question about sucide?

Question

what's the easiest way to do it?

Answer 1

If you are feeling suicidal now, please stop long enough to read this. It will only take about five minutes. I do not want to talk you out of your bad feelings. I am not a therapist or other mental health professional - only someone who knows what it is like to be in pain.

I don’t know who you are, or why you are reading this page. I only know that for the moment, you’re reading it, and that is good. I can assume that you are here because you are troubled and considering ending your life. If it were possible, I would prefer to be there with you at this moment, to sit with you and talk, face to face and heart to heart. But since that is not possible, we will have to make do with this.

I have known a lot of people who have wanted to kill themselves, so I have some small idea of what you might be feeling. I know that you might not be up to reading a long book, so I am going to keep this short. While we are together here for the next five minutes, I have five simple, practical things I would like to share with you. I won’t argue with you about whether you should kill yourself. But I assume that if you are thinking about it, you feel pretty bad.

Well, you’re still reading, and that’s very good. I’d like to ask you to stay with me for the rest of this page. I hope it means that you’re at least a tiny bit unsure, somewhere deep inside, about whether or not you really will end your life. Often people feel that, even in the deepest darkness of despair. Being unsure about dying is okay and normal. The fact that you are still alive at this minute means you are still a little bit unsure. It means that even while you want to die, at the same time some part of you still wants to live. So let’s hang on to that, and keep going for a few more minutes.



Start by considering this statement:

“Suicide is not chosen; it happens
when pain exceeds
resources for coping with pain.”

That’s all it’s about. You are not a bad person, or crazy, or weak, or flawed, because you feel suicidal. It doesn’t even mean that you really want to die - it only means that you have more pain than you can cope with right now. If I start piling weights on your shoulders, you will eventually collapse if I add enough weights... no matter how much you want to remain standing. Willpower has nothing to do with it. Of course you would cheer yourself up, if you could.


Don’t accept it if someone tells you, “that’s not enough to be suicidal about.” There are many kinds of pain that may lead to suicide. Whether or not the pain is bearable may differ from person to person. What might be bearable to someone else, may not be bearable to you. The point at which the pain becomes unbearable depends on what kinds of coping resources you have. Individuals vary greatly in their capacity to withstand pain.

When pain exceeds pain-coping resources, suicidal feelings are the result. Suicide is neither wrong nor right; it is not a defect of character; it is morally neutral. It is simply an imbalance of pain versus coping resources.

You can survive suicidal feelings if you do either of two things: (1) find a way to reduce your pain, or (2) find a way to increase your coping resources. Both are possible.

Now I want to tell you five things to think about.


1 You need to hear that people do get through this -- even people who feel as badly as you are feeling now. Statistically, there is a very good chance that you are going to live. I hope that this information gives you some sense of hope.

2 Give yourself some distance. Say to yourself, “I will wait 24 hours before I do anything.” Or a week. Remember that feelings and actions are two different things - just because you feel like killing yourself, doesn’t mean that you have to actually do it right this minute. Put some distance between your suicidal feelings and suicidal action. Even if it’s just 24 hours. You have already done it for 5 minutes, just by reading this page. You can do it for another 5 minutes by continuing to read this page. Keep going, and realize that while you still feel suicidal, you are not, at this moment, acting on it. That is very encouraging to me, and I hope it is to you.

3 People often turn to suicide because they are seeking relief from pain. Remember that relief is a feeling. And you have to be alive to feel it. You will not feel the relief you so desperately seek, if you are dead.

4 Some people will react badly to your suicidal feelings, either because they are frightened, or angry; they may actually increase your pain instead of helping you, despite their intentions, by saying or doing thoughtless things. You have to understand that their bad reactions are about their fears, not about you.

But there are people out there who can be with you in this horrible time, and will not judge you, or argue with you, or send you to a hospital, or try to talk you out of how badly you feel. They will simply care for you. Find one of them. Now. Use your 24 hours, or your week, and tell someone what’s going on with you. It is okay to ask for help. Try:

Send an anonymous e-mail to The Samaritans
Call 1-800-SUICIDE in the U.S.
Teenagers, call Covenant House NineLine, 1-800-999-9999
Look in the front of your phone book for a crisis line
Call a psychotherapist
Carefully choose a friend or a minister or rabbi, someone who is likely to listen
But don’t give yourself the additional burden of trying to deal with this alone. Just talking about how you got to where you are, releases an awful lot of the pressure, and it might be just the additional coping resource you need to regain your balance.

5 Suicidal feelings are, in and of themselves, traumatic. After they subside, you need to continue caring for yourself. Therapy is a really good idea. So are the various self-help groups available both in your community and on the Internet.


Well, it’s been a few minutes and you’re still with me. I’m really glad.

Since you have made it this far, you deserve a reward. I think you should reward yourself by giving yourself a gift. The gift you will give yourself is a coping resource. Remember, back up near the top of the page, I said that the idea is to make sure you have more coping resources than you have pain. So let’s give you another coping resource, or two, or ten...! until they outnumber your sources of pain.


Now, while this page may have given you some small relief, the best coping resource we can give you is another human being to talk with. If you find someone who wants to listen, and tell them how you are feeling and how you got to this point, you will have increased your coping resources by one. Hopefully the first person you choose won’t be the last. There are a lot of people out there who really want to hear from you. It’s time to start looking around for one of them.

Now: I’d like you to call someone.

And while you’re at it, you can still stay with me for a bit. Check out these sources of online help.

Additional things to read at this site:

How serious is our condition? ...“he only took 15 pills, he wasn’t really serious...” if others are making you feel like you’re just trying to get attention... read this.

Why is it so hard for us to recover from being suicidal? ...while most suicidal people recover and go on, others struggle with suicidal thoughts and feelings for months or even years. Suicide and post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD).

Recovery from grief and loss ...has anyone significant in your life recently died? You would be in good company... many suicidal people have recently suffered a loss.

The stigma of suicide that prevents suicidal people from recovering: we are not only fighting our own pain, but the pain that others inflict on us... and that we ourselves add to. Stigma is a huge complicating factor in suicidal feelings.

Resources about depression ...if you are suicidal, you are most likely experiencing some form of depression. This is good news, because depression can be treated, helping you feel better.

Do you know someone who is suicidal... or would you like to be able to help, if the situation arises? Learn what to do, so that you can make the situation better, not worse.

Handling a call from a suicidal person ...a very helpful ten-point list that you can print out and keep near your phone or computer.

What can I do to help someone who may be suicidal? ...a helpful guide, includes Suicide Warning Signs.

Other online sources of help:
The Samaritans - trained volunteers are available 24 hours a day to listen and provide emotional support. You can call a volunteer on the phone, or e-mail them. Confidential and non-judgmental. Short of writing to a psychotherapist, the best source of online help.

Talk to a therapist online - Read this page to find out how.

Depression support group online: Walkers in Darkness - Please note: this is a very big group, but amidst all the chatter (and occasional bickering), it is possible to find someone who will hear you and offer support.

Psych Central has a good listing of online resources for suicide and other mental health needs.

Still feel bad? These jokes might relieve the pressure for a minute or two.

If you want help finding a human being to talk with in person, who can help you live through this, try reading this article about how to Choose a Competent Counselor.

Answer 2

I wish I knew ...
I want to die every day ... Though I don't do to having to live this same shitty life all over again.

It is said that everyone has a lesson to learn and if it isnt learned within this lifetime then you will keep living it over and over again until it is learned.
So I figure it is best to just get through this hell and hope for the best for next time...

If you always feel this way, such as I ... You might be bipolar ... set up an appointment with your primary care phycian. Talk to him/her about how you are feeling ...

Your PCP will probably give you a Medication and give you a referral to follow up on how you are doing...

I have manic depression aka bipolar. I always felt as though I was nuts until I talk to a dr about the way I was feeling all the time.

Don't be scared to say how you are feeling when a dr asks. It can be more helpful then harmful...
Wish you the best of luck :)

Answer 3

Caitlyn,

I see that you are 12. What could be so wrong at that age that you are even thinking of this? I assure you that whatever it is, there are people who can help you.

I have written on suicide. It never affects just the one doing it. Normally, I tell adults that if they did it, their children would have a far better chance of seeing it as an option too. In your case, perhaps it would be some classmates? A younger brother or sister?

Still, the bottom line my friend, is there are far better ways of handling the problem then this. Please read the message linked below.

Answer 4

Not a good idea, whatever problems you have is fixable, even when it seems like it is not. Call a help line, talk to someone you trust, people suffering from depression may feel low enough to want to but there is help out there. There is no easy way to end a life, Life is what God gave you to live, and there is so much live out there for everyone, all you have to do is get pass what problems is in your life, and be strong, be very stronger, God bless you and take care.

Answer 5

If you are going to do it, you shouldn't look for the easy way to do that.
Try thinking harder. Make it more complicated.
Think, think and, think again. If it's not unique, don't do it.

By the time you finally figure out how, you probably don't want to do it anymore.

Life is great once you live through those F... S...

Don't do it.

But, if your question is for research purposes, I'd say hang yourself with a rope aroud your neck. It's likely that you will succeed because you can't control or stop it yourself.

Answer 6

here are some ways to end life.....you may hang yourself make sure you'll be using a very good quality of rope so that it doesn't break when you use it....or you can jump from the top of the building make sure the building is high to assure that you'll not be alive once you've already jump from it......or if you are not a swimmer dive into the deep body of water and let yourself be drown.....or you can cut your neck if you like to....don't try drinking poison or trying to overdose yourself with a medicine sometimes the effect will not kill you immediately and sometimes they can cure such so better not try....those are only some....but don't you ever try to do any of those I'm telling you it's dangerous, to you and to other people....don't you want to experience happiness anymore...you know the good times....laughters....tears of joy....

Answer 7

Why would you ever want to do that- God placed you on earth for a specific reason. You are unique and beautiful in your own way- find that within yourself. Talk to someone if you feel life is to hard to cope with. Try to learn to love yourself. Suicide hurts everyone around you more than you could ever know- Nothing is worth losing your own self worth. Let go and let god

Answer 8

I bet you are a cute, misunderstood girl, who feels that no one cares about her. Well guess what. I hope that somewhere in your mind, you can find in yourself that you have a lot to offer the world. Everyone's circumstances change day by day, minute by minute. And there is someone out there that can help you. And I feel that you are putting that question out there as a cry for help...even if you think that you are not.

Answer 9

Why are you asking? obviously you won't do it :)
ppl who think of killing themselves never take other ppl's advices.. they do it on their own cuz their pain in intolerable..
ppl who ask, discuss and talk about killing themselves only need attention..
i suggest u find someone who can give u all the attention u need.. that's the easiest way :)
good luck !

Answer 10

Do you always take the easy way out?

God loves you. John 3:16

Answer 11

I just tried to do it the day before yesterday.....cut my arm!!!!
There's no simple or easy way of doing it......but the person(like me) doesnt feel any pain when we do it......its just at the electrifing moment that takes us to peace!!!!

All day what i do is listen to depressing songs...Linkin park, eminem,papa roach and evanascence
or day dream(specially when my headphones are on)

and think about suicide....
You are just like me