My husband is attractive, but I always wanted to marry someone really tall with green eyes and dark wavy hair. He has none of those qualities. I know it is a minor thing, but sometimes I wish I could go back and wait for someone with those three qualities. I wanted my children to have green eyes. There are only brown eyes on either side of our families. How do I keep myself content on the fact that my children will never have green eyes or dark wavy hair?
2006-12-13 18:11:11 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
I believe that God(if you believe) has sent the very person that you have married into our lives for one very special reason. And sometimes it is not our business to know the answer to these questions. However, you would not have married this person if you did not love him. Looks are not why we pick out a person to spend our lives with. You picked this person because you loved him and he loves you. Look deeper into your relationship and love the man that you married not the childhood dream that you made up. Good Luck, and may God bless your marriage.
2006-12-13 18:23:24 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Are you serious? If you are being thrown by the potential crushed dream of your kids not having green eyes or dark wavy hair, I just don't understand how you're going to handle real life and all of the adjustments one has to make in one's expectations. Are you sure you're only unhappy with your husband for those reasons? Keep content in the fact that you have children, or that your children are healthy (with intact eyes and hair even), or that you're alive for another day, that you have a husband and people that care for you , and all the other zillions of blessings you experience every day.
2006-12-13 18:54:17 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sweety, the chances of someone having green eyes, really tall, and with dark wavey hair who is also the type of person you would want to spend the rest of your life with is slim to none. The guy could have all those qualities and be a wife beater, does personality even matter to you? And what if you find this guy and all your kids take after you and have brown eyes? It wouldn't be the end of the world. My husband has brown eyes and I have green, it would be nice if one took after me, but the important thing is that they are healthy! It is time for you to get your priorities in order. If your husband loves you and you love him, then let this fantasy go! I used to want to marry Justin Timberlake when I was in highschool, should I have waited for him and not have married my husband?
2006-12-13 18:21:34 · answer #3 · answered by :-) 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Is that really all that is wrong in your relationship with your husband? First of all, we can't expect to achieve such specifics about the people we fall in love with. Relationships run a course and you have had a relationship with this person which has turned into marriage. Specific desires such as dark wavy hair and green eyes, are just things that you've told yourself you want to have for some reason. If your relationship doesn't have any other serious issues, I'd advise determining why its so important to YOU and resolve that within yourself.
2006-12-13 18:22:57 · answer #4 · answered by soulfuljim1 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
1) You are a shallow b*ch.
2) Brown eyes are a dominant trait. Even if you married someone with green eyes, your children would have brown eyes so deal with it.
3) You are a shallow b*ch... Oh I said that already? Well it's the truth!
2006-12-13 18:22:37 · answer #5 · answered by DimensionalStryder 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Focusing on these "issues" is a substitute for looking at what is really bothering you. It is worthwhile to ask yourself what is it that you are trying so hard NOT to think about.
Get yourself to a professional counselor & work through your issues. Your life, your husband's, and that of your children will be blessed for your willingness to dig a little deeper & recognize this as the growth opportunity that it truly is.
It's harder to be real, but ALWAYS, always worth the effort.
Best wishes to you, now go for it!
2006-12-13 18:22:32 · answer #6 · answered by gettin'real 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel sorry for you...do you know not many woman can even have children and all your #@%& about is that your kids don't have green eyes..and wavy hair...be Thankful your kids are healthy and you have a man that loves..you.....!!!!!!!! There are woman that can't even find a man that loves them and you have a man...
2006-12-13 19:08:01 · answer #7 · answered by qdrama1956 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Not to be mean.. but from the way this sounds I do not think you will ever be happy or content with anyone you would have married, you seem to concerned with looks. I LOVE my hubby to death, he has none of the physical attributes I thought I would look for, he is better!
2006-12-13 18:15:05 · answer #8 · answered by notAminiVANmama 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
get him and your children green contact lenses and perm their hair wavy and make sure your kids drink a lot of milk so they'll grow tall! Look isn't everything though...gosh as long as we're healthy!
2006-12-13 18:33:58 · answer #9 · answered by xyz 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hi
I won't be rude. Just think of it as a fantasy!! I suppose that with all the replies you have read so far you have come to realise your luck of being gifted with your hubby and kids as they are.
We do not always get what we want and we should be satisfied with what we have.
Just think what would be your hubbys fantasy about his wife and what if you did not match. How would you have reacted??
Take care.
2006-12-13 19:20:34 · answer #10 · answered by amal 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋