mind you we are both 16. i didn't tell her that i love her because well.. at the time i really didn't. but my first thoughts were "wow she loves me" but i was wondering if i should have thought of other thoughts like "is she using me?". but tell me.
2006-12-13 18:43:28 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I think you're silly. If you don't love somebody don't go out with her man. Go with somebody you actually love, otherwise you're just wasting your time. And hers.
2006-12-13 18:44:50 · answer #1 · answered by winds_of_justice 4 · 0⤊ 3⤋
any new relationship seems very rosy, u are only thinking abt ut partner and stuff u wanna do together and such other things. that is the concept we read in books and movies. there are many new feelings that come to surface and we may not have experienced before - and especially at 16 years of age, all logical sense runs outta the window.
it is nice to know that somebody loves u- coz it makes u feel good abt urself - ur gf must have meant it but not in a mature way, maybe she thinks whatever she feels is love - even attraction or infatuation.
as for u - shud u have other feelings - if u do love her, why wud u have other thoughts, like is she using you? if they coem to ur mind then u are probably suspicious or unsure - take ur time and u will know what u shud do abt it.
dont rush things! all the best.
2006-12-13 19:01:11 · answer #2 · answered by Jinx 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Run like hell! Other than that, here are my thoughts on this....if she loves you so soon, how could it possibly be a lasting love if you didn't earn it? How can she know she loves you since you are both 16 and new to this whole thing? (or should be LOL)
Finally, are you ready for love - the lifetime commitment of being responsible for someone else's feelings?
I say get the heck away from her quick, but do it nicely and don't hurt her more than necessary.
2006-12-13 18:49:14 · answer #3 · answered by Star 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know honestly you will know when you are in love. I am 23 and have dated a couple of girls for over a year, and thought I was in love. You will know that you are in love when that person is everything you think about. When everything you see reminds you of her, and thinking of her always puts a smile on your face. When there isn't a thing in this world that you wouldn't do for her, and she is your world. I would say don't say I love you back until you know that you mean it, otherwise it can just put more stress on a relationship. As far as the whole 16 years old thing, you are never to young to fall in love.
2006-12-13 18:47:44 · answer #4 · answered by joecool71_3 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her to define love. Its puppy love and that's it, Both of you are to young she thinks that because she happy. Tell her after 3 days of dating how could it be love. Don't break her heart tell you love her in a different way and don't take advantage of her . I had a girl once tell me she loved me on the first day i me her but I'm older than you by 23 years, when you get older if it happens then you better run because the girl is insecure about her self and desperate. Enjoy your life while you are young Remember it's just puppy love!!!!!
2006-12-13 18:57:16 · answer #5 · answered by dogwood 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Both of you are 16 and only 3 days. C'mon you know this is infatuation. Live your life and enjoy it and dont rush to fall in love yet. Give both of you the chance to meet others and in 3 or 4 years, if you feel the same, then you tell her. Untill then keep mixing with others.
Good Luck
2006-12-13 18:51:03 · answer #6 · answered by sonisunny 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She doesn't know what love is. She's mistaking it for infatuation, which is probably what she feels for you. You have a few choices here.
First of all, you could explain to her that you don't like it that she says this after three days, and that she should save the words until after the relationship has gone from casual to serious.
Second of all, you could ignore it, and when you feel like you love her down the road, use the words "I am IN love with you," showing the difference between her notion of love (infatuation) and your own (love).
Or, you could talk it out with her and have her explain her feelings. Perhaps she has been infatuated with you for years, and is so excited to be dating you that her "secret love" for you for years is now able to be expressed.
2006-12-13 18:47:15 · answer #7 · answered by contagisblondnes27 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she is a teenager... and don't get me wrong, a lot of people know love, but most people wouldn't know what "love" really was at 25 much less 16. I wouldn't get too excited about it, but it's nothing to blow over either. if she does truly "love" you then she won't mind till you feel the same whenever it is you do (or if you ever do).
2006-12-13 18:46:48 · answer #8 · answered by melloncollieromance 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To be honest, at that age & for that short period of time, it is most likely not love. That is just the 1st phase of a relationship and is the most euphoric. It usually fades quickly & then you'll both know for sure how you feel.
2006-12-13 19:34:12 · answer #9 · answered by *ღ♥۩ THEMIS ۩♥ღ* 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should think, "wow - she loves me"....
Three days is a bit early to love someone in my book - but you're both young - if you like her, go with it. Just don't lead her on if you don't like her. That's not nice.
2006-12-13 18:46:50 · answer #10 · answered by karespromise 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She doesn't know what love is. Love takes time to develop, not 3 days.
2006-12-13 19:12:55 · answer #11 · answered by Suga 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋