hi..i really love my boyfriend very much.we have been together for 5 years now.even he loves me very much.but somehow i feel he is not like before more caring...etc..how can i make him love me very much...he tells me that he likes me very much even now....but i want him to love me even more
2006-12-13 17:48:30 · 30 answers · asked by shan 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Don't try to fix something that isn't broke! Don't make the fatal mistake of questioning him about it to death.. he'll just pull back even more. Try spicing things up. Call him up and talk sexy on his lunch break. Take a bubble bath togethter. Buy some new lingeie. Or do small things, like leaving love notes around his house, or not nagging him for the things you usually would. and flirt! Most people who are in long term relationships forget the magic of flirting (it got you together in the first place!) If things still seem weird after this, then feel free to talk to him. If he loves you, he'll understand how your feeling.
2006-12-13 17:57:37 · answer #1 · answered by ♥ BuffaloGirl ♥ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes men don't understand the feeling of women, and even though we love them to death is harder for us to express it. at times when we express how we feel it comes out the wrong way and insecurities proceed to make things worse. so talk to him many times and be patient if he is the type of guy that does not understand the first time then maybe you need to say it many times, but talk to him about how you feels and that it has been five years and that you are not feeling the love and that you would like a bit more attention, he might argue but let him know that he is not acting the same and that you would like to do more things together other than what you do now. But you have to let him know specially since it has been five years and you both should be comfortable in telling each other this type of things or at least you should be...
2006-12-14 01:57:04 · answer #2 · answered by beastmaster 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Shanthi v do you have some sort of measuring equipment that measures love??? There is no such thing as loving more or loving less. There are different kinds of love but no different quantities of love. The love that I am talking about is the love between man & woman coloured with sexual attraction, not the love of brother & sister, parents, friends etc. Love is TOTAL. The display of love may decrease with the passage of time because of familiarity, because of situation, because of age etc., etc. Let me explain: -
During the initial stages when two lovers are together (Boy friend & girl friend) both are discovering each other…the display of love (called passion) is very strong, but the love for each other is the same TOTAL. As time passes this passion becomes lesser, you get used to each other etc. but the love for each other remains the same TOTAL.
Situations like staying in joint families, the birth of children etc always affect display of love for each other, but the love for each other remains the same TOTAL.
Display of love for each other is obviously affected by the fact that we grow old, but the love for each other remains the same TOTAL.
Sweetheart I think that you should be very happy that someone loves you…need more display of love then flaunt more passion yourself…give and you will receive.
2006-12-14 03:43:43 · answer #3 · answered by the Tramp 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its nice to see the feelings you have for your boyfriend. Your feeling less cared for after spending 5 years in a relationship is normal. Partners often tend to take each other for granted after a certain period has gone by. Both of you need to understand. Waht you need to understand is that, if he no longer brings flowers and chocolates for you, it does not mean that he doesnt care. Time brings a certain amount of comfort in any relationship and the outer displays grow incongruent. You dont bring flowers for your mother each day, but I am sure you love her with all your heart.
But I understand that the relationship between lovers and that between a mother and a daughter differ vastly. So now we can talk about what HE needs to understand. My dear you need to speak to him and tell him how you feel. Even as you guys have spent five years together, that does not mean that he no longer needs to give expression to his feelings. You can show him what you need by doing it. Be more loving and caring and most importantly talk to him.
Remember no investment is too big to save a warm relationship.
Have a good relationship and a happy life.
2006-12-14 02:01:16 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
five years is a long time. congratulations, that is awesome.
your love for one another WILL change over time. at least, how you express it and what you value in the relationship.
I don't think you are talking about love, but wooing. He probably loves you as much now, or perhaps more, than the beginning-- but his way of showing it has probably changed--he no longer has to win you, you're 'his', now he just treasures you.
if you want to get him back into the 'wooing' mentality, I'd say try wooing him. try doing those little things to get his attention and show your affection that maybe you did in the beginning but have left off. and if he asks why the special treatment, you could encourage him to reciprocate.
good luck :-)
2006-12-14 01:56:02 · answer #5 · answered by Netty 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey, man can never be satisfied. It just that you look at it differently. He still loves you, its just that with time more and more responsibilities might have come his way but you think he doesn't love you that much. Remember in any relationship even in marriage things always don't remain the same, its different between the first day of marriage and 10 years down the line. That's life. Doesn't mean people don't love each other.
Give him space and let him be at ease..........relax and be patient.
Don't bring unnecessary doubts in your mind and don't pressurize him. He loves you, don't worry!!!
2006-12-17 13:29:06 · answer #6 · answered by raindrops 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well first of all i congratulate you and your b/f for such a long duration of relationship when approx. 70% breaks off within first year of affair. It happens that after so long period relations tends to fade. Even in marriages , after some years people start complaining to each other that they are not same as they were earlier. It is human tendency to look for new and exciting things. Normal is boring they say. so do something different to keep the light of love burning. and if you are mature get married soon.
2006-12-14 02:41:34 · answer #7 · answered by saurav s 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Show him ur love but dont force him to give u same amt of love may be he luvs u the same way as he use to before just give him sum space be caring but in limits dont call him 100 times wait for his call n then only call him there must be some problem going on just be calm n speak abt it to him may be that can help n just dont bother much let him live n make him understand that u luv him very much.
God bless u
take care..........
2006-12-14 07:13:14 · answer #8 · answered by pearly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry but you can't make someone love you. If it's not working out for you even though it may seem scary you should break up 5 years is a long time but you don't want to be with someone who you can't be sure really loves you do you?
2006-12-14 01:52:16 · answer #9 · answered by The_Game 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Shanthi... I know exactly what your problem is!
You love your boy friend for last 5 years. You are waiting for him to get married.
The boy was in so much love with you 5 years ago. And may be his love is gradually coming down. The reason is you are not married to him.
The only way you get his love back is to marry him at once.
2006-12-14 04:29:39 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋