ladies, if you had a choice, would you want to have children?

Question

and could you back your answers with reasons too? thanks.

i'm undecided whether i should have children or not. truthfully it's more on the negative, but i'm going to get engaged next year and i am thinking about my boyfriend (we both love children, but i had a sucky childhood and i don't want to go through childbirth pains because i feel it's so unrewarding) so i was thinking... what makes us ladies decide whether we should have children or not...

your answers are greatly appreciated :)

Answer 1

I probably would have children, but only if and when I knew that I could totally support them in every way. And only when I am ready to be a mommy, until that time the answer is no. No because I think that responsible parents should consider all these factors before bringing a child into the world. It is the responsibility of the parent , not other people to feed, cloth and educate the child. So sort of yes and no here, but these are my reasons. I am sure the world is full of grandparents that love their grandchild, but is so tired of having to raise them.

Answer 2

One of your questions said you had a protected childhood. Now it was sucky? You say you and your boyfriend both love children but childbirth pains are unrewarding. The reward is a baby! You are seriously confused.

Answer 3

I had an abusive childhood. I also had 2 children that I never should have had. I started abusing my daughter, but the first time I did this (middle of the night) I left the house and never went back. My now ex husband raised them. They're a little wierd, but they had a peaceful life.

Answer 4

Well I made my choice already and I am a mom. Let me tell you something there is nothing in the world that can complete with the first time you hold your baby after carrying them for 9 months. Or when your little one says mama for the first time. Or when your little one gives you a kiss and a hug for the first time. Or when they laugh for the first time. Or the first time you see them smile.

I could go on and on but I'm sure you must get the point.

Answer 5

the truth is the only way a husband and wife is related is through their children, many people who i know who are divorced and have children said that given a choice they would have done it all over again (the marriage) even though they know the outcome, just so they could have their kids. and somehow i feel like it would be really meaningful say two hundred years from now to still have people here on earth with our blood running through them.

Answer 6

My husband and I have been married for 34 years. We have 4 grown children. When we were seriously dating and during our engagement we decided we would like to have 4 children. For seven married years we didn't think we would be able to have any children. Then we finally got pregnant. We have never regreted our decision. Yes, pregnancy isn't all roses and yes, there were lots of trials during their teenage years, but we are so grateful we have our children. They are wonderful, intelligent individuals and they have taught us so much. I look forward to our children marrying and having children of their own someday. Having children is very rewarding.

Answer 7

I had a crappy childhood too...but thats why I want to have kids, so that I can give a child the childhood that I never had.

Its not a bad thing to choose not to have kids, just make sure you are both in agreement

Answer 8

My dearest baby, dont afraid of being a mother. In nature the process is going on every where...who afraid of the pain...and pain is there....preparing for exams is pain....to go to morning excercise is a pain.....taking bath is a pain....even eating involves some action then it is also a pain...If our mothers...mothers...mothers...mother...would have been afraid of this great pain then , we the unique and most beautiful creation of GOD would not have been there.....A seed explore in pain but when rose bloossoms .....No ... nothing to afraid...it is a usual natural process....
And I want to convey it to you that my wife has always enjoyed this pain...
I tell you the real story of Kashi Naresh (king). He was to be operated for appendix. Doctor ask for anesthesia...but the king refused to take anesthesia because it has some toxic ingredients...and ask them to operate in his full senses. Doctors cut his stomach..operated..and when the operation finished Drs. are surprised how this can happen.They ask the secret how he is able to bear the pain of operation. The only thing that the king did was to concentrate on GITA during operation and thats all.He was seeing the activities of doctors without indulging himself. He was a different identity during the time. That was the rare example .....of "DHYAN" "MEDITATION" "concenteration"
It is practical ...we also EXPERIENCED IT when we are involved in seeing a best movie , dont feel the effect of wheather ---cold or hot. It is only when we knowingly become aware of cold we start shievring.....That is the mystery of PAIN.
Pain is a relative factor..at the time of delivery you think of beauty of the child ...face..nose...being young...then married ..then serving yourself in the old age....etc...etc..It is a great surprise to you...and when you finishes the act you are the most beautiful lady who had created something great. You have done what is expected from you...you have responsibility and your duty was to produce...to KEEP the process continued....it is itself a great satishfacion than Pain. Your baby is your own blood..created by you...you have produced a life on the earth...you are next to GOD...are not you ? Dont you like to have this great experience ? Being next to GOD. And ... while GOD is invisible and who has seen HIM...But you , the great creator, are visible GOD.
And the relation of mother and baby is unmatched ...love without any consideration ...love only for ...love....any sacrifice....upto DEATH.
Mankind bows heads in your feet with folded hands.. I at least.
GO AHEAD.....

Answer 9

Not in this day. Having them is the easy part. Raising them is something else. Have you not heard, that 10 is now the new 15. (We're talking age here) That's horrendous!

Answer 10

CARRYING A CHILD IN YOUR TOMMY FOR NINE MONTHS IS A VERY SICKENING AND TIRING TASK. LABOR/CHILD BIRTH IS THE MOST PAINFUL EXPERIENCE I'VE FELT. BUT WHEN YOU HOLD YOUR BABY IN YOUR HANDS, YOU WILL FEEL THE MOST WONDERFUL FEELING EVER. IT WILL WASH AWAY ALL THE DIFFICULTY YOU'VE EXPERIENCED IN HAVING THE BABY. SO DONT BE AFRAID, JUST GET READY FOR IT. GOOD LUCK.