. I really do I hope this helps. My heart goes out to you!
2006-12-14 17:41:18 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Accept that he dosen't want to know anymore and get on with enjoying the birth and the baby. if you carry on thinking about the low life you will get in serious depression and this will effect the baby.
Keep your chin up for the sake of the baby, this will be hard i know.
Good luck.
2006-12-14 06:30:11 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋