she confided in me about it because we were talking about some problems we have and she told me that she doesnt always eat or else she binges or perges....i think shes an amazing person, more of a friend than just a teacher, and this is scaring me cuz i care and i hope she gets better...how can i let her know?
2006-12-13 17:48:12 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Mental Health
i was telling her about how i cut so she shared about her own ts more psychological and she is seeking professional help, im just worried and sad for her....
2006-12-13 17:54:05 · update #1
this is high school, she is a very young teacher
2006-12-13 18:08:47 · update #2
can i just say some ppl that answer questions here are so nasty and stupid.
Tha t aside as hard as it is there is nothing you can do, just be there for her and trust me i know that is one of the most frustrating answers there is but you can't change a person or take away their hurt, you can just be there and let her know that you will support her and still value her as a person. You have to know your own limitations. Just do pretty much what she is doing for you. The only reason she has told you is because she wants you to know that you can trust her and that she can sympathise to some extent with you needing to cut. Just make sure she knows that you value, trust and respect her. I know it's scary and frustrating that you can't do anything more. If she is already seeking help form professionals then all you can do is to be her friend. All the best. I feel for you both.
2006-12-13 18:03:42 · answer #1 · answered by colonel 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Wow, what a tough situation!
First of all, it's entirely possible that if your teacher is talking with you about it, she might already be receiving treatment for her eating disorder. If she isn't already getting treatment you can help her to find some, if you want to.
You could simply bring it up like this, "Hey, I just wanted to tell you that I think you're a fabulous teacher and I think of you as a friend also. The other day when we were talking you mentioned some eating issues that are really hard for you and it gave me a lot to think about. I've been thinking about it quite a bit. I'm really concerned because I care about you and I want you to be happy. Do you mind if I ask you if you're getting help, and how I can help you?"
If this is a public-school teacher, she most likely has health insurance through which she can access mental-health benefits, like psychiatrists and psychologists who can help her. There are also most likely treatment centers and support groups in your area who can help.
If she seems resistant to seeking treatment, this might be more difficult, because if you care about her, you won't keep it a secret if she needs help and isn't getting it. Again, if this is a public school, it's not necessarily appropriate to report it to the school administration because a person's medical condition is not their employer's business. But you could certainly seek help from your parents. If you happen to know any of her family members you could let them know.
People with eating disorders are often very good at hiding them and making everyone think that they are totally fine when they are secretly suffering. But if it gets bad enough, unfortunately, her work will suffer, and the school administration will notice and she might eventually lose her job. It would be much better for her to get help before that happens. With a caring student like you I hope she will decide to seek help now.
2006-12-14 02:04:09 · answer #2 · answered by drshorty 7 · 6⤊ 0⤋
You can do nothing about her eating disorder. It is her problem.
As a friend you can be positive and encouraging, but only she can solve her problem.
Talk to her more....(is this a high school thing? or a College thing?) If you guys are age appropriate....ask her if it would help to eat lunch with someone sometimes.
2006-12-14 02:07:39 · answer #3 · answered by Casey 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Nothing, except maybe send up a prayer for her, and be her friend.
She's an adult, and will have to work it out herself. You guys shouldn't really be crossing the line to be too good of friends. That can make everything way too complicated.
2006-12-14 01:57:02 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
get her checked up thoroughly at a good hospital, conduct all types of test as recomended by doctors, surely they will find the reasons and give treatment
2006-12-14 01:52:42 · answer #5 · answered by pali@yahoo.com 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well some teacher she also has a mental disorder of thinking as well for real.. she needs help
2006-12-14 01:50:35 · answer #6 · answered by gypsygirl731 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you shouldnt be a freind with a teacher, maybe she is lesbian and wants you!! it's not your problem, forget about it
2006-12-14 01:50:35 · answer #7 · answered by willcurrent 1 · 1⤊ 5⤋