what should i do runaway or stay if you pick stay what should i do to keep calm?

Question

my mom always hit me for crazy reasons and she always sneak in my room an listen to my conversations and never lets me go anny where she dont want me with a phone or drivers licens or a car she wont et me work where i want to work and she stay compairing me to older kids saying im dumb and ill never make it i have to sneak and do stuff cuz if i try to tell her she wouldent listen and shed fuss but i wont kno why and she always call me retarted and dumb and every time i try to do something good i think of her then i dont do it

Answer 1

ok, i grew up in the same exact situation.

i decided to stay and here's why.

if you run away, you will have a really hard time with money. if you stay, you have a good chance to graduate high school and go on to college. then you will truly be FREE of her because you can make your own money because you got yourself a really good job.

i think you should stay and get good grades...the best you can, so that you know you have the power to never depend on her again and that will make you proud of yourself and strong inside.

to keep calm, talk to your friends on the phone, go out to the movies, and get involved with as many school activites as you can to keep you out of the house. these also look good for a college to pick you.

i wasn't allowed a driver's liscense either. so i just made friends with cars and they picked me up!

i am telling you, you are NOT retarded and dumb and someday you will be a mother and you can treat your daughter how you wanted to be loved. for now you have to be your own mother on the inside.

good luck and i know you can stick it through. that is what is best for YOU, not for her.

much love.

Answer 2

Leaving this environment depends on your age and whether or not you have the means to support yourself...or if you have a place you can go to.

Leaving without an alternative home arranged leaves you in a very vulnerable position so think things through very carefully.

Your mother sounds like a pretty unhappy person, who is bitter about a few things in her life. If she has moments of happiness (excessive fast talking, makes big plans about current and future things etc and then sinks into depression mild or deep) she should be considered for Bipolar illness. This illness makes mood swings very evident and periods of anger can result in which she might do the things that you are describing.

Speak with a counselor at school if possible or your doctor, Pastor etc. Someone you trust and who has good judgement.

Whatever you do...DO NOT believe the things your mother is calling you darlin', don't allow the verbal abuse to stunt you or your possibilities...rise above them as best you can and if you find that moving out is your only option...be very certain you have a home to go to.

Take care and good luck

Answer 3

In addition to calling the authorities, are there any adults that you trust? A teacher? An aunt? A neighbour? A friend's mother?

You probably should call the police. But you're probably scared, and love your mother and don't want to get her into trouble. That's why you should talk to someone. Hopefully, they'll go to the authorites with you.

Your mother's abuse is not your fault! But try not sneak and do things that most sensible parents would disapprove of. It will only compound your problems.

Answer 4

Running away does not solve anything. If you feel you need to leave, you do have options. How old are you? Over 18, move out. Under 18, seek guidance from someone local. Go to the police, or a school guidance counselor and give them a brief explanation of what is going on. You may be able to file for emancipation, move in with a friend/relative, or have the state take care of you for awhile.

Answer 5

If your Mom is truly being abusive to you, you need to call the state and get help. Running away solves nothing but causes more problems because then 1) your Mom can have you arrested 2) she will be furious when you return and could get more violent 3) the streets are lonely and cold and your friends will only be able to house you for so long. I ran away quite a bit when I was growing up to escape abuse and all it did was make it worse. Unfortunately I wasn't able to get help until I became an adult and moved out on my own. Don't make that same mistake hun, get help now.

Answer 6

Running away won't solve any of your problems, you need to face your mother with respect an find out what the problem is. She may feel like you might make the same mistakes she has an she doesn't want you to travel that same road. For some reason or another she has lost trust in you, you need to find out why, Then again you might be a spoiled brat. You need to love your mother because one day you will be one also. Plus we don't live for ever. Try to love an don't lie we have eyes in the back or our heads. Get your trust back an don't Run away from your problems

Answer 7

Your mother is abusive and she is ruining your life. You need to find some help. If there is a relative or other adult you trust you should try talking to them. Or a counselor at school. If you run away you will be a child of the street and vulnerable to pimps and other people that want to exploit you. If there is any family, and aunt or cousin, please talk to them about this. I wish I could help you but I dont even know where you live. God bless, you dont deserve this treatment. No matter what your mom says, I know you are a decent person.

Answer 8

You need to talk to your school counsler. Your mother has problems NOT YOU. Her actions taken out on you are "'Reflections of what she feels about herself" I'm sure it hurts her - but she doesn't know how else to behave. She was probably treated this way as a child. But it still doesn't make it right and she needs help. And so do you. Because this is a disease and disease is contageous. If you left, where would you go. You can not go on the streets. YOu need responsible family or a good friends mother to talk to. I'm a mother and it broke my heart reading your question. You can email me at [e-mail] if you wish. But sweety talk to someone first thing in the morning - as soon as you go to school. PLEASE! Promise me this. YOur not bad, you mother is just sick and may have anger issues that she needs to learn how to cope with. Dont let this ruin you or stop you from dreaming and taking actions to be successful in life. God Bless you. Keep me posted.Nancy

Answer 9

look kid, if your mom is beating the crap out of you, run away if you think that's best, but imagine living on the streets. your mom listens to your conversations because she wants to know what you are up to. it's no big secret that parents do this. it's because we love our children and want better for them than what we had. she is sneaking in your room because she believes you have something to hide. Do you? it is a natural process when children grow up that their parents want to protect them, and to protect them, we need to know who your friends are, the music you listen to, the art you admire, journals you might leave laying around in plain sight, for us to investigate. it is our job as parents. it is also natural for the child, who is growing into a young adult, learning, seeing, seeking, finding, making mistakes, dreaming, scared, and wondering just what all the fuss is about. it's natural for you to want your own space and not have your mom going through your things. the best thing you can do to earn her trust is to be honest. if she is crazy beating you, tell a teacher or your school counselor, or your spiritual adviser. don't keep it a secret, violence is not the answer.

Answer 10

You sound very young. I am going to tell you something. Maybe you should go get a job. Something close to home. Start finding your own independence. I will tell you something else, mothers are ALWAYS going to sort of have their ears on their kids. Just be glad she wants to know. When I was a teen, My parents did not care. I would run away and they did nothing. You don't want to know what that is like. Trust me.