i m very depressed,he ditched me.i need a councellor,where shld i go?

Question

i m a married woman .i found him in chatroom .he said he love me 4 last 3 months .now he doesnt talks wid me..ignores me .i m very depresed..1st i was sayin no 2 him...but now i m also in love wid him..cant forget him..what shold i do..plzz help

Answer 1

what i believe is we experience these kind of situation at least once in our lifetime.and it happens to more than 90% of people in this world but when we loose our loved ones we do cry for sometime but over a period of time we overcome the situation .
as time heals every thing -evry pain whatever it may be.
so u should forget about him and think about ur husband and ur family,
i know we all need frens ,making frens is not bad but donot forget ur responsibilty for ur husband and family,
as u could not share ur happiness when u were attached to that person ,now also u should not make them feel that u r upset /depress,
believe in god as it is all for the best

Answer 2

The very fact that you are a married woman is enough to make people ditch you. Because chatting is done for fun and time pass. There is no reality in it as you don't really know the other person. So in all good faith, think of it as a bad dream and forget it. Its not worthwhile.

Concentrate on your husband and live life in the reality scene, not on imaginary scene. It was good while it lasted, and now it is gone. Forget it and give your love to your husband and family. Involving in chat room romances is not good for your mental health. You may end being a nervous wreck after some time. Come down from the clouds and rest your feet on firm ground. HOPE YOU TAKE THIS IN THE CORRECT SENSE.

Answer 3

Being a married woman you know what the real world is all about. Now Siya v, Welcome to the “Virtual world.” Yes, everything in this world is illusory. Nothing is for real. That is why you entered this world to flirt around, you would not have indulged in flirting in the real world because of the repercussions you would have to face with your husband, family, friends and society in general…isn’t that right? Well even your relationship with this guy should have been fun but unreal. How did you allow a real situation to happen in an unreal world? Were you ready to take this relationship to the real world and face the consequences of losing everything that was dear to you??? If your answer is ‘No’ then since you are married please do not mix the two worlds and if you are unable to keep control, then I suggest that you cut out the virtual world and concentrate on making your real world the ‘Heaven’ it should be. On the other hand if your answer is ‘Yes’ then you have serious problems and better advised to seek professionals help

Answer 4

Firstly, please remember that you are a married woman. Do you want to jeopardize your married life over a cyber acquaintance? Ok, o he said that he loves you. Have you met the person? Not on chat, but in person? If not, can you be really sure that this person is what he portrays himself to be? It is very easy to cater to a person's needs in a chatroom. Maybe he got an inkling that you like him too and is trying to be difficult to get as he knows that he has baited you. I would suggest that you try not to think too much about this unless you have met him in person. If you stay online for a considerable amount of time, you are sure to find some other person who is nice. But I should warn you that cyber friendships and all is fine, but since you have a real marriage on hand, you might want to concentrate on making that much more interesting.

Answer 5

Besides the fact that you are married, you became attached to a dishonest person in the chat room. He was apparently insincere and was trying to manipulate you for his own reasons. You can be sure they were not in your best interest. You said NO because when it all comes down to it, you could feel this insincerity. You should be very proud that you came out of this situation still intact. All you need to deal with are the overemotional feelings that you are giving into. Don't let your life be ruled primarily by your emotions, as they will let you down. You need to assure yourself that his intentions would not have suited you. In any case, be careful and don't give trust to people that tell you they Love you. Unless they invest time getting to know you first, they are lying. Good Luck!

Answer 6

People say things in chat rooms they don't even say to their closest friends and family. The relationships develop under a cloud of anonymity and mystery. You think you know the person, but you really don't.
There is no substitute for the real thing. You need to see a person's face and eyes when you talk to them so you can see their responses and can tell if they are lying or playing. Chat rooms are just letters in a white box on your computer screen.

Answer 7

did you say you are married woman. i think the first thing i would do is find out why i'm not happy in my relationship. remember this person that you found on the internet has done this to several women before, just be thankful that he ditched you. talk with you partner and tell him you are not happy and see what can be done to make your relationship are better place for you. i wish you all the luck, get rid of anything that other person has sent you said to or ever done to you.

Answer 8

i don't know exactly how you feel. but i can feel, based on my experience of how i would feel in that situation.
i think that you need to let him go, if he doesn't answer you, it meens that he doesn't want to talk to you. for as hard as it sounds, is right, you have to deal with that. the first step is very hard to survive, but then, when the time passes, you will see that you don't need him, you can find another person as good as him, or even better. G-d allways has a reason for things to happen. that was just a prove for you to deal with this situation.
hope i could help you

Answer 9

I don't no if this will help you ,it helped me just knowing I wasn't alone that their were many of us out there with broken hearts.I can say this to you because I no what you are going through I've been there .You will get over this I no you don't think so but you will like the rest of us did.your pain is no worse then the rest of our broken hearts . I no you think it is. Your in all this pain and he could care less so why let him do this to you.

Answer 10

Just move out or else u will loose every thing it is better u forget him coz it will not go long. Engage urself in sum activities that u like n try to forget that person..............
God bless u