thing yet. i cant find the motivation to find out what i want for myself. im in peru right now staying at my girlfriends house with her mom. im not impressed with anything in this life. everything for me is so predictable and so empty. i used to be so happy and confident. now im so insecure and reserved. whats going on with me?
2006-12-13 17:49:35 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Other - Health
Don't worry about what you have or have not accomplished. Sweet person your only 23. Im 33 it took me till 30yrs old to accomplish anything.
What is it that you want to accomplish??? Try focusing on one small thing. Start very small, then it will build and snowball.
You say you used to be happy and confident. What has happened to change all that? Anything.
It sounds as though you might have a bit of depression and I would suggest to talk with a doctor.
Before you start making impressions of me. I went through depression medication free. It did help to start talking to people though. Whether that be a psychologist or counsellor.
During my depression my thinking was very all or nothing!!!! It was either very good or very bad. Its called black and white thinking.
I was once taught that there are many shades of grey in between. Just because one door closes or opportunity fades, doesn't mean life is over. Just get back on the "horse" and start again. There are no mistakes in this life. Just experiences.
Start a journal if you can manage it. Set a goal for the hour something you want to accomplish. It could be as simple as taking a shower, cooking a cake, taking a walk, looking at the flowers. Then congratulate yourself when you do it. If not....then its not a failure just try again later! Remember there are no failures or mistakes.
Later on try setting a goal for half the day, then a full day. When I was depressed my goal for the day was to get out of bed10am , have a shower, go to the lounge and then head back to bed at 10:30pm. Somedays I made it others I didn't.
Don't beat yourself up for what you haven't done. Be proud that you've done something however little that is.
Sweetie you have accomplished something. You have written this letter, you have acknowledged there is a problem, you are motivated to find out what is wrong, you've made it to 23yrs old. Jeepers creepers your in Peru.
I've never been out of Australia yet whilst all my other friends have been all over the world. I just shrug and say I will get there eventually, and if I don't then who cares.
I hope this helps.
Sincerely
Tania.
ps. dont beat yourself up. take it a step at a time.
Hugsss. Do you have any friends you can lean on?? Good friends???
2006-12-13 18:30:03 · answer #1 · answered by Tania S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow.. suicide. I dont think anyone makes the decision to commit suicide rationally. I know your probably not gonna like this response .. but i feel you have no intention of really committing suicide.. you just really want things to change .. and feel a lil trapped.. But ur 18 .. practically an adult .. so now it is time for u to learn the tools of strength to get you through MUCH bigger things than loneliness.. Be the changes you want to see in the world.. If you are having a hard time making new friends .. you're gonna have to realize the only one holding you back from happiness is yourself.. U have to push yourself and lay it all out on the line.. you may get rejected .. but u might not.. and since death is the only other option for u .. u have NOTHING to lose.. At this point if you are suicidal .. put it off.. do something OUTRAGEOUS.. try all the things u were worried and shy about doing .. cause it cant be annnny worse than death! .
2016-03-29 06:43:09 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, first off, having been deep in the depths of depression myself, I say screw the medications, pills, what have you. Why get liver damage to fix mental health? And before anyone starts thumbs downing me, I've been through this stage before. I've been there, and I know how it feels. My wife could be pregnant and my job has become more stressful. If I'm supposed to change jobs and support a family, when is the time to bite? Now? Maybe my job will get easier to me and the stress will die down. I do admit with you though, that life has gotten extremely predictable. I hate it when that happens. I think to be honest with you, you just have to ask yourself if you're honestly happy with where you're at right now. I always evaluate my situation. Every single day. Good luck to you.
2006-12-13 18:15:27 · answer #3 · answered by jokerscard692000 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Hey man you are ONLY 23. I didn't get my life on track until I was 26 and many people don't start to accomplish stuff until later in life. Get back into school, broaden your view point, read the autobiographies of some successful people. Get involved with some groups of positive thinking people. There is a great big world out there and lots of experiences. Go forth and conquer !
2006-12-13 17:55:15 · answer #4 · answered by BlkJac 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
In Peru? lucky you - isnt that something to feel positive about? get back in touch with yourself - look at the little things in life that make you feel happy and concentrate on these things. Find the courage to move onto something that will give you satisfaction- even if your not sure give it a try. Positive thinking can really help to change your frame of mind.
2006-12-13 18:16:01 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound like you are bored with your girlfriend, and what you are doing....You may want to consider a move, a new girlfriend or a new job......All or any of these might help. Plus, if this persists, you may want to see a doc to get some anti-depressants. They have helped me through some extremely bad times in my life. Don't give up on life, as there is so much life out there yet to live!!
2006-12-13 17:53:39 · answer #6 · answered by Lynn (AzCrazyGirl) 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you're just going through a common part of life when you feel bored and start questioning what you really want. Everyone goes through it. It helped me to keep a journal and do some self-reflection. Also, what helped me out of that phase was to go back and try things I thought I had "missed out" on. I hope this helps!
2006-12-13 17:56:56 · answer #7 · answered by Jen :) 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do you have problems like, no work, or no money, or no place to stay?
If not, you are luckier than a billion people.
You have a heallthy body and brain.
Don't waste it. Enjoy life and keep rolling.
No matter what will your future reveal, if you keep yourself heatly (mentally), you will eventually find your place in society and be happy.
Try to be happy right now.
It's easy.
Just give it another try.
2006-12-13 18:01:19 · answer #8 · answered by ed_buchmann 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you just need to take the time to explore your options. don't feel like you have to rush through life - you're 23! you're young! take the time to do only the things that you want to do and the things that you like to do. i think then you'll feel more accomplished, at least i always do after i play music (which is what i love).
2006-12-13 17:52:39 · answer #9 · answered by mighty_power7 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Relax. You are still a young person. No one said that by the time a person reaches your age they must have their lives in complete order. There are many great people who were 'late bloomers', you could be one of them. Worry about this when you are 40, not now.
2006-12-13 17:54:24 · answer #10 · answered by The professor 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋