He or him..?

Question

tell me what shld i do pls.. i hv a bf. He is pretty ok for me. But the only problem is that he dont trust me. (for no reason) and also he restricted me too much.. i cant go out with my frenz.. and he always complain that i dont love him (but i do...) i am a good gal in everyone eyes.. and most of the ppl ard me feel that he dont deserve me. I near to give up.. i have tried to endure and uphold this R/S but im tired..
Recently got in touch with my ex-suitor then i get to know he still loves me.. and he says that is he has a chance he will woo me back again. Shld i let myself be a happy gal again.. or continue to endure this R/S?

Answer 1

BE HAPPY!!! Choose the guy that cares for you...

Answer 2

It sounds to me that your boyfriend has issues within himself that he needs to work out before he gets into any relationship. It's okay to be a little jealous, but some people take it to a whole different level. He should not be restricting you from doing anything that you want to do. You are allowed to go out and have fun with your friends. There is nothing wrong with that. In fact, spending time out away from each other from time to time is healthy for the relationship. If your boyfriend is exhibiting extremely jealous behavior like this then you really should consider leaving him alone. There are too many cases where the jealous psycho boyfriend kills the girlfriend before turning the gun on himself. You should not be with anyone who is overly possessive and controlling. I'm not saying that your boyfriend is crazy, but I am telling you to notice warning signs like that.
You don't need to be anyone to be happy. Most women don't realize that. I'm not sure why you and your ex broke up, if you feel that your he makes you happy, then go for it. I have a personal rule: unless there is an extenuating circumstance, never go backwards.

Answer 3

Now I myself don't think that anyone should be going through that kind of junk but you should know that to yourself as well. You have to know when you have it and when it is enough. You should move on yes to someone who would be more confident about a relationship with you. I don't think that its you that he doesn't trust I think that he doesn't trust women on the whole and he has a serious problem. He should see a shrink about this. You don''t deserve that. Now where as the old boyfriend is concern please don't go over the same speed bump over and over. Think about the reason why you guys broke up in the first place because you won't be like oh my relationship is so great that I think we should break up and you end up dating someone who has no self confidence right? Walk away from this and take a breather from relationships on the whole. Hey its okay to be scared of being alone but once you are going down that road you would find it nice not having to answer to anyone. You hae had one father you don't need to get married to one or be in a relationship with one. Take a breather because after that ordeal with the guy that you are with now you need some alone time. Don't relationship hop because that is very confusing and eventually you would loose yourself in the interchanging. You seem to be the type of person that would go where ever the wind blows but be your own person in a relationship. If he likes his eggs sunny sides up and you like yours boiled don't try to change to sunny side up stick to your boiled eggs. Be yourself in all your relationships.

Answer 4

Is the question whether we think you should be happy or remain in an emotionally abusive relationship? Do you really need someones permission to be happy? If you do then I give my permission, go be happy. Enjoy life, live for today because tomorrow may not come. Or stay with a guy who treats you like a dog on a leash and some day he will beat you to death. That is what happened to my cousin, she would leave a guy like you describe when we were high school. All of your Friends and I told to leave him, begged her to leave him. They got married had 2 kids. Then one day he beat her to the point that she died he then shot his 2 kids in the head and took his life. The only good that came from that is that he is dead.

Answer 5

If your thinking of going back with your ex then you really don't love your current bf. He has no right to tell you what to do and you know you shouldn't take this. Get back with your ex if the feelings are still there but then again there is a reason you guys broke up. See what you really want out of that relationship with your ex. AND dump your bf bcs he sound like a jerk!

Answer 6

Get out of the relationship now while you can. He is the possessive type and it will only get worse. You will become like a prisoner, and he will threaten you if you say you are leaving. I don't know if your ex-suitor is a solution to this problem or not, but if you can think of somewhere to go where you will be safe, do it right away.

Answer 7

In any relationship- trust is the most important factor. If there is no trust with one another, that relationship is going to have problems in future. Since he is restricting you from your friends for no reasons, you can imagine what kind of life you will have in the future.
My advise, dont commit yourself to this man but explore other options. Until this man is able to change ( which I doubt ) do not let yourself be lure.

Good Luck

Answer 8

You should never be with a man that tells you what to do! It only esclades to much worse senarios! When i first started dating i thoght it was cute i thought he cared and wanted me all to himself! Then it goes from telling you what to do to controlin what you do to controling your friends then your money then your life. And it can go all the way to getting beatings! I know i went down this path. Id leave now and if you were happy with your ex why did you guys break up in the first place? If i were you id dump the jerk then take it slow wit the ex! REMEMBER hes your EX for a reason!!!!!

Answer 9

First of all, which of the two do you love ("in love with" would be a better phrase for it) ? I mean If you don't love your current boyfriend as much as you love your ex why stay with someone you don't love ? You'll be thinking about the other guy, and that's not fair neither to you nor to your boyfriend.

Second, did you try to talk to your boyfriend about the problem ? I don't mean argue or fight. Talk to him and explain everything just like you explained here. First tell him that you have somethings to say and ask him to hear you out till the end. Then tell him that you love him, and that you trust him. Tell him that you want him to trust you. He has no reason not to. You love him and you are with him and not with some other guy. Tell him that you think he is too restrictive. You love to go out with your friends and have fun. He does want you to have fun doesn't he ? It's not like you prefere your friends over him. It's just that you love to hang out with them too (saying something like "I love to hang out with you more" would be a nice thing to say ;-)).

Avoid saying things like "I'm sick of you not trusting me" or "I hate it when you...". Talk to him gently and explain everything. If he loves you he'll understand you. Relationships are built on trust (reminding him of that won't hurt either).

Give him some time to work on himself. It will take a while. If you love him you'll wait patiently for him to adjust and change.
If you don't see any change (after you give it some time), then it's another story.

About your ex, again, think of who you are really inlove with and follow your heart.

Answer 10

Well it seems as though ur bf is dealing with some guilt issues are you sure he aint cheatin seein as to how hes always accusing you you probably need to look more into the situation because usually the guilty party is the most strongest accuser if thats not the problem than maybe he is depressed with himself and needs help I hope everything worx out 4 u

Answer 11

Go with the ex. The old guy is untrusting and possessive. He might change, in theory, but why risk it? Leave before he becomes too attached to you. Even if you don't have the same feelings for your ex, at least you'll be free of the current boy friend. If you don't make it well with the ex, you'll be free from them both. Good luck.