How long should we wAIT BEFORE HAVING SEX ?

Question

my girl friend wanted me to come on here to ask how long should we wait before we have sex. we have been going out for 2 weeks.

Answer 1

In my opinion you should have sex after your sure you're ready to really commit to each other. You really aren't going to be committed if you give everything to each other in the first two weeks.

Alright the whole giving everything to each other in the first two weeks was a sort of lie, because sex isn't everything. But the point is this, you shouldn't have sex this fast. Think of the consequences.

1. Kid. Are you ready for one? No? Then don't have sex. Even using a condom and birth control isn't 100% effective. Nothing is except not having one.

2. STD. Yeah, one or both of you may be a virgin. But how do you know? It's not like your partner is going to up and tell you she/he has an STD if he/she really wants that sex.

I just don't think it's a good idea to have sex with each other, especially if you've only known each other for 2 weeks. Give it awhile, a couple years even?

Answer 2

For one thing, sex is a big thing. Think in relative of your age, romance level with the other person, and on natural instinct aka your personality in addition with your potential partner. Talk things thoroughly. If one is unable to agree, then just be patient because it is worth the wait. Then again, someone in this relationship could be a possible practitioner of abstinence. Forcing ones opinions or emotions is “oppressive” and unfair to the other person involved. To those under age, then waiting is the definite answer. Sex to humans is not a “primal” instinct anymore, but rather a “social” one. Think long and hard.

Answer 3

Well by your question I'd say you both are virgins--and whats wrong with that?? First of all you have been dating for 2 weeks and you just want to jump out there and get er done--Not --I am of old school and believe you should be in love --ya ya ya whatever you say but really I do--and the fact is that I have to agree that if you arnt ready to be a parent or get married than you need to rethink the whole thing anyway--Sorry not what you wanted to hear --or maybe it is --who is to say--if you are still in high school then why not ask your Mom or better yet her DAD--

Answer 4

When you know how to be a good father - just in case. the 9 months wait isn't long enough because usually it is shortened by a month or two and it takes longer than that to know how to be a father. I may be 13 but I have watched educational television!!!

Edit: AND ARE BOTH OVER THE AGE OF 18!!!

Answer 5

You should wait til you know you are in love. Sex is a big deal and it should be shared between two people who are truly in love. Ideally this is when your married, because that's when you know that you have found the person you love so much that you want to spend the rest of your life with. Is this the girl you want to spend the rest of your life with?

Answer 6

I would wait a couple months, but you should do what you feel is right. And if you are coming on here for advice you definitly are not ready. Just do what your heart tells you. And i would wait a while like when your in love with her.

Answer 7

WOW..ya'll have only been together for two weeks..your so not ready for sex especially since your asking complete strangers if you should..that tells me that you two are young and more than likely virgins..and by your screen name thing (hoes luv me).if I was your girlfriend I definetly wouldn't have sex with you..people who put stuff like that are really immature..but neways you two really should wait til you get to know each other better (that comment is especially for your girlfriend..gurl you need to get to know him better and see him for who he really is..and if he's worth it..if your a virgin ima tell you know, he doesn't seem like the kind of guy you should give it up to b/c i promise you, you will regret it later!!)

Answer 8

I personally consider two months the absolute minimum for having sex. You've only been going out for two weeks...you shouldn't even be thinking about sex yet. Maybe think about working on trust, or respect. Is sex all you guys think about?

Answer 9

you should have had sex 1 week and 6 days ago..haha just kidding...maaayyybbbeeee 2 more weeks...or if you are reaally into waiting just wait till your married i know most people like to hear that.

Answer 10

If you need to ask you aren't ready. It should be at least 5 years if you are under 21. you need to establish the means to be able to implement plan B if the need arises while you can. Plan B: To support a family on a teenage wage.