I mean, in one hand you have your Mum who has braught you up till so far...
and the othe one is the love of your life.
How are you gonna tackle the situation..
and even worse if she's not from your religion !!!!
Please do reply as sooon as possible .....
2006-12-13 17:00:36 · 14 answers · asked by zubi k 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
That's an extremely tough question!
There are so many variables. Are you sure that the woman you're dating is the love of your life and that you want to be with her for the rest of your natural existence? Are you close enough with your mother to talk to her about that? Why does your mother not like your girlfriend? Have they really had the chance to get to know one another?
Whatever the details of the situation, it's always best to be as open as possible to the people you love. Let your mother know just how important this woman is to you and what compromises you both are willing to make to help your mother be happy with the situation.
I've been in a typical situation. My mother is just about the most difficult a mother can get. She's a little racist and closed-minded sometimes...but even she realized that my boyfriend truly did love me and want the best for me, after she got to know him. So she eventually gave us her blessing.
But, like I said, it's an awfully tough situation. Good luck!
2006-12-13 17:11:30 · answer #1 · answered by Krolitza 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You didn't mention you age or age bracket ,,,,, I put your age at something like middle teens ,,,, Your mother brought you into the world that's true and it's commendable that she's taken an interest in your life ,,,, If something of major import arises in your life she should give her advise but where this is concerned ,,,, let you live your own life ,,,,, I know of a situation such as you describe and the mother was definitely overbearing and interfering ,,,,, Her son did as she asked and he was miserable for the rest of his life ,,,, He did eventually get married to someone else and his life was hell ,,,, They wound up divorced with 4 children ,,,,, Broken homes are a very sad situation ,,,, The girl he dropped because of his mothers wishes wound up divorced herself ,,,,, A parent is a parent but they have no right or business sticking their nose in where it doesn't belong ,,,, Both the guy and the girl he was made to break up with wound up settling for second best and as a result were miserable ,,,, A parent can't live their childs life for them and they are wrong if they try to do so ,,,,, So what it boils down to is that I love you mom but my life is my own ,,,, You can't live it for me ,,,,, If this turns out wrong then you can say I told you so but I must be allowed to make my own decisions and mistakes ,,,, Yoda told you this ,,,,,
2006-12-13 17:40:36 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
i dont think u should leave this girl that u love so much because ur mom doesnt like her...ur mom wants what is best for u and what ever makes u happy, but she doesnt realize that this girl does make u happy and probably is the best for u...let ur mom now that, and that she is hurting u by oposing the woman u love... as far as religion, i dont think that religion should be an obstacle for u guys if u both really love each other...u guys will find ways to compromise when the situation comes up...:)
2006-12-13 17:08:17 · answer #3 · answered by →Sasha← 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
The answer is simple. you need to tell your Mom, (no offence) To keep her nose out of where is does not belong!. You and only you will know if this girl is the one for you. Not you Mom. There are a few things in life that you owe to your Mom, but this is NOT one of them. Be Strong and stand up to your Mother!.
2006-12-13 17:05:51 · answer #4 · answered by gord's360 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I dated a guy who's Mom asked him to leave me--she offered him a new car--he got a new car--I got a much better guy. I ran into him a while back, he almost knocked over the girl he was with to say "Hi" to me. I introduced him to my husband and asked him how the car was running. Apparently, it broke down --gotta love Karma!! Not that I hold grudges--but 30+ years later-I love it!!! He's still miserable!!! Hehehehe!
2006-12-13 17:05:55 · answer #5 · answered by fallingstar 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You take her to one side one night shes alone, and you have to speak the truth to her. You tell her Mum, I love you very much as my mother, but I have found something I love and want to date/marry/see I telling you this as I rescept you. I don't want us to fall out, but I want to keep on seeing this girl. Mum I'm afaided that if you don't that we may have a big falling out, and I may deside to move away with her, but I will still love you as a mother." Then you have to work things out be yourself. Btw that religions are you.
2006-12-13 17:06:22 · answer #6 · answered by Mr Hex Vision 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
well, you mentioned religion, so i'm guessing this is a big deal with your relationships. if so, i don't know what to tell you. if not, then go for the girl. you're mom will eventually accept it, or at least always love you. you shouldn't pass up 'the love of your life'.
2006-12-13 17:08:08 · answer #7 · answered by mike h 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
In that situation. Well I'd say to my mom to **** off!!! ( in a polite way of course) becuase it is my life and I love who I want to. Although if you were wrong and she was right be warned she will rub it in your face (that is according to the average parent)
2006-12-13 17:04:49 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I have been married for 30 yrs. and recently my mother told me that she wanted me to divorce my husband. My world feel apart.So you see I kinda know how you feel. talk to youre mother and ask her why? Maybe she just wants to help you. remeber your mother loves you, not sure of mine.
2006-12-13 17:05:26 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
continue with her and on the other side try to convince your mum. let your mum know your gf is very good, polite...
ask for other family's/friends member help.(those who support you)
2006-12-13 17:06:03 · answer #10 · answered by vandoren 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋