his mom does, but his dad is always distant with me, what do you talk about with your boyfriends DAD?
2006-12-13 17:34:14 · 13 answers · asked by Olivia C 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Sweetie, it is nothing personal, trust me. The dad doesn't know what to talk to you about, plus men don't really like to talk. My boyfriend's dads were always like that. Just small talk and I just kind of smiled. I guess you just comment on the weather, ask how his day is going. Comment on the lawn if you have to, lol. Try asking your boyfriend what his dad is into so you can talk to him about it. Goodluck.
2006-12-13 17:39:45 · answer #1 · answered by *~*~*~* 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I kinda know how you feel. For a long time, I was getting mixed signals from my boyfriend's parents about whether they liked me or not (like his mom for example; the woman would be super sweet, but then tell me I wasn't dressing properly...once on a family vacation she told me to wear a T-shirt instead of a spaghetti strap top with my PAJAMAS for Christ's sake! Like anybody would see me!), and then me and his dad don't really talk at all. Usually if the father seems distant--from what I've gathered--it doesn't really mean much. Some men just aren't the talkative type. It's more the mom you want to worry about how she acts. My situation's better now thank God, and hopefully your situation is better than that starting out anyways! If you absolutely have to talk to your boyfriend's dad, I'd suggest asking him about his job, or maybe his hobbies. Then maybe he'll open up a bit. Good luck!
2006-12-14 02:13:16 · answer #2 · answered by just an opinion 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Nothing strange. These distant are must in our culture. Mom is the other side of Dad and if she loves then take it for granted that dad loves you but the way to show to you is different.dont worry go ahead if all is O.K.
2006-12-14 04:15:03 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Geez!!!! I'm a parent---a Mom--I was always the nice, welcoming person. Hubby was the guy in the recliner grunting a vague hello to whatever girl passed thru the family room--he said after the first one "hell---there'll be 20 more after her". The one that made the difference was the one that stomped right up in his face and said "HI!! I'm -----------" She's now our daughter in-law!!
2006-12-14 02:03:20 · answer #4 · answered by fallingstar 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dad's are usually like that. Just be pleasant and friendly and say hi and bye. And don't forget to say please and thank you if necessary. I had a bf a long time ago who's dad was likethat and I hated going over there. But I was nice and he ended up talking to me one day and it was cool between us after that. Too bad his fine a** son cheated on me......
2006-12-14 03:38:33 · answer #5 · answered by Suga 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, that's sort of rough. But ask about what his dad likes and then ask him curious questions about it.
Does he like to hunt? Ask him if he's been successful lately and if he's gone out. Ask him whats in season.
If he's more into cars ask him what his favorite movies with cars are, or ask him to teach you something about them. Ask him what his favorite car is.
And if he likes something like football ask him about his favorite team and whatever have ya :)
My dad used to tease my boyfriends something awful, I remember being embarrassed when he came home one day and had my boyfriend fill out a questionnaire he'd found out. My boyfriend, in completely good cheer, and amusement I should say, actually filled it out laughing at all the questions.
2006-12-14 01:37:38 · answer #6 · answered by winds_of_justice 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just be yourself and talk about yourself to get the conversation started or look around and figure out what it is that he likes that the two of you may have in common. it could be that he has just had a really long day at work and doesnt like to talk much to other people. good luck :)
2006-12-14 01:38:25 · answer #7 · answered by monkeybread 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My father in law was (still is) a quiet man while I was dating my husband. Just remember to act like a young lady while you are in his home, treat his son kindly. Don't forget your manners while visiting .
2006-12-14 09:38:59 · answer #8 · answered by Chloe 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you dont have to talk to him just be respectful and all ways speek when you enter there house every parent is always cautious abut there child well being
2006-12-14 01:37:47 · answer #9 · answered by slpry L 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
on a funny note, maybe you remind him to much of his wife......just kidding. I wouldnt try to force him into talking about anthing. Just be yourself, and treat his son good. respect their house rules and he will come around.
2006-12-14 01:37:23 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋