boyfriend issue?

Question

Money issue?
me and my boyfriend are both students in university, i work part time and make money but he doesnt. His parents give him a lil money every month to spend. It is barely enough for gas and main stuff. I feel like he should get a job because his classes r relatively easy ( he's doin political science) and only has 4 classes i have 5 classes and im studying math and comp science so its harder on me. Any ways whenever we go out i pay for dinner and stuff , i usually suggest it because if it was up to him he'll jus go home and eat. I dont mind paying at all i make enough money but i just feel like he should get a job n get money so we can go out n have fun . I mentioned to him in a nice way to get a job for himself so he doesnt depend on his parents but he doesnt seem to want to . n he does pay sometimes but usually he makes it clear he's broke so i offer to pay.. ! am i expecting too much of him???

Answer 1

TOO MUCH OF HIM!!!! NO you do not!
If I told you that this relationship is already 'doomed' I hope you will consider your future without him..
From my own experience of nearly the same type situation,
I dated a guy in university too, and just like you, I paid for nearly everything we did together from money I earned working a late shift at our local supermarket which stayed open till midnight.
I worked 6hrs a day and went to school full time too.
My 'then' boyfriend got 'pocket money' (as he called it) from his
wealthy dad but always told me how 'broke' he was.
I began to resent him for hardly ever offering to pay for something, and I got tired of paying his way whenever we went out. To cut a 'very' long story short, I broke up with him after nearly a year of this. He then started dating another girl in our class but it wasn't long before she came to me with questions
about the exact same problem.
She broke up with him too.
It's now been many years since this happened, but I do know for sure that he has been married twice and is now on his second devorce. (and both wives devorced him) So to put it in a nutshell,
He '''IS''' a user and controller, and as long as he can leach from people he will. And I hope you've considered what type of future you'd have with a '''TAKER''' who 'rarely' gives anything.
Get rid of him NOW!!

Answer 2

I think it depends on what he does. If he spends every hour of the day studying (this usually needs to be done outside of class), then give the guy a break he is doing something constructive.

He may change when student days are over and his parents withdraw funding.(I did).

However if he hangs with mates or watches telly then either get used to the situation or find someone new.

Answer 3

Keep pictures of him around your room, and take a couple everywhere you go. Talk to him frequently on the phone (that helps a lot) Spend time thinking up something fun and romantic you two can do together when he returns. Focus on that. Try to think up new little details as the days go by. Mark his return date on your calendar, or create some sort of visual countdown, like a paper chain, where you tear a link off everyday that goes by. Read romance books, reading makes the time go by quickly and it will also make you feel warm and fuzzy about him when you are reading them. Plan out day dates with your friends or relatives and things to do to fill the time, so the days will go by quicker.

Answer 4

No, you're not expecting much of him. I think he's a chump. You should date some of the guys in your classes instead of him. I know you can find a nice guy out of all your classmates who isn't such a bum. I'm a computer science and math student as well, and I KNOW there are lots of guys in those classes. At least there are at my school. Good night!

Answer 5

Yea. He has to chose his direction in life and seems right now he has. If it bothers you that much, tell him how you feel like you have here, and see how he reacts. If he still fails to get a job, dedicate one night a week without him to going out and having fun with friends who can afford it. Good luck.

Answer 6

i've been in this situation before and it only got worse for the 5 yrs we were together. I would really question if you want to be with someone like this for the rest of your life. I decided I did not want to and I've never been happier. Please see your self-worth and don't watch all your hard work go to someone unwilling to pull their share through life.

Answer 7

first of all tell me when you both are going to get married.
be rational in your every approach, if you are earning tell him either to earn or don't meet with you. ask him to treat you with his own earned money ¬ to be a mamma's baby for long else he will get in trouble. if he truly loves you and respect you then only he is your true love and can thin forward else not

Answer 8

i dont think you are expecting to much i think he should get a job sorry to say this but any guy in a relationship should have a job if possible

Answer 9

you found yourself a loser. why should he get a job and work when you pay for dinner and whatever? he is a lazy piece of ****-find someone else.

Answer 10

!!!!!!! LOSER !!!!!!!!!

How can you even consider a future with a guy who doesn't have the initiative to get his hands out of mommy and daddy's pockets. You better ditch him or you'll be wiping his a** when mommy gets tired of doing it.