My Boyfriend and I have been together for awhile now and now he says Im abusing him. I love him very much and I know that he loves me very much so Im not sure how this is happening. It all started with the fact his mom doesnt like me. Not too long ago she told me off and said some really mean things about me and our relationship. And I havent forgotten them so I tend to bring it up at least twice a week.They live out of state so when the holidays come around my boyfriend goes to visit and leaves me behind anywhere from a few days to 10 days at a time. We have never spent a hoilday together since we have been together. I get really sad and feel let down when he leaves me. I dont want to feel this way but I dont know what I can do. -So when were together I tell him how much Ill miss him and how I wish we could be together. He ends up feeling bad and saying Im abusing him. But hes leaving me to be with his family and I want him to be happy. I understand that but its still hard.
2006-12-13 20:52:11 · 11 answers · asked by hyebaby78 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You need to break up with him and find a winner. It's obvious that your family doesn't approve and you can't let it go.
2006-12-13 21:08:22 · answer #1 · answered by Sax M 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont think thats abuse. I do think however that he is being selfish leaving you alone during the holidays. If you marry him is he still going to be doing that? If so then he is choosing them over you. He is manipulating you into thinking your doing something wrong.
You should dump him and find someone who treats you better.
As for the bringing up what his mother did twice a week thats not such a good idea.
2006-12-13 21:00:32 · answer #2 · answered by Dovahkiin 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I do not believe that you are abusing him in any ways as you have a right to feel insecure about such things and he should reassure you instead of telling you that you're abusing him. I would think that it is his responsibility to be there for you especially after his mum insulted you. You should talk to him and remind him that you love him and that's why you're with him and if he reacts like this you might as well be better off without him.
2006-12-13 21:02:45 · answer #3 · answered by sweet 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
once he's abused you he will proceed to abuse you, and each lady once you. as long as he thinks he can damage out with it, he will proceed to do it. regrettably you're literally seeing part of his personality that couldn't replace till he does some thing about it. those who're abusive, you could't restoration that. they must be faraway from you and get some help on their very own. in case you proceed on with him, this is going to really worsen. in case you narrow up with him now and pass on, cut back all contact, then you actually will be fantastic and he will be somebody else's concern. although, you ought to have contacted the authorities and stated the abuse, and if it meant getting him arrested then that could've been fantastic because in the right he'd both get help for himself, or face the courtroom equipment for attack and battery. In both journey, the concern will be presented living house to him. Please do no longer stay in an abusive courting. Its no longer healthful for you, and this is going to absolutely no longer make him any more desirable ideal. he will actually worsen till he comes to a call to fix his topics. and there is not any longer some thing, as I stated, you ought to do to assist him.
2016-10-18 06:48:02 · answer #4 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Abusing you?!
Girl, you don't even sound close to being obnoxious. You sound a normal person who wants to solve her problems in her relationship and that's why you talk them with out with your boyfrined. It is obvious that and he and his family doesn't like you, and why he stays with you and says all this "abuse" crap to you is beyond me. He should be flattered that he has a caring girlfriend who expresses wanting to be with him during the holidays. If I had a partner who did not express that to me then I would be questioning if that person loved or even liked me. I think you would be lucky if you two were not together. You might want to start looking somewhere else that's better. It sounds like a huge mess to me.
2006-12-17 11:34:56 · answer #5 · answered by purringout 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hun the fact that you are even saying you understand is beyond me. I would have thrown his **** to the curb long ago. He should be by your side standing up for you!!! Alot of mothers bully the girls because no-one will ever be good enough for their boys and if a guy (even if he loves his mother) cannot stand up for his girl, you are much better off without him. You are after all the one he will spend his life with - not his mother and if he cannot stand up for you against her - let go of him girl.
2006-12-13 21:00:29 · answer #6 · answered by Aneska G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey, just find out the reason y his mom dont like u ,, but dotnt keep
on asking about the past to him it might no no surely b an abuse right,just try to forget things .nyways u r loving him and going to b
with him ,just make ur self happy ok .tcare
2006-12-13 21:05:08 · answer #7 · answered by rose 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would not call it abuse, but if he is telling you that you are, maybe he is insecure with himself. Try to explain to him your feeings without anger or frustration. Calm down and walk him through what you are feeling. He may come around and understand you and love you for who you are, inside and out.
2006-12-13 21:10:44 · answer #8 · answered by Vince L 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u're suffocating him by doing that.
why don't u try to get along with his mom and kiss her a**, maybe ur boyfriend would bring u to visit his family.
2006-12-13 20:57:33 · answer #9 · answered by Tartlettes 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Is it possible, that he just doesn tunderstand things from your point of view....try sitting and talking to him in regards to your concerns
2006-12-13 21:00:44 · answer #10 · answered by Mintjulip 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋