My girlfriend says she can't trust me and never will, what can i do?

Question

in a long distance relationship

Answer 1

you let it go.

Answer 2

First of long distance relationships are hard and I must tell you that u have to have trust in a relationship because that is the foundation. If this cannot happen then you have nothing but infatuation because how could you fall in love with that person to further your relationship. I say that there must be a reason that your girlfriend doesn't trust it is either she doesn't trust you or she doesn't trust men on the whole. If this is something that you might have done in the past or shown to have unfaithful tendancies then you have to make her understand the situation that you were in at that point in time and also make her to understand that you would try your best not to be in such a situation agin that she can't trust you. Everyone deserves a second chance and if she really loves you then she would try her best to give you a second chance. Now if she is a man hater then my advice to you is to walk away from this relationship. You should talk to her about what ever is keeping her back from not trusting you because I think that there probably was a miscommunication error between you guys.

Answer 3

If there's no trust then there's no point believe me. Just go your separate ways. If she has trust issues or if you have done something to destroy her trust in you, the relationship just will not work, especially if it is long distance! She'll always be wondering where you are and think that you are out with other girls all the time, and since she lives far away she will not be able to reassure herself by paying you a visit or finding out from someone else...

Answer 4

Long distance relationships are always difficult but did some particular incident or comment spark off this mistrust or has it built up over the time apart? There may not be any conclusive Way to prove that you are trustworthy in which case you will have to make some tough decisions such as can you get closer together (transfer your job/college/prison to be nearer to her). You would also have to consider that maybe after you get closer together she still wont trust you. Sorry but this may all be the beginning of the end. Without further information its hard to suggest anything truly helpful to you.

Answer 5

well trust builds in time and not all people are the same , some can't trust unless they're always around but some can
sometimes it has to do with self confidence , but how you react is also important
she might say now that she doesn't trust you but if you do call her as much as possible , send her gifts and do all you can to see her or fly her down to where you live she'll see in time how much you're doing for her,
at least continue to email her everyday even if it's a simple i love you or i miss you and also make sure to tell her what's up and what you've been up to so she doesn't feel like you're hiding something from her

long distance relationships are hard to work out but their not impossible
i wish you the best of luck ;)

Answer 6

you can not have a relationship without trust. have you done something to loose her trust or does she just have difficulty trusting people? If it is the former, ask if there is anything you can do to make it up to her if it is the latter ask her what happened to make her unable to trust people.
Try to be understanding and patient with her, let her know how much you care and want her to be able to trust in you, also let her know that if there is no trust the relationship can't ever go anywhere.
Would it be easier for her if you lived closer together? would she/you consider moving nearer to the other?

Answer 7

honestly, if you havent done anything to make her NOT trust you than you have one of two choices. dump her because Trust is on the top for most important things in the relationship and if she isnt willing to trust you than EVER than your going to have a lot of problems. OR dont dump her and keep convincing her that your all hers, which can get really tiresome and not always worth the effort. But she could just have a past that she needs to learn to let go of and learn to trust people again with. good luck :)

Answer 8

I'd give it a miss pal , she's probably cheating on you, I was once in love with a young german girl that was here to learn better english , we were together for only 3 months but i ouldnt bare the thought of her leaving. Anyway we had our tearful farewel at heathrow and carried on being together although apart and i was planning to go to live in germany with her. Then came the worst phone call in history , the dear john call, i had felt it coming as i felt our connection becoming weaker despite my every effort to keep things sweet. Anyways I got over it and now im with a fantastic girl got 2 kids and ive never looked back (except to tell you this story :D )

Answer 9

Break up with her. If you don't have trust you will spend your hole relationship trying to win her trust and it ruins who you are as a person. It is different if she doesnt trust people you hang with but if she just doesnt trust you she needs to be alone and figure a few things out, before she can commit to someone. You dont need to live your life like that, it isnt fair to you or to her.

Answer 10

Tell her that all relationship is based on trust and without this, it can't exist. If she doesn't want to trust you, depending on what you have done or what has been done to her before by someone else, then you have to try and gain her trust. If it doesn't work, leave her and move on.

Answer 11

If she is not trusting you then you'll have to let go and leave her. Find another girlfriend and please don't go for a long distance relationship. Hope it helps mate and Good Luck.