well when me and my boyfriend first start dating each other he asked if we could have an open relationship, he told me i had nothing to worry about since i'm his main girl...and like a stupid fool i went with it...now i feel like things aren't the same it's like he's lost all respect for me...i went on his myspace page and seen where him and this girl were talking about each others private parts..it's like he don't care anymore...is this relationship ruined by me giving him so much lead way???
2006-12-13 19:52:00 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I just have one word for you," Monogamy ". Now get out there and do the right thing.
2006-12-13 20:01:25 · answer #1 · answered by daizzddre 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your last chance at this relationship is to tell him that open relationship doesn't work for you anymore. Do it before some other girl did. But chances are, it will be your last day together, if you say it. If that's the case, pack your things, never look back, and never make that mistake (taking the "open relationship" crap from a guy) again.
2006-12-14 03:58:38 · answer #2 · answered by Snowflake 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Open relationships go both ways. If he wants to get personal with other girls, you have that same right. If he has a problem with that, I would suggest you seriously re-evaluate your relationship since that would truly indicate a lack of respect. Without mutual respect, there isn't a relationship.
2006-12-14 03:59:17 · answer #3 · answered by Erin D 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
An open relationship takes more time and energy... It isn't always easy... And if you think you are still the "main girl", then carry on... Surely you are getting your fair share out of the relationship too...
Perhaps if you are becoming jealous and insecure, you should dump him and move on... You are obviously incapable of having an adult relationship, then maybe you should stay single!!!
2006-12-14 04:07:36 · answer #4 · answered by Forlorn Hope 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are a dumb bi*tch. When you have an open relationship, it means you have no relationship. What the hell did you think was going to happen?!?!?! If you didn't have sex with him every night, he was getting it somewhere else. What the hell is the matter with you?!?!? Are you so blind that you didn't see this?!?!? He told you from the beginning that this was going to be the case. Now you want to change the rules of the game? You need to leave right away if you can't handle this. Women tend to have a hard time hearing and understanding what is being told to them. You need to wake up and get your head out of your a*ss and move on.
2006-12-14 03:59:09 · answer #5 · answered by Sax M 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
yall can either talk it out and he not do that anymore or yall need to part ways, as far as trust-its damn near ruined youll be looking over ur shoulder all the time when it comes to him, and if he doesnt see you as wife material or isnt in this for the long run, then he wont try hard enough to keep you, hell just try harder to hide his cheating ways, yall shouldve talked out the open relationship thing and what you think is onlimits and offlimits, but as of now its over, yall just didnt say so yet
2006-12-14 03:59:54 · answer #6 · answered by cherrybc032000 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Tell him what you think, I personally would not stand for it and move on, however my husband and I have an open relationship but are very faithful, try stepping back and looking at the big picture to make sure you really want the emotional abuse.
2006-12-14 03:58:09 · answer #7 · answered by Lindsey R 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
By you agreeing to an open relationship your basically saying its okay to see others. You should've known better than to allow this type of disrespect. Its too late now you can't hold him down. I think its best you end this relationship before you get hurt more.
2006-12-14 03:59:15 · answer #8 · answered by ♪♫♫♪ 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
truely,you never had a relationship,now some folks go for open relations,i say whats the point in worring about one,when all you are ,is bed buddies.to me it only takes me an him to do our thing,if he respected you he would only have eyes for you.an not equal you to his ho,s.let him go on swingin,be better than that,dont ever lower yourself to his standards.lrt him die with aids,you find yourself a real man.who dont need or want nothin but you.
2006-12-14 04:07:04 · answer #9 · answered by pooh 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First make sure they weren't just kidding around on myspace. If they weren't, leave him. Girls have to learn to not be tolerant when treated like trash.
2006-12-14 04:17:04 · answer #10 · answered by da_bigunit 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u should site him down and tell him u can't handle this anymore. U should tell him u don't want a open relationship... Tell him u want him to your self and that if that doesn't happen u are leaving him... tell him that u are getting hurt and feel like u are being disrepect by what he is doing.
2006-12-14 03:57:19 · answer #11 · answered by MFC 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋