Cut a long story short, we split up coz our relationship was getting boring. I'd slept with a few girls which she didn't know about, but when she started seeing someone straight away, and it hurt me (natural reaction).
We met the other day and she came out with it that she's been sleeping with this other guy, went in to detail and smiled as she said it. She used to be such a nice girl, but her friends have changed her.
Should i tell her that I slept with other girls so that she can hurt like I was when she told me?
I know revenge is wrong, but will it make me feel better about things?
2006-12-13 21:49:12 · 38 answers · asked by kris d 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
No,dont lower yourself to her level!
2006-12-13 21:54:11 · answer #1 · answered by Ken J 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would've kept a poker face and said "so, I've been sleeping with other people too, I figured that would be part of the deal" and then shrugged her off. She was just trying to get a reaction out of you and it obviously worked. The thing I'm curios about is the fact that you were doing it all along but yet you were hurt by her honesty. I'm sorry to say this but you have to make a choice, you can't have them all. As for telling her now, she will probably think that you are just trying to get even. I would let it go. That might only make matters worse and it makes you out to be an *ss.
2006-12-13 22:26:21 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She might have said what she said just to make you jealous. Anyway, she's slept only with one. On the other hand, you've been more sexually active than her. It just proves that you didn't really miss her. So, why would you care whether she's hurt or not? Why would it make you feel better if you took revenge? If you still feel all these things, it just means that you're still not over her completely. By telling her, you might change somethings, but let's just hope that you change them only for the better.
2006-12-13 21:56:18 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Revenge will only hurt you. She has found a way to relieve the boredom she, and you, felt. Maybe you should have said, when she went into the details you spoke of, that you might have still been together if you were able to talk then about each others needs.
You didn't so you need to move on.
2006-12-14 00:06:21 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It doesn't matter now does it. The relationship has ended and you're just jealous that she's moved on. She's happy with someone else and to be honest, you're going to have to live with it. I see your point about wanting to hurt her and get revenge because obviously she has hurt you by finding someone new so quickly. However, all you are going to do by telling her about these other girls is make yourself look bad. You'll just make her even more glad she's no longer with you - she'll be thinking thank god I got out of that relationship! She might even think you're making it up to get back at her and then you'll just look sad and pathetic. My advise to you would be just to move on and get on with your life. Find someone new and stop thinking about ow to get back at your ex - this is the way to make you feel better about things!
2006-12-13 23:29:26 · answer #5 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I was you I would try to find out for certain if she really has slept with someone else or if she is just trying to make you jealous. I have a friend that did that when she split from her guy and she was distraught when he told her he had slept with another girl. So be careful and know the facts first. i hope this helps.
Luv ya Kimmy
2006-12-13 22:00:57 · answer #6 · answered by kimmy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You were asking for that, when you decided to 'have fun' by sleeping with others girls while you were together. I bet you are not boring anymore!!! At least, she isn't. Face it, you lost a good girl because of your shallowness and move on...You are the one whom actually lost all, not her. At this point, she might be doing great with her new guy, ( her happy state is driving you jealous)so have a little bit of dignity and don't go play a low life again by telling that to her. Pretend you are still a good option and she lost a nice guy, even thou, that is not the reality.
2006-12-13 22:07:42 · answer #7 · answered by roberta10019 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You obviously still carry a torch for her because otherwise you wouldn't be wishing to be playing games of revenge and needing to ask this question if you weren't bothered. If your relationship was becoming boring, it could well have been your lack of talent for keeping her affection which drove her so quickly onto another guy.
Learn from it and treat your next girlfriend with more care, otherwise she'll become bored of you.
2006-12-13 23:13:06 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Friends don't change people but can help someone feel more comfortable with who they really are!
You have been a bit stupid because you are letting her manipulate you, you didn't want her & now she has to show you what you're missing! So what she is having the same crap s*x with the other as you had with her!
Don't let her draw you in......you're free to sleep with whoever you like without reporting back to her! ..........one thing though, maybe you also need to look at how shallow you are also behaving at the moment!
2006-12-13 21:56:34 · answer #9 · answered by punkyboygirl_24 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't do it . it would maybe make u feel better for a moment but its not the right thing to do .
what she did was very bad and selfish but than again , how old is she cause from what u write sounds like 14 or 15 ?
if i would be u I would search for someone else being more mature as she is . good luck
2006-12-13 21:55:31 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are actually the evil person in this situation. Not her. You are contemplating telling her that you slept with other girls only after you found out she's sleeping with someone else. Why didn't you tell her while you were with her? Coward.
2006-12-13 21:56:26 · answer #11 · answered by His Angel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋