We started dating when she was separated and getting ready for her divorce. Then she became pregnant. Well I was pretty sure it was mine but people told me to still try for a blood test since It could be the hubbys. Well I got in trouble alot for questioning if it was mine. I have lied to her a few times but I do love her. After the baby was born she finally got her divorce and we tryed to work it out. One night she stole my phone and would not give it back abd she finds a OLD text message to a girl that was nothing but a friend that said hey sexy. SO now she thinks I have lied again since i told her i just text my bro. and she wont give in and says i dont deserve another chance. I miss them both dearly, she wont let me see the baby.
2006-12-13 18:28:36 · 5 answers · asked by Kris D 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
First, you need to find out the paternity of this child. Talk to her ex-husband. has she told him it is his baby? Has she told him it could be someone elses baby? Maybe she is playing you both?
It seems no matter what you do you will need to take some chances. If she can't trust you and is getting over a divorce it may be best to leave her alone to get her head on straight. Seems like you are only fighting an uphill battle.
2006-12-13 18:31:50 · answer #1 · answered by BlondeBarbie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You've got a number of questions that need to be answered. Starting with the identity of the father. Is the ex paying child support for the latest baby? If so, did he contest paternity? If not, is she so wealthy she doesn't need the money? If you are the father, you're going to be the father as long as you are alive. That will never change. Point this out to her. Whether or not the two of you make something together, if you made this baby together you've got a lifetime (the baby's life) connection that is important and has to be worked out. Even if you're not the father it sounds like you still want a relationship. So, ask her if she wants a relationship with you...and if she's willing to work at it. Tell her you'll work at it also.
2006-12-13 18:37:56 · answer #2 · answered by judgebill 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh well, I think that she is wrong for trying to keep your child away from you and you should try to restore her trust again. But I must warn you dont go back into a relationship for the sake of a child because it never works out. Maybe for a while but eventually you would see the big picture and it woulf then be too late. You should try to make her understand your side and maybe she could trust you again. If she doesn't want you still to see your own child then you should get the law involved.
2006-12-13 18:35:58 · answer #3 · answered by *Pretty In Pink* 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay this is wrong on so many levels! First of all is the kid yours i mean did you have a dna test? Second your always gonna have problems with her becasue you had a kid together and had no relationship! Third You have a kid togehter ! so your linked for life! Good luck man! i hope you know what ya doing
2006-12-13 18:35:27 · answer #4 · answered by fine_ass_fatty21 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to her about it!
2006-12-13 19:10:00 · answer #5 · answered by cutiegirlask 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋