I met a guy 4 months ago that I really thought liked me, & I liked him a lot too... We took the same language class together, went to eat after class & got to know each other for several weeks when he suggested that we hang out outside of class.
He took me to the movies, paid $10 for my ticket, wouldn't let me pay him back; he took me to this place to play a song on the piano for me; he said he thinks I'm awesome & really nice; he sent me text messages in 3 different languages; he called me in the middle of the night just to talk; & he even said he liked my lip gloss 1 time.
Yesterday I told him I think we should be together, but he said I'm too young, even though I'm 17 & he's only two years older than me, 19. He said he thinks it would be inappropriate, that we should instead just wait for now & see "where it goes."
He also said he was very flattered & it took guts to do what I did.
I feel so disappointed after all that happened. If this had happened to you, what would you do?
2006-12-13 17:16:07 · 15 answers · asked by Exotic traveler 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Someone asked when I'll be 18; I'll be 18 in March, which is in like three months so if he ever wanted to do anything sexual (which I wouldn't agree to anyway), all he would have to do would be wait three months and it would be perfectly legal. I really think the whole "too young" deal is retarded, in my opinion.
2006-12-13 17:31:04 · update #1
I would enjoy the fact that he wants to be with me. And continue hoping for more. But don't pressure him. Because he's right you know. 17 is way to young to "be together".
Enjoy his special attention. And grow. At least you will always remember him, even if the relationship finally ends up going nowhere. The time with him is going to make a wonderful memory when you're old and grey.
2006-12-13 17:20:18 · answer #1 · answered by Anastasia 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Well that is very cool that he wants to wait. It is very commendable. But I think that he really does like you, but he is just waiting until you are 18! This very thing happened to my sister, she had a friend that was WAY older than her, they hung out and were like best friends. When she turned 18 ans was about to get married, that is when he told her that he liked her and had been waiting until she turned 18, they met when she was 13!! She still got married and her and her friend did not talk for a little while after that, they are now still friends and have known each other now for about 12 years, so I think that you should wait, and when the time is right, if it is meant to be, it will be! Good luck and I hope that this has helped you!
2006-12-13 17:22:01 · answer #2 · answered by fatiima 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know you are disappointed, but you should be proud of the fact that you had the guts to reveal your feelings, lotsa people in your shoes would have just waited for the other person to make the move, or be too shy, thus wasting time...from what you said, he definitely spent alot of time and effort getting to know you, and calling someone late late at night suggests a deep friendship...who knows, maybe he has other things going on in his life...listen, I am 32 and I have been there...there will be more times like this in the future when you have to "reject" someone who has feelings for you, and vice versa...try to get over the disappointment that the friendship didn't "evolve" into a relationship and try to be happy to have another good friend.
2006-12-13 17:23:47 · answer #3 · answered by jennycf2 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give it some more time and see what happens. At least wait till you're 18.
Also, he might think of you as a little sister or so. See if that's the case.
2006-12-13 17:22:05 · answer #4 · answered by Lotii 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should just wait 2 yooh 18 cuz he 19 and yooh not legal....now adays if your parents dont like him they could even press charges and he'll b a sex offender 4 ever
2006-12-13 17:24:01 · answer #5 · answered by CH 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He probably doesn't want to go to jail, so just eat some ice cream it will get better! he sounds like a nice boy!
2006-12-13 17:19:15 · answer #6 · answered by sleepyjeans23 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
at 19 guys aren't serious they are playing the field to date and ur 17 he cant get to involved even if he wanted to he can be arrested on reckless endangerment of a minor and statutory rape if he had sex with u. i mean if u got him to that point which we know u would. he was smitten by u .. he was turned on.. they get fickle .. leave it alone. his loss .he isn't into it..
2006-12-13 17:23:24 · answer #7 · answered by gypsygirl731 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep this going. When you are 18, things will be different, =)
2006-12-13 17:18:14 · answer #8 · answered by Zach S 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds to me like he is a nice guy and a smart one too. He is of age and your not. "see where it goes is right". He is right, so cope with it, if you cannot, then you need to grow up.
2006-12-13 17:22:05 · answer #9 · answered by m c 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the best revenge is to forget
just don't care about that and forget about it,
but if u worry about that it will frustrate you more, and u will feel unwanted, u will find ur ideal man soon, you are still young,
take your time
2006-12-13 17:19:57 · answer #10 · answered by Qariskaxoor 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋